Think he needs to get his head out of the clouds and listen to you becca and make sure he hears what your saying to him x
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I agree. He was like it with our Grandad. He died in 2013 and me & my husband were visiting him as we often did. This particular night the nurse talked to me to basically say he was on palliative care. That was such a hard conversation. I had to phone my mom and then my brother to tell them. I told my brother he needed to go and see him the next day. But he didn’t, he bottled it. He can’t cope with it.
On the day my grandad died, my mom, me , brother & sister in law were there. He had died before we got there. I had to sort it all out at the hospital. It was so hard.
I have to be strong for everyone and I really struggle on a daily basis. If i didn’t take my medications i wouldn’t be able to get out of bed.
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I never gained weight on anti-depressants. Not that it means you won’t, but it isn’t a given. Sounds good to have a proper discussion with your doctor and a follow-up is a must.
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Been awake since 4.30 and I can’t get this song out of my head, don’t normally listen to Ed Sheeran but this song had me in tears.
It hit like a train, I ran out of words
I got nothin’ to say, everything hurts
And I know love leads to pain
But memories serve our sweetest refrain, mm
The waves came tumblin’ down
As you float away, I’m reachin’ for ya
To tell me how
How my life goes on with you gone
I suppose I’ll sink like a stone
If you leave me now
Oh, the storms will roll
Easy come, hard go
Then life goes on
I miss the flames, the heated reserve
Oh, I’d remember the way that you put me first
What a heart wrenching shame that you’ll never know
Just like tears in the rain, mm
A constant grey in the clouds
When I hear your name, I think of love
So tell me how
How my life goes on with you gone
I suppose I’ll sink like a stone
If you leave me now
Oh, the storms will roll
Easy come, hard go
Then life goes on
Ay-yeah, life goes on
Ay-yeah-yeah
I watched the sun setting down
I am so afraid, I need you now
To tell me how
How my life goes on with you gone
I suppose I’ll sink like a stone
If you leave me now
Oh, the storms will roll
Easy come, hard go
Then life goes on
Easy come, hard go
Then life goes on
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That song sums it all up. Songs have a powerful way of helping us to connect with our feelings. I listened to so many over Christmas and still do.
I have not slept well & feel so tired. I hope you have a restful day.
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No rest for me today, dogs vet check, dad’s cleaning, food shopping, then kids want to go pictures tonight, then tomorrow is catch up with my own house looks like a tornado hit it x
Write down everything you need to do this weekend. Then tick it off, you’ll feel a sense of achievement.
Take time to rest in between, even if it is just 10 mins. Get your girls to do a little job.
Enjoy the cinema. It’s a couple of hours to escape everything.
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Yeah I want to go see the wonka movie so dragging the kids along 
I’ll be fine I’m focused what needs doing youngest is going to help me as she wanted stuff off Amazon so she said she’d earn it by helping x
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I really want to see that film. Just haven’t got round to it.
My kids are just lazy! They need to step up as I can’t do it all.
Sat listening to music and thinking about my mom. I feel so rubbish today. I miss her so much. I find the weekends really hard. I just want talk to her. We’re all going to my dad’s for tea. Just another reminder that she isn’t here 
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I listen to an Ed Sheeran song called ‘Visiting hours’, it talks about heaven having visiting hours. Just to give us 5 more minutes.
I feel worse at the weekends, I think I just go in auto pilot during the week as I have to get through work.
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See I’m the opposite once the kids are in school I don’t want to do anything but because I know I have transport of a weekend I’m kept busy so really don’t have time to think through the day, it’s of a night when I can’t sleep so starting the other tablets tonight as they knock me right out X hope you have a good enough day, looking forward to spending time with my girls as they don’t often want to be in the same room as me always on their phone to their friends x
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All I want to do at the weekend is either shut myself away and sleep or do something for me. But all I get to do is housework.
My house is so disorganised, I had planned to get it all sorted last summer during the 6 week holiday. But well, life to a turn and the rest is history.
I am meeting a friend later though, but it will be intense I feel. It’s been a year since her mom died.
I think I am back in the ‘anger’ stage, but in a controlled way.
I just feel a bit lost, I want my mom.
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I took kids and their friend to the pictures it was nice to get out and shut my mind off even if it was only 2 hours the film was good so think I will take them out again next Saturday just so we are spending time together, I was meant to rip this house out in the summer hols but things never worked out that way as mum ended up in hosp with a fractured hip kids were in Ireland with their dad, so I was at hospital ever day for 2 weeks now how looks like a bomb went off so I need to stop putting it off now and start getting rid of stuff no one needs x
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I am so glad you enjoyed the cinema. It’s good to do things and give your kind a rest. Keep doing little things like this and you will feel the benefit.
We had a games night at my dad’s , it was actually really lovely. First time we have all been there together properly since my mom died. So it was a heard at first but then turned out nice. We laughed and talked about mom.
My daughter finds it hard to be there without my mom. We all do, she just says it bless her. It’s good as it means we all acknowledge the feeling.
Very tired now though. Hope you sleep well.
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I’m glad you had a good evening, I actually did too, my uncle(mums brother) phoned tonight to see how me and dad have been, so had a chat, he said he’s going to visit in the week, told him it’s ok that he didn’t have to as he has his own stuff going on but he insisted he needs to so that we don’t feel forgotten about, its things like that, that make me upset, he’s not forgotten us, I was so so tired I near fell asleep at the cinema not because film was boring because your body relaxes doesn’t it, had no problem dropping off to sleep as my eyes just close I’ve just woken up, but for the first time no tears from the images infact didn’t have any images in my head, didn’t get a chance to start the medication because I fell asleep before I had chance to take it, so going to close my eyes now and see if i can drop back off xxx
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It is the little things that help you get through this. Hold onto this feeling, there are glimmers of hope.
I really hope you slept well.
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Hi Lisa, I had my first counselling session last week (lost my wonderful Dad last July). It was difficult but made me realise what I’m experiencing is normal. She feels I returned to work too soon after Dad’s passing (I took the statutory 5 days my employer gave) and didn’t allow myself time to grieve. Fast forward 6 months and the stress and expectations around Christmas and New Year hit me like a train and, in her words, “the dam burst”. I’ve started a journal and have another session on Tuesday. Tracey x
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Hi,
I lost my mum a couple of weeks ago. I’m experiencing terrible anxiety and am constantly exhausted no matter how much I sleep! I just feel so lost. I am off work for a few months but then have guilt about not being at work…everything’s just so stressful! Any advice on how to live a ‘normal’ life again?
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I’m so sorry for your loss, its early days for you. I too am currently signed off work with anxiety and also feel guilty. My counsellor reminds me that I’m not signed off with a minor illness or the like, I’m off after experiencing the most traumatic thing anyone can go through, hope that helps. I’ve started a journal, where I can write down all my stresses and feelings, which I’m finding helpful x
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I have only just started counselling, I suffered with severe health anxiety when my dad passed a few years ago and I am scared I will get myself back down that hole again! I will give writing my feelings down, do you do this every day? I work with children so the thought of going back to work right now is not something I could deal with! It’s hard to process my mums gone and every time I close my eyes I see her taking her last breath! How do you move on without them? It’s all Iv known!
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