Hi lonelydel, I read your description of feelings and felt I wanted to share with you someone that my Husband followed long before he and I ever expected to experience cancer and loss.
You may have heard of him already, it’s just that you struck me as maybe creative. Gary Scribbler - he lost his wife and was left with their young children in 2017, he sketches. This is just a thought, I know that it won’t take the pain away x
First Christmas for me too. I also felt like I couldn’t go on, but couldn’t bear to leave my children also . Life will never be the same again .
A single dad’s story.
You Are Not Alone in Grief
As a single dad living with great loss, I understand the depths of sorrow, pain, and loneliness. I’ve walked through those dark days, and I know how heavy the burden can be. Like you, I have struggled with grief, depression, and heartbreak.
I can’t change your circumstances or offer you a magical cure for the pain you’re feeling. I wish I could wave a wand or hand you a potion that would take it all away—but life doesn’t work that way. What I can offer is my love, my hugs, and my words of encouragement.
You are not alone.
This community of people—others who have suffered loss and endured heartbreak—stands with you. We all understand what it’s like to feel broken, to wrestle with despair, to wake up each morning and simply put one foot in front of the other.
Here’s what I’ve learned on this journey: every minute of every day that passes is a step forward. It may not feel like progress, but it is. Time, as slow and unyielding as it may seem, has a way of softening the edges of grief.
I won’t pretend that healing happens overnight. It doesn’t. But with time, you may find moments of peace, glimpses of joy, and a renewed sense of hope.
Please know that you are stronger than you realize. You are surviving, minute by minute, day by day. And in your survival, you are proving to yourself—and to the world—that love and resilience can carry you through even the darkest of times.
Sending you love, hope, and the determination to keep moving forward.
— Fellow Survivors
Hi how are you feeling today.
Hi how are you getting on.
There’s snow 
.
What’s your plan for today.
Sending you a hug 
and love.
I miss snow we don’t get it down South - very rarely, but when it’s here great to take the kids out sledging, maybe you could do that for stress relief for all of you.
Not a good day today had two in a row, so hoping tommorrow gives me more energy to cope, still motivated but lifeless doing things, tired, sick of food forcing myself to go through the motions.
But sending positive thoughts, I may wake up tommorrow with energy and happy for an hour or two who knows.
Sending hugs to all struggling.
Day by day
Hour by hour🔋
I feel exactly the same lost my husband in November. We have children also . If anything I find people fade now, I just feel alone and miss him so much and don’t see the point anymore. But know he would want me to carry on for the kids, so I am doing. I also get annoyed people telling me to pull myself together. Are married with their partner. Have no idea about the utter devastation it causes.
It’s not just devastation, your right to feel how you do, pressure from everyone close is a real problem, it isolates you even more, with lack of understanding (just trying to help) then you feel guilty.
YAWN
Look after you first then your children, say what you feel you have a long time to grieve, move forward step by step.
Sending hugs 
Hi.
Thanks for the words of support.
I feel drained after the Christmas and new year period.
It’s more tiering putting on a smile 
when you feel so dead inside.
Congratulations for making it through and continuing down the road.
Lots of love and hugs 
.
I wish you a happy minutes a happy day or a happy week… hopefully a few happy minutes…
Lots of love…
Keep going we are all doing amazing just getting out of bed . Carrying on with what life throws at us . Thank you lots of love
I’m Ten weeks after losing husband and still not feeling any better if anything I feel worse getting up is an achievement then I just through the sad motions of forcing food down me in an empty house 
does anyone else feel like this?
Yes everyone that’s responded have similar feelings and plenty of pain and suffering from anyone that’s had a loss…
Lots of love
It will be 24 weeks tomorrow and I feel deflated. No motivation, total fatigue. I was better at week 14. This is the saddest rollercoaster I have ever been on. I have cleaned, sorted, given away. I was on a mission. That mission is on hold at the moment. I make food for energy. I have lost over 3 stone. I needed it, but I need to be relatively healthy too. I have 4 dogs, they keep me going. Take care of yourself
I know what you mean about the energy I’m just drained, take care I’m glad the dogs are good company for you
My hubby, my soulmate, my world and the girls dad passed 9 days ago, 30th December. I want to be with him, I pray day & night to hubby & god that they will come and take me. I can’t do this without him. I love my girls and I know hubby would want me to be strong for them but my spirit, soul, is shattered, my heart physically hurts, I just can’t imagine a tomorrow where he isn’t with me, I pray every moment that my heart will give up. We lost our hubbys dad in 2021 and my mum in 2023 now my hubby I just can’t do it. I want to be with him so badly 
I really feel for you, don’t give in please, it’s frightening and overwhelming when you love this much, I can’t imagine never seeing my husband again my soul mate my every hour everyday. It’s so hard. His parents past in 21 and 22 and then I had a heart attack in 23, then my husband died in October 24, it’s all been such loss I do sympathise, but talk to Samaritans I’ve used them twice at my lowest. Your girls need you, I’m writing this from A and E and with suspected heart attack and believe me I don’t want to live life without my husband but I want to honour his memory and continue for our children, I’m 56 he was only 53. I hope you can take a step at a time a day at a time.
Sendings hugs
Julie
I felt exactly the same it is awful. I rang samaritans once , and family said how I felt . Please reach out ,It is so awful I’m so so sorry. That awful feeling had passed as I think of how the children would feel. But I still felt like that at the time regardless and it’s awful and frightening . Big hugs
Thank you, I know its very early days , I cried everyday for two months. Now it’s numbness, depression I joined the good grief Trust who help you understand how your feeling, but also book in counselling now as Health In Mind and Cruse have waiting lists, even if you think you don’t want to you can always cancel later.
It’s a place none of us want to be, but your not alone on here.
I’ve set up Sue Ryder text messages too which helped.
And I talk out loud to my husband everyday which helped me a little.
Take Care of you x
The Void in my life, I suffer pain every minute of every day.
I held your hand, once warm and strong,
But now you’re gone, where do I belong?
The echoes of your laughter fade,
A shadow falls where light once played.
The days stretch long, the nights are cruel,
Grief’s silent weight, a merciless rule.
I reach for you in empty air,
To find only memories lingering there.
Your smile, your voice, a fleeting trace,
The love we shared, time can’t erase.
But loss has carved a hollow space,
Where dreams collapse and tears embrace.
The world goes on, a spinning wheel,
While I’m trapped within the ache I feel.
How does one mend a heart so torn,
When hope itself seems bruised and worn?
Yet in the quiet, your whispers stay,
Guiding me gently through each gray day.
Though you’ve left, your love remains,
A balm for my soul amidst the pains.
So I carry on, though broken, bent,
With the memory of a life well-spent.
For even in sorrow, your light will shine,
Forever in my heart, always divine.
Hello @BrokenDoll,
I’m so sorry to hear about your hubby. It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start.
We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:
https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide
There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)
Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.
Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
I hope that you and anyone else who is struggling with thoughts of not wanting to go on find these resources helpful. You are important and deserve care and support.
@Julie333, I really hope you’re okay and being looked after too.
Take care,
Seaneen