What a completely insensitive moron! Im so sorry you had to deal with that. Please speak to your HR dept/person - they need to know what happened. And dont let one completely insensitive person doubt your ability to return to work. Take some time out today and see how you feel once the adrenaline has settled down. Sending hugs your way 
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I am so sorry, that is awful. I have no words. Sending hugs
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Thank you all for your kind words
I was livid ! Work have been in touch and apologised and totally get me losing it and walking out . They are paying me for the rest of the day wanting me to return tomorrow
The clown as been spoken to about it and his sorry apparently
I said to my boss last week I know people are gonna say they are sorry as it’s my first day back but try and be normal around me or it will just upset me,
Hope your all having a good a Monday as possible so far x
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Good that your work was supportive! But what a jerk, that was just mean. 
Try to forget about it and rest up for tomorrow.
Good that your work got intouch with you and that the other person has been spoken to, maybe they’ll have a bit more tact now when talking they may even come and apologise to you face to face let it pass and start a new day tomorrow x
@Peterb I’m Caroline, I just signed up to this site today. My mum passed after a short illness at the end of November. I’m feeling a little lost in this strange new world. I’ve been struggling to get my head round the fact that it’s ok to be on the journey of grief in my own way. This poem put a little perspective into the way I’m feeling so thank you for sharing such lovely words 
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Sorry to hear that, ive been off 4 months now and that and other insensitive things is what iam avoiding i will go back when iam ready take care and look after yourself
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Hey everyone. I’m Caroline, I’m new to the site, having lost my mum in November. She was ill for a short time but it was quite aggressive and we barely had a chance to get our heads round the fact she was sick before she passed.
I returned to work last week (‘light duties’ let’s say) with a need for some routine. I’m going stir crazy just sat at home trying to fill the time with nothing. I felt work would help but today - not so much. My job is primarily customer facing which can be challenging enough, but right now it’s just too much, so I’m here, reaching out and joining you all today, if that’s ok.
I sleep but I’m tired, I’m calm but I’m frustrated even angry, I cry, I’m numb. Having read through a lot of the messages I see you’re experiencing similar feelings and many challenges in addition to your losses. I’m sorry to you all and genuinely feel your pain x
I just wanted to post and be part of a community that understands x
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Hi Caroline I’m Lisa I lost my mum in Oct 12 weeks yesterday and my grief is unbearable at times i don’t sleep, i thought I was turning a corner and Christmas and New Year just sent me spiraling right back to the beginning I’m constantly in tears I was due back at work this week I can’t face it my doctor has signed me off for another month, I’ve also been taking medication as I was having panic attacks with anxiety I don’t want to get up of a morning but have to as I have 2 children who need me and a dad who’s 91 and now by himself your in the right place just talk there is someone always listening no one judges, we are all here together supporting one another xx
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It’s going ok @Lisa_L51. The colleagues at the school I am at today are lovely. Feel good about my work proposal too after hearing the principals talk.
My colleagues have said that I should take someone with me to the meeting on Wednesday, just so I have someone who can hear what is being said and for moral support.
How are you doing today? X
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Hi @Caroline40,
I am so sorry for your loss. My mom died on 30th August. Grief is an unbearable pain and we are all on our own journey. It’s hard to begin to navigate in this new world without our mom.
We support each other here.
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Hi and welcome, though I’m so sorry you need to be here and for your loss. I lost my dad and it happened fairly quickly too, so I still have a hard time getting my head around it. This is a good place to talk about all those conflicting emotions we feel.
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Talking about conflicting emotions. Today I can barely breathe through the pain. Living alone while trying to cope with this is not making it better either. 
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hello caroline, i’m sorry for the loss of your dear mum. it’s ok to feel lost and out of sorts. when we’re dealing with a loss of this magnitude everything pales in comparison. please post your thoughts and concerns on this forum; there are many wonderful people here who will offer their own perspectives in how to navigate this new world without our loved ones. my heart goes out to you.
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Hi Caroline
Deeply sorry to hear of the loss of your mum , I think I speak for everyone on here when I say we feel your pain and understand what you are going through
I have found this site a massive help during the loss of my mum and everyone is lovely and happy to listen and help you through the most difficulties of times x
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I am feeling their air of calm at the moment. Maybe it’s because I survived Christmas?
Work was ok, I was at the nice school. This calmness feels so strange and a different feeling. The last few months my head has been chaos.
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I’m glad your day went ok they are right you should have someone with you, especially when your not in the right headspace I’m feeling quite emotional today didn’t sleep much well about an hour at 6am this morning when alarm was due too go off I just couldn’t sleep felt quite wrestless x
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Sleep is so important, I have been able to recoup some sleep a little over the last week which has helped I think.
I hope you start to get some proper rest soon @Lisa_L51
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Oh Lucy 
I’m so very sorry to hear this. I hope that you find your peace with it all. Very difficult with children and an elderly father to care for. Take comfort in the fact you’re doing incredibly well and trying hard each day x
Have you tried guided meditation or yoga perhaps? I’ve found when my mind is racing that helps a little bit.
Thank you for your kind words 
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