The joking is undoubtedly frivolous, but when we are all coping with so much pain it is sometimes a welcome distraction, reminding us that we can still manage to smile occasionally.
Whether we laugh or cry, the fact remains that we have all lost someone we loved dearly.
Like everyone, I have cried endless tears, wailed, bargained with God, and all the other things we do. It made no difference at all.
When I visit this site and chat to all my new cyber friends, I feel better, I feel normal in a world that just carries on as if nothing has happened. You get me, and I get you. I feel safe here. And when the chat gets a little bit lighthearted it is a relief. I start to remember that life is worth living, that I can still laugh. It doesn’t mean that I am over it. It isn’t disrespectful. It is helping me survive.
So, here’s to having a laugh.
Xx
I agree with you @Willow112, there have been days when I have been at rock bottom and I come on here and read the banter posts and I feel so much better. I don’t always join in but they do lighten the mood. I also know I can say when the swamp is pulling me down I always get thrown a life line. So keep up the banter please.
Me too Willow
Like you , I’ve begged and pleaded and bargained with God. Nothing works.
Being on here we all understand and keep each other going.
Love and hugs
Liz x x
That man, my husband, Jeremy, spent 16 years of his life trying to make me happy, and succeeding. He would be very disappointed if I give in now and spend the rest of my life crying.
Besides, somebody has to keep @Ron11 under control.
Xx
I couldn’t have put it better myself.
Your wisdom will help us all through
X x
Lol Willow you task is no mean feast, are you up for such a big challenge. You know how Ron misbehaves xxx
I’m sure she’s capable of keeping us all in check if need be Jo 
Liz x x
I pop out for some supplies and come back and it’s pile on Ron day again,my pet lip is quivering.
She definitely as a strong personality. Lol xxx
Watch you dont trip over it lol xxx
You should be so,lucky
That is an excellent way of putting it
I feel normal.
I had never thought of it that way.
Thank you so much for that!
Love and hugs 
xx
Well time to uncross your fingers,
I have brought Tony the cat home 
It was more or less as I expected due to his age, 20+ (estimated) and his heart problems.
His swelling is because of poor teeth but due to his heart he cannot have them out as he would have to have a general anaesthetic.
Thank you all so much for being here with me.
Much love and many big hugs,
Rose 
xxx
Mbg
So sorry to hear all you have gone thru. Is there any way you can relay a message to your foster children or get a message to them? If not, try your hardest not to beat yourself up as social services caused this separation…not you. Please do look after yourself and be kind to yourself. You are under alot of emotions. Please keep sharing or at least reading on this forum to get support.
Hugs to you
One of our cats had a thyroid problem. Options were op and pills for rest of life or radio therapy. Early days of this treatment. Had to take him to Canterbury where he was made radioactive. We then had to leave him until he was not radioactive. It worked but was VERY expensive. I was getting very large quarterly bonuses at the time and joked that whilst my colleagues spent theirs on cruises and big teles I spent mine on a radioactive cat. Well worth it.
So glad he has more time with you.
So pleased for you
Love and hugs
Liz x x
Dear rose
I am thinking of you and your wonderful precious cat.
I sincerely hope it is something that the vet
can provide treatment for.
I know how worried you are and I am sending
all my love and support.
Doreen x
Seeing as Willow(Jane) doing her “ladies that lunch” I sneaked in to her kitchen and nicked a big slice of choccy cake,I did however leave her a bottle of ronginnery.
It’s great that you’re all able to join on the banter. I wish I could but I just can’t do it.
Yes, you’re right - life has to go on - what choice do we have.
This is going to sound silly. Bill was all I had. He was everything to me. Now I feel I’ve got nothing and no-one. I’ve got a lovely house with some lovely things that we bought between us but without him to share them what do they mean.
Sounds like I feel sorry for myself and I don’t mean to 'cos in many ways I’m lucky - just doesn’t feel like it.
Don’t mean to put a dampener on your posts. I’ve got nowhere else to offload - sorry 
Don’t be sorry for offloading, we all need to do it sometime. All of us are in the same boat but some need to paddle harder, we are here to help each other stay afloat. I have to believe it will get easier or I couldn’t get through another day. Sending you love to help you get through.