Oh yeh i been same … 3am and later ! Ignore all the valentine stuff ! Its all commercialised anyway !! Me and my husband could never stand valentine’s day anyway … take care snd hope u got some sleep xx
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My partner died last Monday morning 2.30 am after coming home from hospice Thursday afternoon . I’ve cried non stop and had good support from family and friends but last night , evening , suddenly found myself crying and it turned into I think the word is ‘keening’ , it was like a scream and a cry I had no control over it and it seemed to go in for a long time , our little dog was so anxious and worried . This grief is so very painful , but it’s good to know it’s ok to feel like this xxx bless you all xxx
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Aw bless you … ive had that when its so painful … never heard that term before ? Im so sorry for your loss … its so hard isnt it ?? God bless you and glad u got fanily around you xxx
That sounds like a very painful time. It is a pain you feel. An actual pain like someone ripping out your heart and it leaves me also with a sore stomach and a sore head. It’s nearly 6 months for me and I cannot believe the time has passed. Every day feels like the last day. My head is still full of the tiniest details engraved forever. I kept thinking a terrible mistake had happened and he was just sleeping but no, he had really gone. Such a shock even though he was so ill. my beloved husband only 59. I dont think I will ever feel better.
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Thankyou both , yes so very very painful , can’t be described he was 58 , loved life , every day was amazing to him , a new day to be grabbed and enjoy but pancreatic cancer took over xx I don’t know how to handle the pain tbh , don’t want family and friends to see it , I look at his photos and just cry non stop xxx
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Yeh my husband had literally just had his 60th birthday … he passed 2 months ago ! It is so damn painful isnt it . I miss him so much and i loved him so much 
xxx its not gair is it !!! Xxx
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@Martju We are all here for you, remember we understand, we help others on our better days and get help from others on our bad days. Take care & remember it’s one day at a time xxx
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Well the emotional heartache is there all the time.it just don’t diminish. Yes 3am is a bad time I awaken with a pain in my stomach and a great sense of loss. I am dreading valitine day, last year it was the day they said there wasn’t anything else they could do. We came home in shock, I remember every second of that day it will be hard for me. Just have to carry on.
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I think we are all dreading Valentine’s Day, remember we are here for each other, big hug everyone xxx
I am for sure. First one on my own. He used to buy me flowers and wear his daft loveheart socks and get me a soppy card and then we wd have an M&S valentine meal. Crying just writing this. Feeling sorry for my miserable self. Love to all going through this hell.
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Whilst we may be dreading Valentine’s Day let us be thankful for those we had together and wish those couples still together both young and old a very happy day and May they enjoy their companionship for many more. We are an online community who will support each other through yet another day of memories. Love and hugs to you all 🫡🥹
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How right you are @JohnR54
I thank my lucky stars every day that I had Richard in my life. It wasn’t long enough but one day we’ll have eternity together.
Thanks for this uplifting post. xxx
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I am thankful for the ones we had together but they came to an end far too soon and it doesn’t bring me any comfort x.
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I am really feeling the pain tonight. It’s agony. I can’t stop crying.
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@Moi1 It’s going to be hard, no doubt about it, I personally will be glad when it over except beginning of March I then have to face my birthday alone xxx
So sorry ;( xx
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Dear Jean
It’s just so painful isn’t it?..I found a diary i had kept whilst he was ill and after my chap of 34 years had died.I found it so harrowing to read just awful i cried and cried .Now i just feel numb and i am two years on.Keep talking on here we can support you…sending a big virtual hug
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