Thanks Liz
I think it’s all too soon, although it’s awful being alone, I think I need to be. Thanks for the hugs and hands xx
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Hiya Lyn ,
When You are comparing them to your late partner its to early to move on.
When I met my second husband I knew it was right as I excepted him for him.
Although I never and never will forget my first husband Steve, Like I will never forget Gra.
I send you hugs jo xxx
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I am exactly the same as you Liz,I have no interest in another relationship,once you have experienced perfection there is no second best,we will all have to pull together and get this swamp drained.
RonXxx
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I would gave loved to see your neighbours faces.
Glad you have kept all your fingers lol.
Hugs Jo xxx
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I think they will give me a wide berth for a few days Jo.
Xxxx
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Love comes when you least expect it, well at least it did for Gra and me. We had both lost partners. And then second time was just as true and special. I loved both my husbands equally and i would have missed out on so much love and happiness if I had not met Gra.
Hugs jo xxx
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Lol Ron you do have a brilliant sense of humour 
xxx
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Some people get really lucky and get two bites of the cherry,my perfection left me in April and it would always be second best for me.Xxxx
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Hi Jo
Yes this has made me acutely aware that I am not ready. I didn’t want a relationship, just male companionship but guess it’s not fair on someone to accept that. My man friend is wanting more and I just can’t go there but the thought of being on my own is depressing x
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I understand that Lyn I truly do , and there is nothing wrong of asking your friend to be just that a friend.
Be honest and tell him you are not ready for a full on relationship but enjoy his company.
And if he cares for you he will wait and except you for you if not then he wasnt for you anway.
I always say I want a proper hug from a man but I mean just that a hug. I know I am not ready for anything more.
Hugs Jo xxx
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Bill was the love of my life. He was the one and only person who loved me for me - faults and all. He taught me what real love is and there will never be anyone else for me.
I just needed to say that, which is why I miss him so much. There’s no need for replies ‘cos I know you’ ve all got your own thoughts and grief to cope with.
I’ll try not to inflict this on you again ‘cos you’ ve heard it all before.
Love to all.
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I am not interested either,Ray was my one and only. I used to joke with him that I didn’t have time to train another one. From the age of 20 to 72 he was my one true love.
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Hi Jo
We had this conversation from the very start and I was open with him about not being ready for a relationship but he has started to have feelings (which I don’t have) so it’s not really fair on him and I don’t want to be led into a relationship I am not ready for. It’s so difficult as I liked his company but I am having to step away now because it’s getting me down xx
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Awww bless you Lyn, you do what you heart says is right. Its so easy to get swept along .
Time only can tell if you will ever be ready for anything more than friendships.
Lonilness is a killer. And I look things to fill that void. But I know in my heart I am not ready and dont know if I ever will be to love another. Xxx
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Loneliness is a killer Jo, I have never been alone before and to find myself alone now at 65 is just so sad. I’m trying and will continue to try and fill that void but like you don’t know if I will ever be ready to love another. So true xx
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I 59 Lyn like you never been alone before. When I lost my first husband my son was still at home.
Now i am here all alone I hate it with a passion no one to have that ideal chat with.
Even sitting in silence feeling there is still someone there.
How long is it since you lost your husband?
I have a friend who met and married her 2nd husband within 6 months of losing her first and she is truly happy.
We are all different nothing is right or wrong we all just want happiness and to feel loved and wanted.
Hugs Jo xxx
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I have had three major disasters in my life none of which I can get back,the first was losing my mum,the second was having to retire from the job I absolutely loved at 42,and the biggest by a long way was losing my wife,I guess coming to terms is a highly misused phrase.Xxxxx
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My husband died 19mths ago Jo.
Yes we are all different in how we get through. I guess half this battle now is actually knowing what we want for our future happiness. I’m stuck on this one because I’m currently clueless but I retire in March so I am hoping I then have the time to start building the next phase of my life. Being at work I only have weekends to do or plan anything. Winter is also a bad time for being alone so need to get through this too xx
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Hiya Lyn, mine is only 21 weeks today, i cant work due to agrophobia and disabilities I spend a great deal of time aline.
Its hard and lonely i miss the company of others. Like many others i am dreading winter. But I know I have no choice but to find away through this.
I love it when my daughter and grandaughter are here but I hate it when they go home and its just me and Millie( dog) here.
We are human we where not meant to be alone.
Hugs jo xxx
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We will all find our happiness one day I hope.till thenvwe hold on and try and move foward.
Hugs Jo xxx
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