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Good morning @Nel

Sorry to hear of your loss :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

It’s only been 8 weeks for me. I think I’m doing ok, I’m certain I will not let grief overcome me…I have some really awful feelings and thoughts at times. The anxiety when that hits is out of this world however I try each day to be optimistic. I’m still here, I’ve got to live and find some sort of new life for me. Whatever happens doesn’t mean I loved my Andrew any less. It just means that I choose to live and try and to enjoy life again. We were blissfuly devoted to each other for 18 years and I will always cherish the love we had together but I will not let grief win!

Have you people around you for support?

Xx

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@Katyh yes I have a lovely sister and brother who I see regularly. I’m three years in but grief does catch me unaware. I feel I need to lean into it as it help you heal. To ignore it is foolish. After a good cry I feel better I work at a charity on Mondays which helps me keep in touch with reality as being at home all the time makes me feel I live in a bubble. We need to touch reality to feel real Sending hugs thank you for your response

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@Nel

It sounds like you have your ducks in order. It’s good to hear you have good people around you for support. Are you able to increase days at the charity shops or start another? as you said it helps you keep touch with reality.

It’s also good to talk on here, if you ever feel lonely. Everyone here truly understands. Have a nosey around and contribute to other threads :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
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Wow @Nel youre echoing everything i am feeling atm … im 18 months into this ! Im so angry at this crap world atm … im so angry it took my darling husband and left me here without him … i miss him so much ! I would just love one of his hugs - that would be so nice ! Xx

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@SadGirlfriend

How was it? X

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It was great, so glad I went. Everyone was lovely to me, lots of hugs and support. I even danced, and managed not to cry. I’m still a bit deaf!

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@SadGirlfriend

Amazing, well done I’m so pleased for you xx

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Well done ! Xx

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@Katyh im three years in kat and some days like today the anxiety just grabs me and won’t let go. What do you do when you’re feeling anxious ?

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Deep breaths. I think its 2 breath in and breath out 4 or just pamper yourself ! I get a nice hot bath at night that helps or listen to music xx

Hi @Nel

Sorry your feeling so anxious. Maybe try a little walk, it’ll do you a world of good. Walking helps the body, mind and soul. It’ll also help the anxiety pass. Anxiety is usually the worry of the future. The anxiety is usually worse than the doing if that makes sense. Sometimes I feel anxious about going out which is all new to me as before I was really confident. However I still go and the anxiety soon passes, it is also less likely that I feel anxious as bad or as often. I think the more you push yourself the more you learn to cope and build skills to manage. By moving forward it’ll help you not be completely consumed by grief.

Hope your day gets better :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: xx

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