No … but when these people spout out their clichés - tell them it hurts actually - it really hurts ! And if they don’t like iti tough theyre not really proper friends are they !!! Xx
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Yes the cliches knock you sideways , ho can this grief be this painful it’s unbelievable, the missing your loved one is devastating, I can hardly cope with hour to hour , take care all of you xx
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Thank you for your kind words, life will never be the same again, I miss him so much. I’m trying to put things in place to look forward to, hopefully this will help me get through.
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Hi its 13 weeks since i lost my partner suddenly at 58…i agree about tge counselling i dont feel im getting much from it just going over and over my situation. I do believe time will make things a bit easier…i feel this journey changes all the time and wish for peace.
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Its rollercoaster isnt it love ? I just wish i could cuddle him … i miss that so much ! Just a little hug would do 
reading a book by sasha bates called language of loss … she lost her husband suddenly too ! Recommended by sue ryder. Its quite good … only upto second chapter at moment xx
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It is a roller coaster i feel iv gone backwards recently. Weekend is horrible i try to keep myself busy but really miss him its like im a different person now.
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Try get that book … its good you know ! Makes u realise youre not as alone in your grief … you arent you know! Lots of us are feeling it like you xxx
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Thankyou i will get that book…we try our best but i feel sad and lonely more so now than before .lots of love j
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@Jan271 It is still very early you will need more time. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. I’m at 16 weeks and it’s not easier yet only a little different as I now take time outs to cry and shout rather than it happening at random.
I look on life as a journey. I have been diverted from the happy journey I had planned with my wife onto a dark and lonely path with no road map. My logical side is trying to figure out how to navigate this path but my emotional side is in control of the vehicle. Hence the many crashes and dead ends and seeming lack of progress. You are seeking that map too. I hope we all find it.
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Thankyou for your encouragement. You are right i never wanted this path i have been given .i have to accept it which is the hardest part.we go on and try live a day at a time…this is the hardest journey iv ever been on…
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@Jan271 You are right. This is the hardest journey all of us have ever been on made worse because it is one we would never ever have chosen and is so full of sadness. At least here we are on it together.
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I have lost parents, a brother, my husbands parents and his brother, but losing my husband is another level of grief, a whole different journey, one that if you haven’t been through is impossible to explain. I am 6 mos and 13 days into my journey and accepting the reality of a life without my beloved husband is something I don’t know if I will ever completely achieve. I still cry everyday. Perhaps I always will. There is no doubt I am a different person. Life is so hard.
Peace and love, Karen
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I agree losing your husband is the worst type of grief !!! They’re your soulmate thats why … itsv very painful isnt it ? I never had pain like it … we just gotta keep trying to keep going as best we can … i don’t thnk our partners would want us to be sad ? I cry a lot too - cos we miss them don’t we? I never thought in my wildest dreams how hard it was gonna be. We just gotta try get a bit of joy when snd where we can i think xxxx
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I so agree with you. I have forgotten what joy and happiness feel like. My precious husband was my joy and happiness. But we do have to keep trying.
Karen
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I know same here 
he was such a laugh and had a good sense of humour ! He always made me laugh ! Now all he does is make me cry cos hes not here … to cheer up this bland world we live in we just gotta hope karen that there will be some joy left in life for us haven’t we ? xxx
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Thats a really good way to explain it @Mike75. I have no sense of direction in the real world, no wonder im so lost on this s### journey that none of us wants to be on.
Love to everyone
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I can enjoy some of the things I do but there’s a constant emptiness. I hate my life at the moment. I’m exhausted with ‘trying’ all the time. It’s too hard. My husband used to make me laugh and feel safe. Now I just feel lost.
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I feel exactly the same way. I am tired of waiting to feel just a tiny bit better. Well, off to my grief group. Wonderful people that like on this site “get it”. That is what helps.
Peace and love, Karen
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Yeh i know they made us laugh and made us feel safe i agree !!! That means we had a good marriage dont you think ? That means we were very lucky ! I thank god i found him but i wouldve just liked him to have been here a bit longer everybody says he loved life and he did which is what makes it all the more unfair ;( x
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Totally agree @Karetired that losing my husband was more painful than I could have ever imagined and so much worse than losing my beloved Dad, which was hard enough.
Richard and I knew we didn’t want to be without the other and had a daft joke about who would have to go first, both saying we would.
I hope you will have some better days and a bit of light in your life.
Hugs
Karen xxx
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