And Greencat, that’s a lovely song , says it allx
Thank you gentlemen, The song was a favorite of mine and my departed wife back when we were
just married - we went to a masgurade party in 2009 – it was always a favorite of mine. Today it the song
describes my inner thoughts about my wife. It’s sad but it makes my thoughts about her true. Glad you thought of us. I did love her so much. <iss her.
Greemcat 
Sorry Crazy- Kate — i overlooked you but thank you for your response - it means so much to me to be thought of. Yes, I loved her — THE SONG SAYS IT ALL.
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Jonathan, thought of your wife and her cuppas this morning when I was making mine. It’s the loneliness that gets you isn’t it, no one to share those little mundane moments with. And with all the lovely family, friends and neighbours in the world nothing can change the fact that you’re on your own and the love of your life isn’t there to talk to and share all those things with. It truly makes you realise, too late, that life’s not a dress rehearsal.If only! Take care
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Hi Bjane,
That’s it in a nutshell. How can making a solitary cup of tea be so painful? Such a simple everyday task loaded with emotion day in day out. All those years of never truly realising the significance of two mugs or cups side by side. Xx
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Yes, loneliness is the main problem with me. Mornings being the worse time. It’s silly things that make me tearful. My wife used to go around the house singing to herself softly. That I do miss.
I was watching the news this morning and at a memorial service they were singing ‘Abide with me’. The hymn they played at my wife’s funeral. That got me going!!
But what I found is that when loneliness strikes I try (very difficult) to change my thought pattern and think of something more pleasant that is happening right now. It doesn’t always work but it helps. Talking to friends, real ones, helps enormously, well it does for me. But all my friends are understanding people. I dropped the others or they dropped me. Better off without them. This grief does sort out the sheep from the goats.
Take care and Bless you. John.
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We never thought it would just be the one cup, did we Jobar. Such a sad sight, how we thought we’d have our partners forever! Loneliness is a terrible thing and I can feel it even when I’m surrounded by lovely, caring people. Truth is, what we have lost can never be replaced and seeing everyone else getting on with their lives just increases our feelings of immense loss. Music always seems to be the one that hurts the most, I feel for you John, it brings it all back . Certain guitar riffs bring on uncontrollable tears, no matter where I am or what I’m doing. Trying to focus on the here and now is a sensible move and I will try to follow your advice. But sometimes, on really down days it’s hard to get motivated to do anything and nothing feels enjoyable. Will have to try harder! Have just been talking on the phone to a friend for two hours, she must’ve known! We are lucky to have supportive friends , don’t know what I’d do without mine, especially in these dire times. Have a good weekend x
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Amen to that. Thank you for your reply! Always appreciated.
Greencat (aka Herb)
Sadly, the more we love, the more we hurt. But, thinking of the alternative, we’ve been very lucky.x
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You’re right of course
Sad but true. Kind of puts things into perspective though x
I have a strong faith dave170520, you certainly have not offended me.
I lo0ved it when I first heard it back in 2009. It reminded me of my wife — it means more now than at the time. I do love her and I do miss her!
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Oh Greencat, as Rod Stewart so beautifully put it “What am I going to do?” What are we going to do? Wish I knew. Take carex
I’m so in love with you.
That made me smile , crazy Kate, do you like him too? 
xxxx
Massive Rod Stewart fan. Been to see him several times in the past. I wasn’t too keen on his American Songbook era though. xxxx
I knew I loved you!! Malcolm took me as a surprise , to see him in Manchester in November. Brilliant! No, that American thing wasn’t him was it. Don’t know if I’ve posted this before but sorry if I have and it’s boring. Malcolm said “What am I going to do? “was exactly how he felt about me( he was a lovely Yorkshire man of few words!) and I decided I wanted that at his”funeral”Had got it booked and organised and was just listening at home one day when I heard the very last bit that we’d never noticed before.”and you look so neat with nothing on” Good god, imagine that ringing out at the crematorium!! There were only three of us there, but still!!
It would have amused Malcolm but probably not some of his family, as it was videoed. Hope that raised a smile xxxx
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Definitely raised a smile bjane 
xx
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Alan was a very big Rod Stewart fan and through going to concerts with him, I became a fan too, we hadn’t missed a single Manchester concert of The Dude, as Alan called him, since our very first one back in 1969 in a small club in Manchester.
I went to see him in November last year with our daughter , didn’t know if I could do it without Alan, I did, it was very tearful, and one song in particular had me sobbing my heart out. that evening was the first time since Alan passed that I purposely sat and listened to Sir Rod, and it was hard, yet felt better for doing so.
hope today is an improvement on yesterday and tomorrow is an improvement on today
blessings
Jen🦋
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