Morning all. Saturdays are never good for me, but I hope you all have as good a one as you can.
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Morning everyone,
weekends are difficult for many reasons of us.
Thinking of you.
Hugs for those who need them.
Take care x
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Morning everyone,
No matter how long you have been on this path tears will come, because we still love and miss them.
Take care everyone.
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So true.
Take care
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It’s been 7 weeks for me since Ray passed. I find weekends torture, we would shut the door and spend the time together, so I’m really struggling no matter what I do. I can go out for a walk, anything, but it’s just the same no matter what. This road is a tough one to be on… the pain of loss never leaves you. Sometimes I get up and I’m optimistic about the day, then it just hits like a bolt out of the blue and knocks me sideways. I know many of you feel the same. And especially this time of year, I just want to get into bed and pull the covers over my head until all this jolliness is over.
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Home from a fantastic few days away. I met lots of new people with all different reasons to travel solo.
I can only say dont wait to do something do it whilst you can.
A couple of pictures from my trip
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Yes it so hard love l feel the same way l just can’t go out l went to my local shop yesterday and had terrible panic attack your not on you own talk anything
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Its early days, take babysteps and dont rush into anything.
It does get easier but you need to let each day guide you.
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So sorry for your loss.
It must be so raw and unbelievable.
Grief is a rollercoaster, there can be a positive feeling that disappears and leaves us down and bewildered.
I wish I had the magic answer.
This site is an understanding one where others identify with your feelings and want to support you.
Take care, big hug x
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That ment to be anytime
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Anytime
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Thank you Dia. So great to have the support here. I’m so sick of my family telling me what I should be doing. I’m the youngest at 55, and I have one sister and one brother who have just disappeared. They were at the funeral to be nosy but have since never contacted me. My eldest brother is 70 and constantly compares my situation to when his wife left him. Says he knows how I feel. Now today he texts and said I ‘should’ have counselling. Seriously considering blocking him, my husband was right he couldn’t stand him. A complete know all. I thought family were the ones you could count on at times like this? Only for my other sister who lives in France and phones me every single night, for the last 3 months and especially when Ray was sick and I’d get in from the hospital at night, I think I’d go mad. Sorry for the long rant!
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Hi peg2 i know exactly what you feel like i looked after my wife as her carer for several years ending up as her full time carer virtually single handed until the last week and hospitalisation ,i was able to stay with her on a camp bed ,luckily it had been going on for so long i was given help from the hospice for grief support and given advice on the way ahead if thats the right way to put it, you need to do whats right for you but try not to burn too many bridges your emotional state at the moment well everyone on her knows its intense mixed up and ever so painfull you will feel angry its going to take time and any support you can get maybe needed in the future as has been said so often on here its the price we pay to have loved and been loved and i am truly sorry you have lost someone special and joined our ranks
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Hi Brummy,
I hope you are ok today. Thinking about you tomorrow. Look after yourself.
Take care
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Good night
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Night night x
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Terrible it’s true what they say about family l am lucky there because l have got 3 grown up children that’s lm close to it’s nice you have your sister ringing every night she is thinking about you
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Nightwish1
I hope you have been ok today?it was a hard day today, i went on the train to shropshire to my mum and dads and grandparents graves with flowers for christmas.it was emotionally upsetting in so many ways.it always upsets me going there, itswhere my dear wife and i lived too.It hits home to me that everyones gone except a few cousins, my mum and dad, my dear wife.She would have come with me n the train,been with me on the bus to town doing our shopping.I managed to see my cousin for a very quick lunch then back on the crowded train, everyone it seems off to parties or various christmas events, me all alone now.It really hits home how”alone” i feel.I managed to get some shopping then back on a very delayed bus, the roads are packed.Its been a hard emotional day.Thank you for thinking of me.Take care.
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Good morning to all from a relatively mild dry morning in West Yorkshire , it’s not the best time of year for the people on this forum but remember the good times with your special ones however sad ,we are the lucky ones to of had those close relationships that others never find have the best day you can the world has not stopped even if it feels like it sometimes eventually I hope we all reconnect to it and the sun rises for us again
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