Since Monday I have been in the dip of the rollercoaster.
I thought I was starting to slowly rise up out of it.
I had arranged to meet up with a friend this morning and thought I would go.
A few tiny things went wrong before meeting up.
I was ok for most of the time.
Then I was asked if I had come up with a way I was going to get through Christmas.
Believe me this was not my friend being horrible, she was definitely trying to be supportive.
Of course, I started to answer and my voice started quivering and the tears started.
Then when asked about what I do with my days now, that was it.
There I was crying in the cafe of the garden centre.
I recovered and was ok for a while.
Back in the car I just cried, repeating I didn’t want to be without him.
Thankfully I was in a far part of the car park.
When I stopped crying I came home.
In tears again.
This down started on Monday when I was explaining how my husband died .
It is 28 weeks since my lovely husband died and I have not talked about that devastating day for quite a while.
It has brought it all back and I feel like it has just happened.
I miss him so much. He was my world, the love of my life.
Hi Ron
I am so sorry to hear all this, and as others have said, you are absolutely right to pursue a case. It must be shockingly upsetting for you and I am sure everyone here will be completely on your side.
I notice one or two people have given you really good advice and I am sure you will get the best help needed to see you through this added trauma.
Best wishes and lots of love X
I have a response from the hospital, they need copies of probate,will,birth/marriage certificates my ID before they consider releasing her medical records,well they are all done stuck in an envelope ready for posting,so a nice middle finger to you.
Hello Ron
I am very angry for you also.
This is so shocking , you have followed your gut as only a loved one knows.
To have this all written down for you to read confirms what in your loving heart you knew.
They all stick together and have bereaved people having to run around for justice and the
truth.
I am in a similar situation as I have to find some answers and explanations for my Sam.
I have some paper work but I need the rest and I know there is more.
Another post I read says they need the same but
just now couldn’t deal with it.
I feel exactly the same and I trying to piece together the stuff I have so I can send off a
Request for the rest of it.
I know my Sam did not need to die and I believe with every fibre of my being he was not treated
Properly and correctly and a week later just basically had the plug pulled.
I hope I know you will go forward with this
For your dear wife.
I wish you well and offer you all the comfort I could possibly send.
After these posts I would not be surprised to find
there are more of us out there.
Love Doreen x
Thanks Doreen.
I wouldn’t have known any of this without persistence,the buggers ain’t getting away with this,I don’t want money for my wife’s life I want justice.if I win any money will go to Maggies.
Love RonXx
Hi Ron.
I know exactly how you feel.
It’s the truth and accountability we need.
Money won’t get out beautiful loved ones back.
I remind myself of how my handsome blue eyed
Man was and is always to me .
How he looked eleven days later in their “care”
At the time I did ask questions and asked for things to be done.
Please what about a shave his hands are dirty can you wash them ( basic care) nothing medical.
I should have insisted and demanded more even
speaking to a consultant who had seen him before and knew about him .They were not available.It was always someone different and junior
I will forever believe that I let him down.
Comfort and love to all. Doreen. Can’t
You should never ever think you let him down,I bet you did your very best,you should have no recriminations,when I was badly injured the military hospital I was in was like chalk and cheese,I was bathed,shaved,fed and watered good food(even a tipple or two)
That’s how it should be for everyone,I truly despair the direction of this country.
My husband fell in Madeira and broke his hip. He then developed heart and lung complications, ended up with tracheostomy, air repatriated to U.K. Then in intensive care for 2 months but died of sepsis. He couldn’t speak to me for last 3 months of his life. I feel I should have fought harder to save him both in Madeira and UK but I trusted doctors. Just miss him so much
I am willing to bet you fought as hard as you could just like I did,the problem is most nursing staff and doctors don’t care anymore it all boils down pound notes,specialist care is expensive,and we wouldn’t want the CEO not to get his huge pay increase now would we?
Yes I did, only went for weeks holiday and spent 6 weeks in Madeira. The travel insurance company were useless so he spent 6,weeks in public hospital. By the time they agreed to transfer to private hospital it was too late. A week before he died in UK they put him on non resuscitation programme because of c.diff infection but at no time was sepsis mentioned. There was a PM that certified major organ failure/sepsis. The coroner said hospital not at fault, Hopefully your case will be successful
Hi Ron
So sorry to hear this…the NHS along with the rest of this country is sadly broken. Life doesn’t mean anything anymore and the anger for me (I have been on the receiving end of nhs neglect too with my dad’s death), is that they know people are grieving and in an emotional state and hope that nobody pursues anything but not only for our loved one’s but for others in the future we have to go the legal route to ensure this doesn’t happen to anyone else. Every single human being deserves the best and right care, dignity and as peaceful a death as possible. I have seen and heard some shocking cases and one of my biggest fears now is having to end up in hospital. Keep fighting Ron, your wife deserves justice x