Hi ive just lost my wife on the 30th November 2022 I was her carer full time,she was a wonderful wife,so loving my first Christmas on my own in 24 years,its so lonely on my own and I hate it so much.
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It will be my first Christmas for 36 years without my beloved late husband, who passed on 26th August. So sad and lonely without him.
The very thought of Christmas is unbearable to me. First one in 37 years without my wonderful husband. I worry about if Iāll make it through.
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Mine too after 50 years together. Iām so lost and as you say lonely for him. X
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I know how you feel,Iām the same I hate it,if you every need to talk feel free to contact me anytime I live in hull
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My first Christmas after 39 years with my husband.Itās going to be a very lonely stressful time for me.
Love to you all.xx
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My first Christmas alone for 36 years, I am so sad and lonely without him x
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Me too. I miss my beautiful wife so much
Nigel
xx
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You 're not alone weāre all here for you.
Nigel
xx
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It is my second Christmas alone .It doesnāt seem to get any easier. I really miss my wonderful husband Vic so much.
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My husband of 54 years died in July 2022. Life feels unbearable. My memories of our life prior to his dementia are so happy but they hurt so much. When dementia struck him it struck me too because from that time on our lives were not very contented or happy and I was so scared and worried about the future that I couldnāt seem to cope emotionally which will haunt me forever. He was a good and loving man and his final weeks and months in a nursing home were unbearable to see. How do people cope and go forward because to me although I have of two loving sons and their families ten miles away I feel utterly bereft. Everywhere I go i only visualise my husband and where we were always together is now this terrible void. I put on a brave face to the family and to the outside world but inside I feel broken.
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Dear IanWilson
So sorry for the late reply. Not meaning to ignore you or anyone else that has replied to me or those who have continued to post but something happened with my account and only just managed to re-activate it tonight.
I can only hope that you managed to navigate the Christmas period. Something I am sure like me, you once found something to celebrate but have come to dread. We all understand on this forum, so please keep posting.
Take care.
Sheila
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l know exactly how you feel. My husband of 51 years died in November 22, after caring for him for 6 months at home in palliative care.
l am now completely alone, no children, no family, a sister who visits when she can. my neighbours l do not know.
l have a hole in my heart, a hole in my soul and a hole in my world.
l am disabled and housebound, just me and the walls. my bad days are nearly every day to face a tsunami of tears, there are times my cries turn to sobs and wailing, calling out to him, and not even my immediate neighbour has knocked to see just how l am.
an army of people can never replace that one person thatās missing
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Yes we are all in this awful tidal wave of never ending grief. I send all my heartfelt thoughts to everyone. And Lotās wife, I howled and howled for months and still break down so much even to people along the road if they ask how I am. So you must just cry and mourn and one day it will lessen. We will miss our husbands forever but I am told by others that eventually the intensity of grief will lessen. Can you get in touch with your GP and ask him or her for help and someone to talk to on a regular basis. There are people within the churches who also would look out for you ā¦not that I myself have approached them. Keep posting and know that you are not alone on here.
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Hello Itās 14 months since my partner died and I stiill struggle with anxiety and grief when I wake up every morning. I feel sick and lonely even when Iām staying with family and donāt know how to cope or manage it some mornings as the feelings are so intense. Iām waiting for counselling to start and belong to a local support group that helps Do any of you feel the same and how do you cope? Take care x
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Yes Shirley. I am the same. My stomach churns when I wake up and I just feel utterly lost without my husband. I also feel remorse and guilt as he had dementia and I felt so frightened and without much support from family I wasnāt patient enough with him when he was confused. He was a gentle and loving man and for the last 2 years of his life and living with dementia throughout the pandemic and the lockdowns our marriage which had been very happy just altered and I am full of regrets about that.
I have never coped well with stress and now like you are too I feel overwhelmed with grief and anxiety. I find getting out with my dog is the only thing that helps as she is a wonderful companion although now very old. Yes even with family who are kind and loving I feel alone and this terrible void. I am thinking of selling my house where my husband have lived for 46 years of our 54 year marriage and buying a place near to my 2 sons. That again is added stress but I feel I cannot stay in the same area with all the memories of our life here. Grief is a terrible burden as you and everyone on here resonates with.
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I have no one either and so know how you feel, but the last thing I want to do is socialise. My dog is my only companion, itās unbelieveable. I never thought it would come to this. I hope you are looking after yourself, we must battle on for now and look forward to when we are with our soulmates again.
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I lost my partner on 24th August 23 no family couple of friends who do not actually give much support i feel lost and lonely no one to talk to . Know how you feel if u want to chat
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Reading all your comments tells me im not alone. I lost my Lesley Sept. 22 .Just over a month before our Goldern Wedding. I am writing this on the 28th October on the day that would have been our 51st Anniversery. So today has brought it all back again , as you can all imagine.
The last year has been, as you say, a long hard one with all the first dates that come and go Being alone in the house has been a bad one , my little Kack Russell , Bailey, has eased .ysilence at home. One a brighter note , which I hope is encorenging to you, is that in the last month my pain has started to lift. I think this due to friends and family, my daughter and family only live about a mile and a half away , with two great grand grand children. My son lives in Brisol and I see him and family about every 12 weeks. Also, I love art and belong to two art groups. Also, which has been a massive help, l belong to a berievment group of people who are in the same position as me. So my formula is to grieve, remember, but also activate the mind and interests as well as to mix.
As a last note, as a lot of you say, you have lost you soul mate . So have I , but thinking it through, as I have lost my soul mate, I have lost half of our joint souls
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