I found it so hard to do the eulogy, i had weeks to wait for the funeral which was just as well because everytime i went to write i couldn’t see for tears.
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@Scamp1 . I know what you mean about tears, it took me ages as I kept thinking of things to add. It’s such a sad thing to do, but I was told it told our story which pleased me. Take your time, it will turn out well and tell your story, all the best 
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Hi Cat_fan
Take care
Xx
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I can understand that completely, there is some music I cannot listen to anymore
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Hi Kathy6, i managed it & it was a lovely eulogy even if i do say so myself. I was proud of what i did & one of the hardest things i’ve ever done.
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It took a week or so of jotting notes and bullet points on post it notes and an afternoon to do the first draft but I sent my final version to the vicar yesterday and she has proof read for me !
I have a stand-by reader to hand in case I can’t get it together on the day (11/12) but will give it my best shot - I owe her that much
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I managed to write a eulogy for my mum in 2014 and read it ok - her death hit me several months later because I was busy keeping my stepdad from falling into pieces and being an executor - then one day Annie’s Song ( John Denver) came on the radio one Sunday morning and I lost it - my wife immediately looked at me and knew what would happen!
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Thank you for sharing this……………
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Heartbreaking but so very true. It will be 5 years in April since I lost my dear Husband. Married 25 years and life is so hard and very lonely without him 
. Thanking for sharing and sending a virtual hug x
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Life is just rubbish
If I see school children particularly seniors I think grasp the future with both hands and enjoy cos one day it’ll be snatched from you
Yet when we were that age we didn’t think life’s soon over we all thought our very young teachers were old
Grief is hell
I’m sure Cat- fan on 11/12 you’ll make your wife very proud
Lolxx
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Welcome Heather
A very lonely ‘alone’ path we walk
Tears flow ( I’ve just had some) for ‘no’ apparent reason other than I desperately miss Paul
Big hugs to all
Xx
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@Bess1
Hi Bess, it must be time for tears, I just had mine not sure what triggered them other than I tried to be brave today. Oh gosh 
sending hugs xx
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Hi Kathy6
Yes we try to be brave because I suppose we have to …… I can’t stop my tears at all
They are bubbling all the time to be honest and then wham I’m full blown crying
I even got short tempered with Muffin ( long awaited puppy……… Paul organised her, had her 3 weeks) and she hadn’t done anything
Bet she thought I’ve come to a mad house!
Big hugs to all…… we sure need them
Xx
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A very lonely alone path, in deed💔
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Tears just come out of nowhere. It’s hard not to miss them so very much. Be kind to yourself and try rest xx
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Apparently tears are supposed to ease the pain I’ve been told x
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I was told to go with your emotions, if you want to cry, cry & when a smile happens it’s ok, doesn’t mean you still aren’t missing them or heartbroken at their loss.
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Hi
Yes Life goes on
Suppose that’s another ‘ hurdle/problem’ everyone’s having a life but us
Our life snatched away
Xx
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Hmm, life stops for no one, does it?
. So many hurdles to overcome x
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It’s when you see people going around doing every day things ,that it hurts. Life can be so hard
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So true Pest
As Scamp says life stops for no one……
Would you say struggling with grief a life?
I know we have a ‘life’ and our dearest who passed away don’t but…….
Xx
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