Do try to make contact with others. Just go to any groups you can find, bereavement grouos, friendship groups, men’s chat groups. Look in your local library or on the Internet. You will find there are others out there also struggling with loneliness who would like to meet you. I lost my lovely partner only 5 weeks ago, and I need friendly faces and human contact to help me get through this. Sending you a virtual hug.
5 Likes
Morning everyone,
it is a rainy Sunday.
Sundays are difficult for many of us.
Thinking f you, take care x
6 Likes
It’s a reply to Punto
1 Like
Morning all
Off to our local tip this morning to take some stuff I don’t need in Wales.
The place has got so busy that these days you have to book a slot.
Anyway have as good a day as you can.
7 Likes
Thank you I am.just not convenient in doing that I go to my counciling once a week it helps for a wee bit I just work and come home that is all I know what to do I just miss my wife and love her so so much and given the time of year makes it harder for anyone who has lost the love of there life soulmate best friend wife husband it is really hard I am.just completely broken I just wish I could be with my wife so much
1 Like
Morning, I hate Sunday, my partner passed away on Sunday and I always feel more tired on that day 
4 Likes
I am so sad and broken that I dont have my wife with me we where like glue stuck together now that she is no longer with me it is so so hard it hurts so much I am the same as yourself still got all my wifes things all round the house where she left them I have never felt so alone in all my life but it is so so hard when you have lost your everything I still look round our once happy forever home for my beautiful wife even though I know she is not there the house I now as sad as me now I miss her so so much I just wish I could be with her and this time of year is so so hard to with christmas families couples and all the running around ppl.are doing christmas songs and christmas lights is really doing my head in I know I sound like scrouge but I am.not my wife and I did like christmas but it was hard for my wife to as she lost her dad on the 20th December and that was hard for us but this level of hurt and shattered hearts is unbelievable pain I really really miss her and still cry every day I just cant put myself out there
2 Likes
I knew my husband from the age of 5 we were in and out of each other’s lives. Through school, he was my 1st boyfriend then we went our own way for a few years and eventually got married. We were together over 38years married for 35 of them.
Life is hard but you need to make the most of the life you now have. Yes its hard but if you dont try to do new things and meet new people then the depression will set in, I am sure your wife wouldn’t want you feeling the way do.
I dont wallow in self pity or think what if Rob was still here because I know he isn’t coming back so now I have to find me, I was part of a unit for most of my adult life now its just me finding my way through what I now look at as an adventure not what I wanted but its what life has dealt me.
My mum said you get one life do as much as you can in the time you have as its not a rehearsal.
5 Likes
Punto, thats very well put. I don’t see life now as an adventure, I still see it as something of a burden but I know I have to keep going and hope to reach the point where it all does become an adventure.
3 Likes
Its hard during the early months, I had days where I wanted to stay in bed and not see anyone but I remembered all the good times wr had and all the things we wanted to do once we retired.
Im now moving to a new city away from my safe space to a place where I know only my son and daughter in law and 2 little grandchildren
The area I’m moving to looks lovely as its on a marina in Lincoln and everyone seems friendly, I’ve decided 2026 is going to be my year where I can make new memories, friends and hopefully still travel, I have got through my own cancer treatment without the love of my life by my side and it made me realise I need to do all the things we planned to do but in my own way.
6 Likes
Best wishes to you from another Lincolnite.
1 Like
Love01
I know exactly how you feel,i feel the same too.Everything of my dear wife is still where she left them, ijust cant bring myself to move anything.Her place at the table empty, her placemat still there, her place by me on the sofa still empty, her side of our bed still empty.Its heartbreaking and has torn me apart.She loved this house her garden and her plants and flowers.Now it no longer feels like a “home”, a home she loved a home we both loved.it now feels just like somewhere to live not a warm loving home.I couldnt bring myself to move as we did have good memories here as well as sad ones.I often feel her “Spirit”is here and her mum and dads too but what i really want is my dear wife with me in person but i know it cannot be.I know what you mean about the christmas songs and lights, i feel the same.I too sound like scrooge/Grinch but its all so hard when so many of us are all alone.We are all different as human beings and some of us find we can handle things better than others, sadly im no good at that and losing my dear wife has torn me apart.Like you i still cry every day , weekends and sundays especially are really upsetting as sunday was the day she passed.My wife and i liked christmas too but this year it is like a non event for me, i will be thinking and talking to my dear wife as i do every day and night and i will be remembering the “true” meaning of what christmas is all about.Take care.
2 Likes
Thank you for posting those words , they are so true.Take care.
3 Likes
George53
I know exactly what you mean.I lost my dear wife very suddenly in February, i too see life something as a burden, it seems full of worry, loneliness and emptyness, like yourself i know i have to keep going but its so hard especially this time of year.Its all so cruel what happened to us.I know we all have to leave this earth at some point but it was the suddeness of losing my dear wife that has torn me apart.Take care.
3 Likes
Thanks. Im looking forward to my move over in the new year.
1 Like
Good luck in you new home
1 Like
If it’s the marina I think it is then its a nice place with some lovely walks.
1 Like
