I have just joined and lost my husband and soulmate on 6th Sep this year O feel so empty and alone I would love to do this thank you for letting me be a part of this
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Please let me know the time 7pm is fine by me. Lots of love Jackie.x
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this will be my first Christmas without my wonderful dad and I am dreading it.
I my husband lights candles at chapel for family that have passed. We can now do this to. Don’t know how I will feel Christmas day
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I lost my hubby 8mths ago but seems like yesterday ,this time of year is twice as hard because my hubby was the double of santa ,we were in a shop in February when a little boy was excited to see santa shopping his poor parents kept apologising, adults have had photos taken with the real santa . It doesn’t get easier we just get better at hiding it .and cry into our pillows ,yes I’ll be lighting my candle at 7 with love .
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When my wife (Susan) was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on July 31st, she bought all her Christmas presents for friends and family, she sadly passed away 31, 10, 21 and I have found the Christmas list and I am in the process of wrapping the presents and I’m crying my eyes out, I don’t think I can take much more, I just need her to come back thru the door and give me a big hug life’s so cruel
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Oh David. I’m crying for you. What a special lady. I have no words to comfort you, except it is one task that you are doing for her, and keeping her memory alive. My Derek died in July after 49years together and he left a sum of money with my son that was to be used for presents for me (I have a December birthday) and at various times I have been given a gift from him and know there is one for Christmas. We have been privileged to have been loved by such wonderful partners - some people never have that (and yet, I am greedy, I wanted more). I’m thinking of you xx
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Thanks my birthday is 27th, and yes she was a special lady, always put other people first,
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Hi yes it’s a lovely idea I am just going out to buy a special candle for my partner Ray who I list in July
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David your wife Susan sounds like the most amazing and thoughtful woman and I am so sorry about your loss, I will be thinking of you as well as I light my candle for all of our lost ones
You should be proud of the strength that you have to be able to wrap those presents and get them to the people who your wife had so lovingly thought of
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Hoping you have family and friends around you ,I found talking about my hubby helped , l still talk to him and about him ,Thankfully it was my work colleagues who supported me most ,my son’s in Australia and another lives away , but my sister & brother and their families I’ve never seen for months , some people don’t know how to act around us . If you need to talk about your gorgeous wife I’m here to listen.
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Thank you Karen51, that is really kind of you, I could talk about her for hours she had a wicked sense of humour and a contagious laugh, if she started laughing you would start to even if you didn’t know what you were laughing at, if you saw her in the village , people knew that the topic would get round to Matthew our son, who has slight dyxlesica, but he still got into the fire service she was a proud mum
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My son has asperger’s plus bad dyslexia everyone said he wouldn’t achieve much ,he’s just graduated with honers ,so l know how she felt ,she sounds like one special lady , just before my hubby died l lost my newfies due to old age at the moment my house is extra quiet. My other son also has dyslexia he’s just graduated in Australia and is a chef on Frasier island. Thankfully our other half’s got to see what our children have achieved xx
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Hi Karen,
What are newfies? Please pardon my ignorance.
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Could it be Newfoundland Dogs? Forgive me if I am wrong.
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Yeah newfies are amazing friendly dogs…Newfoundlands I would agree x sorry to hear of your losses x
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Hi Laneyb. I lost my partner last November and like you Christmas last year was just a blur. This year its much harder. We still have are memories. Sending you my best wishes.
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I didn’t think of that! Thanks!
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I can’t do cards either. I collected mams sympathy cards because my dad couldn’t have them in the house. I keep her things in my bed drawer so she is close to me when I’m sleeping. Lighting a candle together is a lovely thing. Sending love to all our beloved. I light a virtual candle now every day on the memorial site for my mam and send her messages. See you at 7. Love xxx
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Hello Sue,
I hope you are coping with Christmas as well as you can. I lost my daughter in April and l feel your pain. This site is the best. You can send a message when you need to and say how you feel.
We are all in the same boat feeling the gripping pain of grief and having to accept that our loved one has gone. But we all have our memories. Nothing can take them away.
Slowly we can remember the happy times and smile.
I have started volunteering for a charity which deals with young people and suicide. This helps me to feel l am helping others.
Jackiex.
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Lovely idea. I will definitely take part remembering my sister Grace who we lost in January this year.
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