I wish you all lived closer. You could all come round and help me dispose of the chocolate cake. But you have to help with the washing up if you want coffee as well.
Xx
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Thank you, I rarely reach out to anyone so nice to have some support. I have walked away to take time out to process my feelings. I could never love anyone like I did my husband and although I have love in my heart, I am not ready to give it to someone else yet. 19mths later I thought I was doing ok and still am in lots of ways but grief never quite let’s go x
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Hi Lyn,
So sorry you are feeling low. When my first husband died I joined a widows group and made many friends, some of whom I still see. Quite a few remarried over the last 20 years, mostly to fellow widowers. That includes me, although I sadly lost my second husband in May. Even though we both continued to love and honour our first partners, it is actually quite hard to compete with a ghost. Our lost partners seem to take on something like sainthood because we loved them so much and lost them too soon. We remember them as being perfect and perfection is difficult to live up to. My first husband was a hard act to follow, and I had to remind myself that he was human, with faults, the same as everybody else.
I was lucky enough to find someone I could and did love just as much. I hope my second husband felt equally lucky. But we both worked hard at not trying to just replicate our first marriages.
Before I met him I did dip my toes in the water with another widower, but he turned out to be a dick, so I soon gave him the elbow!
So, if you really want a new relationship, don’t give up just because it isn’t working this time.
Xx
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I think in many aspects you are right,I can only speak for myself but if I was inclined to start again and allowing for my loss to dissipate,I would be sat in a riser recliner drooling,incontinent,and being fed jelly by a bored uncaring nurse in a dingy nursing home,but I do understand others with many years ahead sometimes decades wanting to find love again.
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Well, you miserable old sod!
I have no intention of being fed jelly by a bored nurse. If I am going to drool it will be because I am going to be fed strawberries and Cava by a handsome young man that looks like a young Elvis Presley. Incontinence is not on my radar.
Xx
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I am with you on that one willow but mine would be a young Patrick swayzie. He could peal and feed me grapes.
Hugs Jo xxx
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Yep, I wouldn’t kick Patrick out of my bed either.
Xx
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Nor me i would gladly be his baby lol xxx
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Well if that voluptuous 18 yr old blonde is offering I will check myself in tomorrow.
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I wouldn’t sit in the corner, either!
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Is that the same guy who died five years ago.
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Oh, go on then. But not if you’re going to piddle. I don’t have jelly, you will have to eat chocolate cake.
Xx
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Ffs, Ron! Trust you to ruin the illusion!
We prefer to remember Patrick dirty dancing!
Always someone to burst the bubble, Jo.
Xx
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I will eat anything from a voluptuous 18 year old blonde,as long as she doesn’t expect anything else raising a smile is now my best attribute.
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Oooh! You are awful!
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I think Ron needs more chocolate cake willow, he sure knows hiw to spoil the illusion, i was sat dreaming about patrick. And puff in a second Ron as ruined it. Lol xxx
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Lol a smile is better then nothing 
xx
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I think Ron needs a cold shower, Jo.
Or some spoon fed jelly from a miserable nurse in a dingy care home.
Let us leave him to dribble and piddle.
We will go and dirty dance. You can have Patrick, I will have a young Elvis.
Sweet dreams. Xx
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Sweet dreams willow chat tomorrow xxx
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There are no answers 
I just want to be with my Bill. I hate this life and no, I won’t do anything silly, that would be wrong, but I have no-one any more. Bill was my reason for living, he was my life. Now I have no reason to do anything. No-one needs me any more. I suppose it sounds as if I’m feeling sorry for myself and I guess I may be but there is no-one else.
Monday morning 
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