Dear all
It has been mentioned about a disagreement here I personally needed this site but because of being threatened and a particular thread which was previously started I felt bullied into leaving this site. I have not been on it for over a week except to answer a couple of private messages. Even that was hard. On the day the thread about blocking went up I went into a serious bout of depression and felt so low that I didn’t know why I was going on, I felt what was the point in living myself anymore and I knew that this site was not good for me at that time. I know that this is something that is hard for me because of my loss but I didn’t want to be somewhere that triggered it. But I also knew the people who supported me and got me through some of my most difficult days are also on here. I also felt that I was letting down a couple of people who have been private messaging me for support so this was a very hard decision for me. I have made some really good friends who know how I feel even if there loss is different. And I appreciate their loss too, in fact I appreciate and understand almost all types of loss… So I took a step back but since a couple of people who triggered my depression are here I want them to know what they did to me and to understand so that they think twice before they write things which could cause the same pain in others. I didn’t want to say anything because I do not in anyway want to instigate anymore trouble but I do think maybe this is the best place to say it. I hope that the people who were involved think about their actions and their effects take a step back and realise the consequences of their actions and be just a bit more thoughtful. I do not want to cause anyone any more pain as I understant how everyone is suffering but I also don’t want this situation to continue on this site. I want everyone to feel safe here, it was a little online sanctuary and I hope it will continue to be so. I want this to be the end of it. People need to be careful how they treat others on here . I don’t want there to be anymore trouble I just need people to think before they act. I am still depressed and still fighting it so I ask these people to please be kind. I have some wonderful friends and supportive people on here and I need this site and I don’t want to leave but its hard. please be kind in future. We need to preserve that safety bubble here that makes us all feel a little better.
However I do believe that it would be best for all if Sue Ryder where to reformat the site a little and allow both public and private threads (where people are invited) I think that would solve the problems that have been encountered in the last month. I also think making the site more easy to comprehend when threads go in differerent directions would be a good idea and make threads easier to follow… I wonder if it might be an idea to start a justgiving page for SueRyder to use to work on the website. Maybe we could then turn what has been a negative situation into a postive situation where we all do something to benefit everyone on here.
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