@PaulineM1 i hate the thoughts of her slagging me off to people, everyone says to blank that out cos she doesn’t know me and her words are irrelevant but I still hate the fact she’s told lies!! Like when it first happened she had called me a lot of names like b@5tard etc cos I was “this girl” who had just came on scene , i ignored her when she said these things and cos she got no reaction she told someone I threatened her, it was her who had threatened me but she had told lies To people to get sympathy, and these people will actually believe her!! When it was her who was abusive 
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Ang honestly dont even think abt the woman.
I was with my husband 30 years & as iv said his 2 sisters ignored me ever since his funeral. I was very hurt & couldent understanding why.
But now i laugh & think what a shame we couldent talk abt Oliver.
Their loss.
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@PaulineM1 i will have to try and blank her out, I just want everyone she’s lied to know that it was her who threatened me and said and did awful things that night but I don’t think anyone cares enough how can people be so vile!! I’m back to work next week and I’m dreading that too! Knowing he won’t be waiting for me in the car! Isn’t life strange and people even stranger 
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Ang nowt queerer than folk, & its good u going bk 2 work.
People know what a nasty embittered woman micks mother is, & she proved that by not having u @ his funeral.
Do u know any of micks friends?
That know how unkindly u have been treated.
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Mick had a lot of friends but one proper good friend from childhood who I’ve been keeping in touch with, he said the mother has always been like that and she’s a disgrace, she told Him she didn’t want him to speak to me but he took no notice of her, he said mick wouldn’t want me ignored and pushed out, he can’t believe the way she’s went on
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Ang how long was u with mick ?
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Nearly 4yr but knew him for over 20yr, devastated we didn’t have longer
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if you have access to his social media then i would shut them down, so she cant get onto them, or delete her as a friend on them, block her, there are sites online where you can open a memorial for a person. as for the flowers is there anywhere else you can put them in the cemetary so she cant do this. mick knows you loved him and who the flowers are for, he will understand.
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This behaviour is the last thing you need.
I’ve read that anger about losing someone can be misdirected. She may be taking out her anger on you which of course is unacceptable. She may also be having to face the fact that her son felt unable to tell her about you.It’s pretty significant he felt it was easier not to tell her or that he couldn’t face her reaction if she knew.So this is not a straightforward mother son relationship she’s grieving for.
Her issues or complexities are not your responsibility or problem.
Easily said I know, but concentrate on you and your health and the love you shared and still feel for him.
If she has complicated grief issues to deal with let her get on with it because attempts at contact will result in you being some sort of punch bag. I’m sure your partner wouldn’t have wanted that.
Go to the grave,talk to him but I wouldn’t take flowers, at least not now- it will only cause you more pain.
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Ang5. I set my gorgeous beautiful late wife sues Facebook page to remembering after someone tried to hack it.i would suggest trying this .i can’t believe how she is behaving. Also if she is posting anything inflammatory then she could be charged for malicious communications xx
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Agree with @Martyn2 - memorialize the page, if you have admin rights.
I would also remove the mother as a friend, if she is - not to be vindictive esp, but because she will post on his memorial page, and that’s the last place you want her spreading poison.
The page needs to be for tributes to honour him and his legacy
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Hi everyone, the mother has micks
Phone and access to his social medias so she had blocked me from his accounts a few weeks back, she hadn’t got social medias but is on micks accounts quite regularly, it’s quite shocking behaviour, so I can’t see any of his pics or anything now, good job I had the sense to screen shot the ones I wanted as I knew she had his phone! My flowers were still on his grave yesterday so she hasn’t been since I went on Tuesday, no doubt they’ll be gone by Monday though
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Did he make her administrator on his Facebook account or are you administrator?
If you’re administrator and have logon details, you can refriend yourself and memorialize the page.
Once the page is memorialized, access is limited and only existing friends at that time will be there. This can’t be changed
Administrator can monitor and control/delete inappropriate posts on the memorial page, but apart from that it is very limited
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I wasn’t admin and neither is she, she’s just on his phone reading all his private things and going on his Facebook etc, as mick, people can see his name is active online but it’s her, it’s disrespectful I think and with me being blocked I can’t see anything, I’m not sure there’s anything I can do is there?
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Well not really if he didn’t give anyone admin rights or name a legacy contact.
You can contact Facebook to memorialize the account - you will need to provide death certificate - but if they force the account into memorialized status and you’ve been unfriended, you will not be able to view or see anything on the account again as it is removed from public profile.
I agree, it’s very disrespectful to keep account active as if he is still alive
If you have username and password, you can access the account to refriend yourself and see if anyone else who he would’ve have wanted to have access to post tributes are friended, before contacting Facebook.
If you do have access and password, you can change the password and logout all devices and relog in, which will stop her being able to use the account as if he is still alive, posting as if she is him
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I was thinking about attempting to log jnto
His account as I know his email but I wouldn’t know his password, I’m just worried she gets an email to say someone’s trying to change password 
she will have death certificate as his next of kin, she’s msgd a few people by accident on his accounts, just jumbled up letters etc but it’s still alarming for people to get a notification from “mick” I might try and attempt a log in later, I just wouldn’t know where to start with his password, I knew the code to access his phone and I stupidly gave his mother it on that night as she wanted to contact his friends!! I could kick myself knowing I’d gave her his phone code but she would of guessed it eventually was his sons date of birth!
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Ang it must be so upsetting for. U can report her 2 facebook.
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Very good answer, as the mother cant stop ang going 2 the grave.
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Would they not ask for proof or anything if I reported her? I’ve just tried to log in but I don’t know password, wouldn’t know where to start
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Ang im sure they wld do something abt it as it is upsetting you. Worth a try, explain mick was yr partner.
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