Oh so sorry @Woolly
There’s a lot of us in the swamp today
Love and hugs
Liz X x
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I think I am going to need a lot of rope today.
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Good job you’re not having a bad day too
X x
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Only if I have some people hanging on my rope.
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There are plenty hanging on today
I’ve started to come up a bit so I’ll be able to help you
X x
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Grief is a sneaky bugger, isn’t it? We can’t outrun it, it just ambushes us when we least expect it. It doesn’t follow the rules at all, even when we try to do the things we are supposed to. Get closure, make friends, join classes, do voluntary work.
The most mystifying advice for me is “Lean into your grief”.
I have no idea what that means. How ? The bugger keeps moving around. One minute it’s in the radio, the next it’s in the freezer.
Xx
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Sounds very American. Hate these terms like “thinking outside the box” and “ flying an idea up the flagpole”. If we lean into our grief we would all by lying face down in the floor and I for one couldn’t get up without the help of a couple of strong men. Maybe an excuse to call the fire brigade again.
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I think we were all lying face down in the swamp yesterday.
Come on, own up, who has been leaning on the Grief, making it unstable?
Xx
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I did get really cross with grief and shouted at it to go away
Do you think thats leaning?
X x
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We will all shout together, there are plenty of us.
Xx
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Oh I do hope so I find it does help to talk with people going through the same thing. It’s a bit like being on here but with faces.
I’ve already made 2 really nice friends so hopefully you will meet people that you click with.
I also had trouble with some idiot pursuing me like a love sick puppy for heavens sake.
I’m recently widowed, grieving terribly and he seemed to think I needed a new man in my life.
I think he’s got the message
I wouldn’t mind but I’m nothing special, just ordinary, just me.
Good luck I hope you find some connections
Love and hugs
Liz x x
Ps, saying how you’re feeling is not droning on. We all understand x x
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Yeah maybe that would work.
It took no notice of me
X x
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We would probably get a noise complaint.
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I don’t get excited about anything. I feel like I am two people, one who puts on a brace face for when I am with people that don’t understand which is alot!! Then the real me that is grieving and feels like I am stuck…just missing my husband every day. But what’s also hard is the huge loss, not just him but our future, how I wanted my life etc.
I never want another partner because he was the love of my life.
I am still unwell which doesn’t help.
Anyway grateful for this forum. 
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That sounds like a good idea.
Can’t bear being in the mire.
Down today again, what’s new.
Love Doreenx
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Im 22 months wish i could get on with life but it isnt that easy for most of us , we had been together since ages 17 he died at age 59 so how do i live my life counting blessing ? Today i have broke down crying yet again after going for coffee with 2 friends hearing about all holiday plans they got etc im glad for them but it hurts because we would have been going with them , i still cry most days miss him so much
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It was a year yesterday. Hard to believe so much time has passed.
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Think I can understand you 2hard2bear. My Bill was also the love of my life. He was everything to me and now there’s no-one.
I know some won’t agree with me when I say I’ve got nothing to look forward to.
My future was with Bill. Everything we had and everything we were going to try and do. Now that’s all gone and things don’t mean anything any more.
Like you, I think I’m stuck. I miss him more and more every day. Tears come so easily. I just feel I can’t carry on but can’t do anything about it.
Bill probably wouldn’t want me to be like this but I really can’t help it. I love and miss him so much 
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I hate this swamp with a passion - it has pulled me in and is holding fast. I have been trying to deal with financial admin and it is beyond sad …. I have to answer the same questions and give the same information - all the while just falling apart inside. I miss my husband so much ….
Hugs to everyone
Hazel
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Ditto to how you are feeling. I do have moments of joy when I speak with my girlfriends I grew up with but it’s only momentary. I get envious to hear their plans with their husbands and futures. I make plans to see people but space them out so I can recover.
We all just need to do individually what feels right for us at any given moment.
@hazd I hear you about the paperwork. Try to think each quest, page you finish is a step closer to when you are done. It’s not easy. Take breaks.
Xx
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