Thank you too. Today hasn’t been quite as bad because some of my family has been here. The trouble is that when they go I am back to square one. I am sure you know that feeling.
Day by day and onwards and upwards is my motto. We WILL get through this . . . somehow.
Take care. I shall watch out for your posts.
X
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I do know that feeling , so lovely and almost normal to have them around and then that sudden emptiness when they’re gone. In a way it’s worse than before isn’t it. But you’re right, we will get through this , we have to , plus we don’t have a lot of choice whenIt comes down to it! So nice that that we’re supporting each other on here, too. Hope tomorrow’s a bit better for you, though Sunday’s aren’t the best. Keep in touch! Sending a virtual hugx
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Bless you. You too x
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Hi bjane, I love your messages! I just laugh out loud! Yes, I got through but I didn’t go near a patient! I’ll just do my best but after recovering from burnout, I’ve learnt that I have to look after my health and wellbeing too - not a bad thing to learn. I can’t wait to read about you in the News, popping in to 10 Downing Street to visit Boris!!! bjane for Prime minister! Go bjane! xxx It’s been a long, strange and painful 15 weeks - but we have survived. We’re doing great! How lovely to be invited to Germany. I have friends who travel everywhere alone - but, like you, I prefer to travel with someone - then you have someone to share the memories with. Maybe see how you feel? I think we are in for a 2nd wave so it’s hard to plan anything really. Just relaxing this weekend, reading, sorting through Dad’s photos - found a Christmas card and a postcard that he sent me - so it’s all together in the Memory Box I’m making xxx Hope you have a lovely, peaceful weekend with your family. Lots of Love, Rachel xxx
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Yes you must look after your own health, Rachel, you’ve done so much for others but you are more important. Glad you’re thinking of that.at least a bit! Hard when you’ve always cared for others, I know it doesn’t come naturally to anyone in the public sector. Watch out Boris if that pay rise doesn’t materialise!! 
I think you’re right about the second wave, we’re already very restricted here, makes you wonder if it’s ever going to end. But as you said we’ve come through these awful 15 weeks under awful circumstances , so I think we can do anything. Conquer the world!! Marly might not be coming on Tuesday, apparently a storm’s forecast and he doesn’t travel very well . Poor little thing! I’ve told them to take their time. there’s no rush and I don’t want h getting upset. Having waited two years to get another cat I don’t think a few days are going to matter somehow! It’s nice that you’ve got a memory box for your Dad a friend made me one and I’m in the process of filling it, like you. Bittersweet isn’t it, lovely memories but so sad too. K We’re going out for a meal to celebrate our next door son’s fiancées birthday. Not the same without Malcolm but we’ll try to make it a happy occasion, he was very fond of Amy. Hope you’ve had a lovely relaxing weekend and hope next week goes well, let me know if there’s any trouble!! lots of love xxxx
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Sorry to interupt your thread. I am not tracking you but each time I see a new entry I say " let’s see what the girls are saying now". It’s nice to have a rapport with a friend. Best wishes to you.
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Hello Al, you’re not interrupting our thread, think we’re way off topic!! Feel free to join in, how are you doing? Hope you are coping with everything life’s throwing at us. Sleep tight x
Hi bjane, it was nice of you to ask me to join in but I feel this thread now belongs to you, RCB and Meebee. I know that’s not in the spirit of the site but it gives you a good place to chat. No doubt I will catch you all on other threads.
Bless you all, AL x
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So nice of you! Hope today’s one of our better days.x
Thank you RCB. I am now on a waiting list for the counselling. so I just have to wait and see, Take care of yourself and thinking of you. Just trying to catch up with your msgs again. Trying to see how you got on at work. I have been thinking about you.
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I totally like the idea of walking a dog for someone else just now that needs it. I would get the chance to have some time with a dog and be helping someone out and maybe make a new friend into the bargin. yes definitely a win win situation. Thinking of you.
hi bjane I really enjoy being part of your conversations it gives me great comfort as I am sure it does to many others who join in with you both. However the private msgin thing involves pressing an envelope, Although with me i always like to ask permission to private msg or I tell people its okay to private msg if they want to. As for flying on your own you don’t have to take one of your kids. Or its not so bad flying on your own if you know someone is coming to meet you at the airport. You are braver than you know. I went to Germany years ago and the part I was in was really pretty. My friend and I went on a bus tour to Munich that also went through vienna and paris and holland. I had learned french at school and she had learned german but its turns out that school french and school german is very different from actually speaking it. We got lost and tried to ask our way back and it was really easy to ask the question but not so easy to understand the answer. luckily we found someone who spoke English. You will have a much better time because staying with a friend is always better and it will be really good for you to have something to look forward to. It might not be till next year but half the fun of going away is in the planning. Take care of yourself and keep posting. Thinking of you.
Hello Meebee, as long as our conversation isn’t boring or annoying people then we don’t need to go private. Thank you for telling me how how though!! moretodogstrust.org.uk and cinnamon.org.uk are sites with info on dog walking and fostering, hope you can find something suitable. That’s very reassuring about flying,might have gathered courage by the time we’re allowed to, at least there’s no rush! That made me laugh about your trip to Germany, reminded me of a trip Malcolm and I made when we were students. We were meeting up with a friend whose fiancée was fromYugoslavia, as was , but we had to change stations on the way . Our friend had given us several phrases and questions we’d rehearsed and learned for when we got off the train. But of course, same thing , we couldn’t understand a word of the replies!! We somehow got where we needed to, but have no idea how, can’t remember!! Let’s all keep posting together, at least we can find each other again on this strand! Night nightx
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Thanks for the links I will look into them. Yeah the plane is just like a big bus short journeys are pretty safe. The only problem is the recycled air they use and COVID. Of course nowadays again once the COVID is over you can use the train or the boat. But the real issue is the loneliness of the travel. So plane is probably best for that because you are not in it for a very long time. Your conversation is supportive and engaging. It makes us lonely bods not so lonely being included. Definatly lost in translation stories make good memories afterwards. Learning phrases and even learning conversation only really works out well when you are buying food and things because there are set questions and answers. At least you have the memory. Take care.
Just join in thats the point of this that you are not excluded. i too felt like that on a couple of conversation strings before on here (even on one I set up) but I began to just join in anyway and found people to talk to because they were kind enough to include me in their conversation and thats how I became part of it. I now only drop in and out and find conversations are way ahead of me because of the way this website is laid out its sometimes hard to catch up but it is worth the effort. And you are wanted to join in. Of course you can also private msg ppl too if you want don’t let yourself be left out on here if you need people to be there for you. Let people know you need them. Its the same thing in real life just now. You are vunerable and need suppport but some people who want to be there for you might shy away until you make the first move. I know that that may be really difficult for you. On the other hand if you think its off topic and want to talk about something else why not start a topic yourself and invite people to chat with you. Hope you are coping well relatively speaking.
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Morning Meebee! You’re up early! Sleepless like me today? It’s so nice to have someone to talk to when the rest of the world’s asleep.And nice when everyone joins in, shouldn’t really matter which topic, thread etc, we’re all in pain and supporting each other. Sometimes I find I’ve strayed onto a different topic from the one I was trying to find. But there’s always something relevant on every one , so we can give and receive support in different areas. Wishing you luck with dog walking!! x
Rachel, how are you doing? Hope work’s going okay and you’re not finding it too much for you. I’ve got a migraine today, must be the weather, so keeping under the radar in the dark with cups of tea! Sending love xxxx
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Meebee, meant to reply to your comment about learning phrases for shopping being ok. I saw a massive watermelon outside a shop in Greece and looked up the word, went into the shop and repeated it. The owner came out and I felt quite successful when he picked it up. Unfortunately he thought I wanted the whole thing and poor Malcolm ended up having to drag it all over the place as we were a
long way from our accommodation ! And it was so hot! But. lovely guy that he was. he just did it with no word of complaint. I didn’t realise how lucky I was.Wish zi could tell him now 
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Hi Meebee
I know just how you are feeling. I lost my husband in April and I have never felt so alone, lost and empty. It’s so good to chat with people in the same circumstances. Take care.x
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Yes there are some lovely people on here and we all understand what each other is going through. We drop in and out as we need or to keep in touch with friends we have made on here and see how they are coping. I think of late some of the people I have met in the last few months in some ways I now know better and have confided in more than people I have known for years. It really helps. So keep posting and getting involved and I hope that some of it helps you feel less alone as it has for me. I also hope that you have some good support from family or friends in real life as it can make all the difference. Thinking of you in your loss.