Thinking of you
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Morning everyone,
a wet day is forecast, in fact a wet weekend.
Thinking of all for whom the weekend is a sad time.
Hugs for those who need them.
Take care x
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Same here, awake since 4am. Crying non stop. I just can’t bear the loss of my Ray at all. Miss him so so much. My first Christmas without him and only 9 weeks since my world fell apart
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Sending a big hug
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It’s absolutely devastating. It’s nine months for me.
Lack of sleep does not help at all so I think that both of us need to take it easy today and maybe try n snooze at some point..
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Sending hugs🫂
10 months tomorrow for me
Unbelievable 
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It is really really hard my wife passed away suddenly 31 weeks ago today I am really really struggling I am so alone with no help no friends my neighbours used to look out for me but everyone has gone I sit in our forever home broken frightened everyday it’s so so hard christmas is and I cant cope with that I just cant believe how my life has took a complete 36 0 from how it was last year I have been really hysterical last night crying I have hated going to the shops to pick up a few things not like I am doing food shopping I just pick up rubbish my wife and I never asked for help from anyone in our lifes but at this time it would be nice for some help now just to pick up as much as a carton of milk or something this is just to much hurt pain my heart is shattered into tiny pieces just like the rest of us on this some ar luckily that they have friends or families not everyone on this has that I have been struggling everyday since the loss of my wife while we where away for our wedding anniversary it was the hardest day of my life going from the happiest to the shattering I live this day over and over again I just wish the darkness the heavy feelings can ease a bit it was in July when it was my birthday I sat hear so alone thus is when it really hits you and now it will happen again next week on christmas day I don’t know how I am going to get through this I hate seeing couples families rushing around doing things christmas lights and christmas songs I can’t stand I once had all the joy a d fun now nothing allso I used to help my wife as she lost her dad on the 20th of December she would feel down a d I used to help her I would do anything to ha e that again now nobody can help me
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Thank you. The words are so beautiful and very tearful.
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Go to church and sing carols. It’s at least community which means being with other people- and probably more than half of them are lamenting something or someone.
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Have you joined any bereavement groups local to yourself? Or looked for something you could join to get you out talking to others in a similar situation.
I’m now coming up to almost 2 and a half years since Rob passed away, life isn’t the same but I go out and try new hobbies, travel and keep busy. Its hard but I promised to enjoy what time I have left and see and do as much as I can. My 1st solo trip was only 5 months after he passed away to York as I wanted to make sure I could do something on my own. I have only a few friends as others in couples disappeared so I try to do lots on my own and get to meet new people, its hard at 1st but now I love to travel. I dont count weeks, or look at the time anylonger this i found was making me depressed and anxious so after a few months I stopped doing it and started to find away forward for my new way of life.
Please take care and remember you are here still, dont let your life pass you by without trying something new.
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It is very difficult when all.it was just the two of us we never had any friends we where happy in our own wee bubble we would do wee weekend trips away every so often and we loved that but now it is so much harder to do I just miss my wife so so much I go to counselling once a week but now I won’t get to see him again till after the new year so this is goi g to be very hard and with christmas coming it’s not right why I am hear a d my wife not I am not as lucky as others who have friends or family round about them my wife was my everything and now I am just so sad broken now
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Wise words … I am lucky to have family close by .. not sure how I would have got through without them. I had been with Paul since our late teens and married in 1980 .. he died through multi organ failure after hospital negligence after a routine day case op. Its unreal, but I have to go on for my children/grandchildren who are his legacy.
We are all travelling up to Scotland to spend Christmas, I couldn’t even contemplate staying in our home without him this year. I take each day, and try not to look too far ahead.
Sending everyone 
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Hi brummy,
I hope you managed your shopping ok, today. I’ll be thinking about you tomorrow.
Take care.
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Mezza1958
i will be thinking of you tomorrow, it was my 10 months last tuesday.I think my guardian angel sent me this site as i dont know what i would have done without everyones kindness and support.thank you all.Take care.
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Nightwish1,
Thank you for thinking of me, it means a lot to me.town was packed,i got an early bus but it was still mad.seeing couples everywhere really upset me it always does.This time of year seems to be making my tears flow more as everyone seems to be so happy and enjoying themselves.everyone will have to go through what we are at some stage, as the old saying goes the only certainty is taxes and death.I hope everyone enjoying the festivities will spare a though for those of us grieving for lost loved ones.thank you again for thinking of me.I hope you have managed today ok?Take care.
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Night night everyone
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Thank you and take care of yourself
We are all in this together
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Love01
I can really understand how you feel.It was just my dear wife and i.She has a sister who is disabled but mentally not at all good.Apart from her sister i have very llittle family, no children only cousins, they dont bother much.Its just me now, trying to “exist” in a lonely empty life.My dear wife and i both liked christmas but we had both lost relatives at this time so was tinged with sadness.Christmas is a lonely time for many people as recently highlighted on the news.Many people will see no one over christmas, i hope to see my wifes sister but i have a bad sore throat and dont want to give her anything.I will find christmas day just another day without my dear wife with me, i know the real meaning of christmas is the birth of Jesus often lost in the manic hullabaloo of the season.have you tried to reach out to a local church?some may have contacts of organisations or groups to help people alone like the Salvation army.Every day is difficult for me without my dear wife with me, its broken my heart.This time of the year is really hitting home how alone i really am.Please look after yourself, keep posting on here too, many of us will be alone at this festive time.Take care.
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What a lovely message
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