Same here. The neighbours had me over last year, and it did help.
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I’m so sorry you’re encountering people like that.
I lost Roger in February and nobody has said that to me
We are grieving and will be for a long long time.
Try to remember that those people have probably never suffered grief. Or if they have they hadn’t loved like we have.
We’re all here for you. We all understand
Love and hugs
Liz x x
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Oh Doreen
No you are not wrong. I’m sure it is what he would want
Sending my hand and love and hugs
Liz x x
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Thanks so much for your kind words. It means alot.
@Dol1 so sorry to hear how you were being introduced. It is hurtful. I don’t know what to say but hugs to you. 
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Hi Doreen,
I can never understand how people can be so insensitive,my mantra has always tried to be engage brain before opening mouth,sadly these days it appears to be the opposite.
Ronxx
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Hi pudding
I remember reading your post about what your neighbour made last Xmas for dinner.
It did sound lovely .
Will you be on your own for Xmas dinner this year.?
Love Doreen x
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Almost certainly apart from my carers.
I was last year. My neighbour bought my plate to me as she had a lot of family with her. I am alone most of the time apart from my carers. I am working hard on my physio so I can get out and get to my local community centre. Family live in Essex, bishops stortford and Holmes chapel. All have children to visit.
Due to my mobility problems even before my husband died I would go out with him. This is where he would have had a better chance of making a new life. He had many Masonic meetings and 2 bowls clubs.
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Don’t worry about anything else but yourself……everyone’s grief is personal to them…there’s no time limits or ways you should or should t behave. Be kind to yourself…take all the time you need to work through this. I expect we will learn to live with it in time, but everyone on here knows how hard it is……
The people who don’t or won’t understand
………just avoid them. Looking after yourself is what is important now.
Sending hugs x
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Heres an idea,why don’t we all hold a cyber Christmas fancy dress party,I can put my gnome suit on,I guess Jane’s will be either her Freddy Mercury outfit or her sequinned thong,Sandra her computer outfit,any other suggestions.?
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I think I can manage the Freddie Mercury outfit plus diamante thong, it is Christmas after all.
Ron, surely you can upgrade the gnome vibe to Santa?
I think Liz has an idea for an inflatable suit, it’s a bit naughty, though!
And I am sure Jo will be planning something Dirty Dancing inspired.
Xx
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Sequins are so last decade, Ron.
Harvey Nicks doesn’t do sequins now.
Xx
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Well I do have the beard,would need some padding though.Xx
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My computer outfit is really boring. Skirt, blouse, jacket. Although when I was really in work mode some of the customers were a bit surprised when I kicked my shoes off, took off my jacket and literally rolled up my sleeves. This is not how consultants are supposed to work or look. All power suits and perfect make up. Definitely not me. Crawling around the floor with a screwdriver changing cabling and I don’t mean the drink.
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Don’t ever be sorry about saying how you are feeling we understand how hard it is. I wasn’t sure how I would feel today as it is three months since Ray passed away, surprisingly I am not feeling too bad, I have had some very bad days but thankfully today isn’t one of them. I hope that in time your bad days will be less, the price we pay for loving so much is the grieving for them. Thinking of you.
Jane
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Saint Trinians does anyone remember them?
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As Churchill (the dog) would say oh yes.xx
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That’s so insensitive. I got that last year, too, people thinking that because it was Christmas, it was somehow compulsory to Enjoy It, that the grief would magically go away. You’re still very early on in this. Look after yourself, and don’t let others make you feel worse than you already do.
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Yes, I do!
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That’s it then,Doreen and Catrin in St Trinians costumes,what a motley bunch so far🤣
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With sparkly hockey sticks?
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