@Yorkie247
Thank you. I’ll keep them in mind especially when I feel as if im hanging on by a thread. Xx
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I am much the same only prefer messaging, I can express myself better. My bereavement counselling is by telephone an hour at a time I don’t know if I should keep going with it as I get lost for words and tired.
@Tenpin I really think it helps to chat as normal We really want our loved ones to be there and I think they are which comforts me. Today has been an ok day but tomorrow I’ll be a wreck as registering Johns death. One day at a time but I’ll keep talking to him telling him what I’m doing or what’s happening with folk we know…
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@Mitzi1
Take a deep breath and take your time. I went through doing it in a daze. It hit me a few hours later. I was inconsolable . I can’t even remember it properly. Take the day as it comes if you want to bawl and shout do it. My thoughts will be with you. X
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I was offered 6 phone sessions with a local bereavement charity but cancelled after 2 as I found I was dreading them rather than finding them helpful.
@Cab
That’s a shame but if they was starting to make you dread them obviously not for you. Is there any groups around you. I’ve found it easier. If you don’t want to talk you don’t have to. Sometimes just listening to others can be a great help. Xx
Sorry to hear of your loss @Cloudysky . I also lost my husband suddenly on 11 January. He died on a bus and attempts to revive him failed. I stumble through the days not achieving much at all. Perhaps you could plan something for your anniversary to mark it even in a small way to acknowledge memories of the good times you had. My husband’s birthday was 6 April so am in a similar situation. Take care
Sorry if I don’t reply to often but still read all your words.xx
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We are in such a similar sitiation @Easter. I feel so sad. You take care also xxx
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Beachwalks im in a similar position to you no family to help or rely on and its so scary im getting older now and worry who will help me if i need help .Dont drive which is a disadvantage too . So know how it feels sending love and support xx
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Hi tenpin I was the same when I registered Sammy’s death it was just one big blurr and it will hit a few hours or a few days later, Sammy passed away at the end of January and I’m back in work now I just couldn’t face it for the first month I will be honest I’m struggling to face it at the moment but I’m trying to put some normality back in my life, it’s so hard and upsetting though, my love and prayers to you all going through this 
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Sounds like a great idea. Count me in please
Hi Hope 5. Yes it is such an empty feeling when there is no support I have my dog and I go walks.
Where I live I’ve know A lot of people over the years but no body ever checks in or a calls friends who I used To go to various things with but now never hear from them. My husbands family have never been in contact since his funeral in September but I knew they would not contact again their actions were obvious.
My family not hear from them ( I never had children)
I think they just expect just get on with it now , Jim’s sudden death broke me as never showed any signs of cancer and then to get told he had it in 3 areas and it was terminal and then for him to only live 8 weeks it’s not something you forget
Is at with him while he was in hospital it was mentally and physically draining and my own health is not good. I to worry what would happen if I had a fall or was ill
No body would know I have my phone with me all the time just in case . And I know with getting older I am 63 . ( when my husband died in road accident in 2009 I was 48 I was still young and taking ill at that age didn’t really think about it , but now it makes me think. What the days ahead will hold
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I am knackered today what a surprise i am always knackered. I still can not have a full nights sleep even after 5 months after lossing my wife .horrible
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People are in their own littlebubbles arnt they .Its not great at all the lonliness is the worst thing to come to terms with on this journey none of us wanted to be in you can pm me anytime xx
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I just want to give everyone one here my prayers and love were all going through the same thing it’s a horrible situation to be in , if I can help anyone on here it helps me , xxx
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I think talking to people on here helps .because they know what you are going through it has been 5 months for me every day is the same .i miss her so much she was my rock
Sammy’s been gone 2 months and I miss everything about her but she went down hill so much her last week with the cancer, she told me many times she had ,had enough and just wants to go obviously I didn’t want her to go but I didn’t want her to suffer anymore xx
We are with you Dave, my wife died just over 3 months ago, so I know what you are going through, I have what I call good days and bad days, today I’m doing ok but Tuesday just gone I was a complete wreck. I think it will take years before it gets better and from what I’ve been reading, you never really get over it, you learn to live with it.
Yes. I agree you live with it .i will never get her she was great we went everywhere together i know go to hospital on my own when i get i start cry a little bit ,the nurse came over and said am i alright…i said i just my wife .she very sorry. She was a nice nurse .xx
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