Oh God I know that feeling. 11 weeks for me as well. If only I could see his dear face again, to feel his arms, to hear his voice. So sudden, never said goodbye. I’m just existing
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10 weeks yesterday. It is so hard. I miss him.
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Ironing board and iron gone to charity shop. Iron hardly used. Norman used to iron his white shirts for his Masonic meetings but that was it.
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The swamp has me in its grip again and I am sinking. I have felt ok the past few days and no tears until last night and this morning
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Grab hold of the rope Jane we will pull you up.
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Good morning all I have had some really bad days but hopefully I am getting out of that swamp. Hugs jo xxx
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I am hanging on
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I will help to hold the rope lol. Hugs Jo xxx
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Morning Dot, last year I had to have a operation for vulva cancer and 30 rounds off radio therapy. I am now on 6 monthly check ups and will be for the next 5 years. And if after that i keep getting the all clear i will be discharged.
Sorry you are also feeling down. This journey is awful, I talk constantly to Gra someone out loud sometimes just in my head.
Sending you hugs and hope today you are feeling just a little better. Jo xxx
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Really sorry to hear that, Jo. No wonder you get down in the dumps. Life just isn’t fair. I have got everything crossed for you. But you handle it admirably. I guess we all have to tell ourselves that it isn’t what life throws at us, it’s how we handle it, and you are doing just great.
It’s another miserable wet day here. The deluge at the weekend is still running off the fields and another storm is forecast. Definitely monsoon season. When you said you had got a dog, I thought about doing the same. But the thought of putting me wellies on and taking it for a paddle down my lane made me think again! Perhaps a pet duck would be more practical!
Xx
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Morning jane,
I do get down I have to be honest down and scared all at the same time. Gra was .y support i would never have got through it if it hadnt been for him and his daughter Michele, they stayed with me 24 hrs if one want there the other was as I said before I suffer agoraphobia and found it really difficult but the hospital put me in a side ward so they could stay.
My dog os called Millie she is a yorkshire terrier she gives me a purpose to get up each day.
Mmm now a duck is an intresting idea but can you get a lead to fit to take it for a walk? And can you sit it on your knee to atch tv with you. And please dont get a bath while its in you could get more than you bargain for lol xxx
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A pet duck that’s quackers.
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My sister had a pet duck. She rescued it from a pub garden when it was pestering a drunk man. He whacked it with a tray, she took it home. She really loved it. It hated men in jeans and would attack them. Men not wearing jeans were tolerated, women wearing jeans were tolerated.
It lived in my sister’s garden for years, she sank an old tin bath in the lawn. I used to call it “Lunch” and it would come waddling towards me. One day I told my sister that I had poured a bottle of orange squash into the bath “so that Lunch would taste better”! Dozy bugger believed me!
It died of old age.
Honestly!
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Lol your poor sister or was it the poor duck. How can people be so cruel it was a living thing. I will nevef understand the mentality of some people. Xxx
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Hi all, been dipping in and out of the forum for the last week or so, it really is hard work this grieving journey, I have had a few “good days” and generally a bit more of a calm period, you think you are getting somewhere, often with a guilt trip and then suddenly back down the ladder, it almost seems that during the better times you are carrying forward the sadness that will find a way to the surface at some point.
Ducks! I can highly recommend them, I have 3, at the moment, one is a recovered road traffic collision, one was acquired to keep her company, one (a boy) came from ebay as an unknown variety as an egg, must be kept in overnight, they are lost without a pond, mine have two!, preferably penned during the day as a fox is surely going to have a meal, I speak more quack than I do human language, yesterday I was calling (mimicking) the buzzards overhead and they responded! if someone phones I struggle to answer in the correct language, animals, birds, wildlife and nature as a whole has truly been my saviour and companion during my life and particularly the last 7 months since losing my wife.
Just had a large hail stone storm, some were literally the size of marbles! had to check the ducks but all was well as they were sheltered by some trees.
take care all and battle on.
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‘It seems that during the better times you are carrying forward the sadness that will find a way to the surface at some point’
My experience too. Thats a good way of putting it Swift.
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We have lots of buzzards and red kites here. I am always surprised what wimpy little cries they have considering they are big birds. The magpies and jackdaws sound much more fierce.
My mother in law did a good crow impersonation, she wasn’t even trying. It was just how she was.
Xx
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Lol willow I think most mother in laws are the same . Hugs jo xxxx
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Sending hugs xx
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We had 12 ducklings about 3 years ago. Mother duck dumped them on our pond, stayed around for a couple of days, then buggered off. I managed to keep them alive and fed until they were fully fledged. Then they wouldn’t go! All 12 would take off at dawn, then as the sun was setting, they all came back for their dinner. For months. They absolutely wrecked the pond, ate all my water lilies and marsh marigolds, crapped all over the grass, and trampled my flower bed. Hooligans, the lot of them. But I did love them.
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