Thank you lovely Cheryl. The story of mum had got me and Dad through some very dark moments. It certainly lifted the unbearable sadness in her last moment. And I know she would have been in fits herself. Lots of love.
However this is Richards thread so I’ll post on our other threads in future.
Oh Cheryl. Yes indeed!! If someone made you smile or even laugh in the midst of all the misery, then you have made such a big step forward.
In the First World War soldiers in the trenches had a cartoon character. ‘Old Bill’. In the newspaper circulated among the troops he cheered so many up. Without that humour how many would have cracked under the awful circumstances they were in? Once again, it’s not a question of putting on a brave face and stoically forcing yourself to smile. No way. But the acceptance that there is still life out there and the pain of grief is shared may help. Thanks Cheryl. Keep smiling, well perhaps only a little bit, but in grief little bits add up to big bits. Take care. A hug. John.
Hi jonathan, I had forgotten about “Old Bill” The troops had to have some relief.
My dad had a sense of humour 2nd to none, whilst he was serving in Italy during WW2 ( he was a gunner), he said to his mate, “if tha finds me stiff at the side of thee, don’t bury me, just a quick rub down, I shall be stiff with fear”
Another time they were waiting for the enemy to attack and his mate, said " Jim, they have started shooting at us, dad said, “Don’t be so daft it is my boot shaking on the base of the gun, I am so scared” He wasn’t too proud to show his fear. 
Hello all. I agree to a certain extent with all of you. However, this thread was started by Gollom who isn’t in ‘this place’ and appeared to be uncomfortable with the humour. He is in the very early days of his grief and I think we should show him some respect and understanding. Nobody enjoys a bit of humour more than me but I am very conscious that we have digressed somewhat from the original theme. Can I suggest that this conversation continues in another thread? Nobody wishes to offend but like SanW, I am concerned for Gollom. Perhaps admin could move the posts to a new thread??? Love and understanding to you all. 
I have removed my post!!!
Bless you Jooles. I feel sure everyone will understand what I’m trying to say because this forum is full of beautiful people 
It’s just difficult to keep track as to what has been said previous, so people tend to just reply to the last few posts. Very tricky sometimes. Xx
I agree Jooles, conversations often go off on a tangent. It’s nobody’s fault. 
Hello everyone,
It looks like there are a couple of different conversations taking place in this thread at the moment, which is veering off from @Gollom’s original topic. Our community guidelines ask that users try to make replies useful and relevant. Obviously, many conversations do change direction organically, and this is normally fine, so long as participants are still finding it helpful.
@Crazy_Kate has kindly started a new thread to share humorous stories, which you can find here: Here it is - the humour thread.
I’ve not moved any of the posts in this conversation, so if anyone would like to continue discussing humour or sharing humorous anecdotes then please do head over to Crazy_Kate’s new thread.
Thank you all.
Eleanor
Yes CK, Yes, I do understand where you are coming from. Yes, we have digressed and I for one do tend to do it. It’s difficult with so many opinions about the different points of view not to digress, but it’s not a good thing. Perhaps we all can take more care in the future. I certainly will. We live and learn. Well, I hope so. Blessings. John.
SORRY jooles, This was mean’t for Crazy Kate. Getting in a muddle. XX
Thanks john.
A hug back to you x
Thank you all for you understanding after Kate responded. It is difficult and when it was clear it was causing upset, there were apologies. But the way the conversations are suggested by the new site and invite you to look, means you do come in at the end and some are very old threads, so unless you scroll right back, it’s easy just to pick up on recent activity. A lesson for us all. The creation of Topic dedicated to sharing the moments of humour, yes, I do share a sense of that, will be welcomed I’m sure.
We do have those moments … pretty much life savers 
Richard please dont deprive yourself of a bit of laughter. at first i felt guilty that i was laughing and chip couldn’t anymore. i watched a film last weekend found myself enjoying it then thought chip will never watch another movie again. i realised he will he will laugh cry and see all new things through my eyes because he will always be with me. I have said good bye to my heart but i have his fair swop i think. I will let him live through me he will travel through me he will see the grandchildren through me i will not let him die. i now chat away to him and involve him in conversations i havent gone mad i have resolved myself to the fact i truly believe chip is still with me. he is there looking after me listening to me and im not going to let him be sad because i am. i wasnt going to do things we planned mow i am because i will still be doing them with chip. dont get me wrong my heart still drops like a brick when i remember. and i break down for no reason or something has triggered it. i say goodnight to him like we always did. i turn to his pic and tell him stuff. i will keep his memory alive
Hi Karie, thanks for your words, but I am finding it very tough like everyone else at the moment, still very early days, and I also talk to Jean all the time, I just miss her so much and it breaks my heart.
Richard x
Good to see you back Richard. You will be missing your lovely Jean, and you keep talking to her. Just have faith that it will get easier to bear.
Hello Richard, it’s good to hear from you. It’s also good that you chat to your Jean. I chat to my husband all the time. I say goodnight to him every night. We do whatever helps us to get through each and every day. Have you tried writing to her? Many of us on this forum keep a journal. I speak to my husband in mine. I tell him everything that’s been going on, what I’ve done that say, who I’ve seen, how I feel and how much I love and miss him. Anything goes in my journal. I realise it’s not for everyone but it brings me great comfort. Take care Richard. Sending you love, strength and understanding xx
Hi Crazy Kate.
This is such a good idea. Thanks for suggesting it. I lost my husband in December and it sounds like it would help me a lot.
Thanks, SanW and Crazy Kate, nice to be chatting again,
Richard x
Patriciann, I can’t tell you how much my journal has helped me and the comfort it has given and still gives. I lost my wonderful husband in June 2017. I’m now on journal number four. I’ve looked back at my earlier journals and my goodness, I can see how far I’ve come. Sometimes I write a page and then other times I write two or even three pages. Anything goes. Patriciann, I hope you get as much from your journal as I do from mine. Sending love xx