Morning Harriet.
There are many hands hanging over the side of the boat to pull you back in,
Lots of things trigger our memories I guess the trick is to control them,I hadn’t found that key yet,I thought I was having a reasonable day yesterday and then bang down again,I survived on ready meals for weeks it’s only recently started to cook again.
One step at a time friends here really do care.
RonXxxxx
I got a cushion made from one of my husband’s favourite jumpers and have it on the bed. A nice small comfort but the tears still come every day. I’ve even put more photos up around the house which has helped me stop scrolling through my phone so much. The pain is so much and feel totally alone without him. Hugs to everyone xx
Everything I do and everywhere I go makes me think of my husband. Yesterday was a good day - I was busy putting up pictures on the wall, something we had discussed together. But then I wanted to discuss them with Jon and reminisce … I did in my head but I cried as well. It is all so lonely …
I have a cushion with Steve’s photo on it and a teddy bear made of his clothes on my bed
I really miss him and it give me comfort at nightb
Hi @hazd
Yes I’m afraid it is all very lonely now.
Even in company you can feel lonely
Thats why this forum is so important.
We all understand and are all here for each other.
Sending a big hug
Liz x x
Good morning everyone
I Just want to say I’m here and I’m thinking of you all.
I know Sunday is a bad day for a lot of you.
Mines a Friday
Sending lots of love, hugs, understanding and strength
Liz x x
I am also getting a cushion and teddy made with some if his favourite things.
Ty Liro i hate Sundays its 21 weeks today aa I am typing this the tears are pouring.
Omg what i would give to go back in time.
Hugs Jo xxx
Morning Liz.
Hope the sun is shining where you are,an expert told me it’s the right time to prune roses,having never done it before and having what looks like a medieval bit of torture kit in my hands off I go,wish me luck.
RonXxxx
Hope you manage to keep your fingers away from the blades. It will be difficult to type on here otherwise.
Xx
Hello Everyone
Ron, please tell us how you get on with your pruning!
Saturdays are particularly difficult for me - I cry inside …
Hugs to everyone
Hazel x
Hi Ron
Yes I’ve got to do mine. I’ve got some buds just about to open, so I’ll let them flower first
Yes please be careful of the secateurs, they can be lethal and sharp, as I’ve found out.
Its the rose you cut not your finger
Have plasters ready
Liz x x
I am do sorry as I am in the same position even after 23 months. No one really can help although they suggest all kinds of things but I am sorry to tell you that for me none work although I try to keep a smiling face for other people even strangers I meet. Trying hard but some days I am so overwhelmed with memories I am paralysed and do nothing except walk my dog who is my saviour and this does help because one has to give them what they need as they do help you. Perhaps getting a rescue dog may help as they need you and they know your pain too:broken_heart:
Now that was an ordeal,no-one told me it’s best to wear gloves.
The neighbours must have thought there was a lunatic in my garden doing some bizarre American Indian trible dance,a constant stream of ooh and ah mixed in with some disturbing expletives,I still have all fingers an thumbs intact but quite a few tiny rivers of blood running down my hands.
Morning everyone
Well I usually come on here with a dose of humour and positivity but for the first time in a while I have ended up in the swamp and need a hug.
My man friend is becoming more demanding and every time I am with him it just makes missing my husband worse, to be honest I feel lost, without a compass.
It takes so much effort when you are alone but equally so much effort in company. I don’t want to live another possible 20+ yrs without someone special in my life but then how can I ever love someone as I did my husband? All I am doing his comparing the 2 of them and it’s opening up the wounds of grieving again. I thought I could move forward (not move on) but clearly I can’t which has thrown me as I don’t know what I actually want any more if that makes sense. Had a good cry this morning to try and release what’s inside of me that needs to come out. This is all so damned hard
It is possible that we thought Ron will realise roses have thorns and will wear gloves but we obviously forgot how bad you are at DIY. Still job done and you still have 4 fingers and a thumb on both hands so count it a success and you will know next time.
There won’t be a next time, my man with a van who cuts the lawn will do it, I’ve learned my lesson😂
I can’t stop sobbing today and really have a lot of thoughts about not being able to go anymore. I feel totally broken
Hi Lyn.
I am so sorry the swamp has dragged you back in,you have been so positive recently and I certainly thought you had made the breakthrough,we are always here for you and always will be.
RonXxx
I’m so sorry you are both so down today.
We’re here with hugs and hands and understanding.
@LynT
I’m so sorry your new relationship isn’t working out.
I suppose we will always be comparing our lost loved ones.
In my case I’m really not interested but I can fully understand how some people need the companionship
I’m only 7 months in and I’m being pursued by a very persistent man at the bereavement club I go to.
I have tried to be polite but I feel a really rude response coming on.
Why is it some people just don’t get it?
Love and hugs and hands
Liz x x
Thanks Ron
I won’t give up but I think I need timeout to reflect on what I want and don’t want xx