Richard i see where your coming from i feel the same it feels like its just me grieving now and to everyone else it done and dusted. I voiced this to my daughters i said he was here for 60 years and all he was giving was a few weeks of sorry doesn’t he deserve more why doesn’t anyone care. I get so annoyed he deserves so much more yes i have him on a pedestal but thats where he belongs and will stay as far as i am concerned. His family didnt show any real emotions now i read their posts on facebook and its like chip never existed. Only my grandson and myself seem to still be grieving chip but then we had honest true pure love for him x
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in Richards defence i dont think he was aiming at anyone on this site. I see where he is coming from and he shouldn’t be judged and his comments are not disgusting its how he feels we all go through so many emotions and anger is a massive one we have to deal with so i am appalled at the reaction he has had from his post where is the support he so desperately needs. Mrs croft why cant he wallow in self pity i know i am. If my chip had died before me he had already told me he wouldn’t be far behind me. So i believe chip would be reacting the same as Richard. Come on people a little understanding please we all are suffering but we all deal with it in our own ways we should support each other no matter what. I sometimes feel that no one is in the same amount of pain as me why because its happening to me. Of course i know you are all in dreadful pain so lets not go at someone who is no coping and has expressed clearly he knows he needs help.
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It clearly states nobody gives a f@@@ doesn’t mean it’s aimed at anybody on this site he could be upset over lack of support off his family; friends Richard hope your feeling a bit better today please remember were all here for you n each other don’t ever ever forget that big hugs xx
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i just think ghe is frustrated there is a few times i have been on looking for help and no one is on but there are times im not on for days aswell we all doing our best
Richard was clearly annoyed that you chatted after he put on a post, so I’m sorry, he was frustrated about that and it was directed at you. He is on the site multiple times mostly every day yet doesn’t engage with you.
We see the situation differently from you, the advice to Richard was for him to show consideration for others as he clearly expects it from you.
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Karie, you have been one of the most supportive towards Richard, with respect you are fairly new to the forum and have been very compassionate towards others so I am not surprised you are defending Richard as it is your nature to be kind. Every single one of us are on here for a reason, we are all suffering pain, loss and fear of the future. I know we all handle things differently and cope in ways that work for us so the last thing you should do is alienate people who are trying to help you. You say ’ in Richards defence I don’t think he was aiming at anyone on this site’ when quite clearly his first sentence was a very sarcastic ‘Thank you everyone tonight for your support’ I have had quite a few private messages which show how others also feel with regard to this. I am not going to argue or fall out with anyone as it is just pettiness with what we are all going through. At the end of the day I was actually defending the people who have been supporting Richard and had it thrown back in their face, but that’s fine I will keep out of anything in future.
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i have lashed out a few times at my daughters because they are close. Some of you have no one to lash out at including Richard. We need to find out why he feels this way. he is looking for 24 hour support which i know is impossible. so to him he feels no one is there when he needs them he probably honestly does fell that way deep down. shouldn’t we accept every emotion that each of us goes through i know i have sometimes wanted to kick out and hit something hurt something
Hi SanW me do you mean x
i am sorry Mrs Colt i dont want to fall out with anyone i need you all. Its just i dont think there isnt a emotion i haven’t felt including anger and i just think he had a bad day. I think we should all make allowances for that. Not one of us has more pain then the other even though we probably feel like we do. I just know its shit and really no one can help heal the wounds but for a moment you can feel a little better just by getting some support. I do wallow in self pity and i am sure at some stage you have all thought why me why us i know i have. Because we feel cheated. I just sympathise thats all i have had a bad two weeks and i feel a little better today. Some people dont have the good days like me ?
You don’t need to find out Karie, you are not counsellors and dealing with your own grief. The site is monitored by Sue Ryders team and they will intervene if they have concern. Richard was offered help but couldn’t connect on line, I’ve used it, it’s not difficult so I can’t understand that.
As I said we are all on this site for the same reason.
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Look at Richards post before last night. No one responded to it. His post last night was put on after you had been chatting.
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counsellors are great but no one can understand more then someone who is going through the same. I just wonder if something happened that day to trigger Richards emotional break down i know we have all supported him a lot and tried our best so what he put can be hurtful. I just wonder why did he react like that. Some of us are stronger then others and Richard is one of the weaker ones i think. i just feel bad for him. I am a week behind him with the lose of Chip. Richard stresses about mondays and this constant counting down the weeks is not helping its as if he waits for the dreaded monday and another week. I thought he had made contact with a counsellor.
Karie, I agree with all you have said I too have been through every emotion. I lost my mum and Husband in the space of three weeks so trust me nobody knows better than me how shit it all is. What I am saying to you is that you are struggling yourself without having someone as needy as Richard clinging on to you and making you feel responsible for him. As Sandra quite rightly said Sue Ryder is monitored and they look out for people they know need help. Also, and I didn’t want to say this but there is a bit of a track record where R is concerned.
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i have messaged you Mrs Colt. i honestly dont want to offend anyone x
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Karie, you’re not offending anyone but it’s worrying for us that you feel you need to understand Richard. We are not counsellors and actually very vulnerable even though we are kindred spirits and can feel someone’s pain. Counselling helps people to find their way out of it, not by telling them how but by helping them find the way to all by themselves. If we embark along those lines we put ourselves at risk.
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The best laugh in all of this is the person who caused it is nowhere to be seen 
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i understand but i was under the impression Richard had started down that road xx
Last seen 9 minutes ago so perhaps he will respond soon.
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Hi I hope I haven’t offended anyone, but when I read your post Richard, it did upset me a bit as I have tried to help and communicate with you.
Hope we can all start again xx
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Hi everyone we are all feeling the strain of losing a loved one however long ago or how recent that loss has been. The lockdown has made life so much more difficult for us all not being able to see friends and family and we are all feeling every lost and upset some more than others Please try to think positive and I know that it is easier said than done but we all need to continue to support each other and try and forgive when some may lash out through being lost and alone. Stay safe. Sending lots of love and hugs to you all. xxx
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