Teddy so sorry you feeling so down. I Know that empty feeling it is awful. I do not have any answers just that this too will pass for a while at least I think it is a really good idea to
see a councillor. I started counselling three weeks ago a d it working for me. Did you see GP in the end . It might be useful to talk it through with him or her . It could be helpful to have a few sources of support that are not family. I wish we all had a magic wand to get away from this pain. I send you much love and some peace xxx
Sorry you feel that way Teddy. I just have that feeling of longing all the time.Do try that losing a son at 27 as Zoe suggest.I have just posted once on there but get comfort from reading all the very helpful posts. It makes you understand different stages of grieve.
Hi jenna and kath we all on this awful new road where we dont want to be. Nothing any one says can make it better . But this site makes you feel your not so alone . Friends dont really understand there not in our shoes . This is all so wrong sending all my love xx zoe xx
Hi ladies thank you for lovely messages . Itās been three and a half months . Iām just fucked please excuse my language ! Tried to get some support but there is a three month waiting list xxx
I completely understand how desperate and empty youāre feeling. You will find a way to cope with this but it takes time and we all deal with our grief differently. The timescale is different for all of us too.
Professional help may help. I found this site so groundingā¦it gave me hope that somehow Iād find a way to carry on with my lifeā¦but differently.
I am a different person since Henry died and I view life so differently. Iām not stuck here foreverā¦Henry is waiting and we will be reunited.
Meditation via the Headspace app has been invaluable to me.
Iām still not on top of it every dayā¦Motherās Day was difficultā¦my third with only one son. But itās not on top of me all the time now. Donāt give up. Just focus on the next hour.
Good morning everyone.Zoe my Grandson is doing OK but I feel sad both my Grandsons not having their Mum around.But Mack who lives with me has asbergers syndrome and a housing association has offered him a one bedroom flat around the corner from me.We can better support him. I was so worried for him because me and my husband are in our 70s and we all know you canāt take life for granted.He canāt rely on his dad who walked out of them years ago.It gives me peace of mind knowing he has a roof over his head.And on another positive note my daughters pensions and insurance has been paid rightly to her boys and not to her husband because of the pandemic the divorce was not finalised.At least they have a bit of financial security.Thanks for the advice of going to the CAB They sorted it.
Now thatās a great hit of news!! Having financial security is so important. Iām going to attempt to meet my friends today for a coffee donāt want to but feel I need to force myself to do something . Iām just sitting in my flat isolated . Not feeling very well got a really bad b CV old and canāt shift it . Iām obviously really run down .
Teddy you might feel better meeting friends.I meet with my friends most Saturdays. I Look forward to it.Although I have known them 50 years and they have been a great support. Do go see your GP if you can.
Yes I will , tbh Iām getting rather stressed out just thinking about it . But have to push myself and I know I will feel better seeing g someone . I have gone from a busy bee to a stay at home person . Really trying to hold it together xxxxx
I dont we will ever get over the loss, its unbearable.
I was going to scatter Neils ashes on my mums grave on her anniversary so they can be together but cant bear to part with him at the moment, dont think i ever will. Its just so hard without him. xxx
Hi Jenna
My first was neils 39th birthday in November,then christmas, then mothers day. I did put up the card he sent me last year which was a bit of a comfort but the day was still heartbreaking. My other children (2) came over but with one missing is awful. Take care xx
Just awful still doesnāt feel real . But as I have said before I try not to think to much as I feel I will crack up . I just find no one really understands xxx Iām most definitely not the same person I was before and donāt think I ever will be the same person xxx
Good morning Ladies.
Welshie I scatterd my daughters ashes straight away.I put them next to my mum and sisters.She passed 7 weeks ago. I Know each one of us is different but I wonāt go to that place because I donāt think they are there. I carry my daughter around with me in my heart.I wake up every morning and I can smell her perfume no one else can smell it .If itās in my imagination I donāt care it seems sheās close to me.Whatever gets you through.Take care.
Hi ladys i have my sam in the frontroom .he never hardly went out only to his sisters so i feel he belongs here . Everyone us different . .in there thoughts and feelings you have to do whats best for you ā¦i hope your all ok . Remember baby steps .your all amazing love zoe
Hi ladies , lovely messages as usual . Not feeling great today think I may have flu !! I honestly think Iām run down Iād imagine all that dress and trauma on your body takes itās toll .
Omg how cold is it today ? Love and hugs ladies xxxx
Teddy did you meet your friends for coffee?I think our immune systems compromised.I certainly have my fair share of headaches and a really painful neck.which I never used to have before my Louise passed.We have to realise what a big shock to the system it is.Its a miracle we survive it.Hugs
