I received my husband’s ashes back on our 26th Wedding Anniversary on 28th October. I wanted to be here alone with him that night and felt as if we truly were together, but I miss him so so much. The other half of me, our lives were so intertwined, we did everything together. It’s the little jokes and only the things that us two would get, and talk about. Now it’s just me and I’m empty. I cry every single day, and I can’t bear living in this hell. It’s a bad day today. The clutch on my car went and I really couldn’t cope, as he’s the first person I’d call in a crisis. Thankfully my brother helped me out
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Well done hope you have a nice time maybe later on l might build up to go somewhere have a lovely time
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Iv go my husband ashes here we did say we would keep our together and when l go go in the sea l talk to him every day all day my house is so empty my children call in and stay sometimes life is so hard l know how you are feeling l say all the time l just want to be with him
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Good night all.
Just accepted an offer on my house, so now slipping into buyer mode.
Going to start looking at properties online tomorrow
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Congratulations John. Hopefully that will let you put your plans in place as you have been in limbo.. Good luck with the house hunting.
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You too, good news about your house 
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Morning everyone,
Good news on your house, Good house hunting, johnr.
Take care everyone.
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Good morning everyone I feel I have went backwards I still crying every day still cry at our memories I hate the house so empty sad quiet so lonely it was allways just the 2 of us so happy in our forever home I am so frightened of my shit life now I worry all the time I panic when even the postman comes as it bills or something it is so so hard beeing on my own now I wish I could just have my wife back I was I struggle everyday without my beautiful wife I was standing making a cup off tea thus morning and a Christmas song come on the radio I had a meltdown I just stood in my kitchen crying like a baby saying I can’t do this I truly am struggling I just love my wife so much I have been robbed and on our wedding anniversary well 1 day before it when we had went away I just cant accept what happened and I really struggling with it the truma everyday I replay that full day over and over again I just cant cope
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Love01,
You have managed to keep going this far.
It us a difficult time of year for us, are first Christmas without our loved one. I heard all I want for Christmas yesterday, you know my answer, the impossible. You say you feel like you have gone back wards, I do also, but it means we went forward and we can do that again. Just one step at a time, that’s all we can do. Take care
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Good morning hope your day go well for you xxx
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Dear Love01
I feel exactly the same as you. Whwn I wake up in the morning after barely any sleep, the reality hits that I’ll never see my darling Ray again. I feel as if I just don’t want this new life. There just doesn’t seem any point at all
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@Love01 I haven’t made any progress either, I just keep falling back.
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Morning everyone,
wishing all the best day possible x
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It is just really really rubbish this I hate thus meant to new life I don’t want it I just want what I had and everyone else will feel the same we just want our partners wifes husbands all back with us I wish this could happen I am so lost sad totally broken you name It I am it yes I have got to 6 months but every day feels like it was when I lost my wife so suddenly she was my everything she made me so complete not only have I lost my wife she was my soulmate my everything it is so so hard been so alone in our forever home full of memories dreams and everything we have done it is so heart breaking every morning and every night alone
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Great news on your house Johnr, best of luck with the house hunting.take care.
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Love01
You sound exactly like me.I still cry every day too, everything i find now is a worry even the smallest things.My dear wife and i did everything together, even shared our worries about everyday things together, now its just me.My heart is broken and will never heal.our future and plans destroyed.This house like yours is so empty now,its as though the life has been sucked out of it, was always a happy joly house now just sadness.It sure is a crap life, just existing really not living as wew used to know and love.I say to my dear wife every day : i cant keep doing this, but somehow i am still here.AsNightwish1 so rightly says its such a difficult time of year,our first christmas without our dear loved ones.According to Age Uk many people will be alone for christmas, many not seeing another person.many of us will be glad when its all over i think.It is a real rollercoaster this journey we are on, more downs than up, when we get a type of up we have to treasure that moment as we did our dear loved ones as all too soon we hit the down again and feel back to square one.we have to try and take things day by day, little by little but its such a hard heartbreaking road we are on.Its like climbing a never ending mountain, we think we have reached the summit then in front of us is another mountail to climb, leaving us mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.I dont know what i would do without this site, everyones so kind and understanding, we all try and help each other whenever we can as we can all relate to what we are going through.Take care.
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I relate to all of that. 6 weeks now for me and even though we weren’t into the Christmas thing at all, we looked forward to finishing work, making a curry and having a beer together on Christmas Eve. We’d talk about just about everything, never got bored of one another. We were happy with the time off work and just spend it with each other. Oh how I wish for those days now, I can’t even begin to imagine what this year will be like. And people text me and say ‘everything ok with you’ or ‘ hope you are ok’. I want to scream, how would I be ok! I lost the other half of me 6 weeks ago, I cry every single day, even several times a day. Life has no meaning without my precious man. I’m so glad all you good people understand here. Thinking of all of us ‘newbies’ at this time of year, in this place that we never imagined we’d be…
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I’m exactly the same as you l get up breaking my heart l can sleep at night unless one of my daughters are here l feel l don’t want to be here but l couldn’t do anything because of my children..and let face it l take to my husband every day and l answer for hi and say come on now please live you life they wouldn’t want you to be like that and l know what your going through and it’s not nice lv had tables of the doctors they not started working yes but hopefully they will
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This is my 5th solo holiday in 2 years but ive done 3 others with friends.
Its hard doing the 1st one but otherwise gets easier.
I’ve already booked for new year in Belgium and June in Spain. I travel on leger coaches on there solo holidays, meet lots of new people all with different reasons to be solo.
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