Yep its so hard sending hugs to you i am it hard today xx
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Itās a tough day today all, nothing can prepare me for such heartache, I miss my mum so much and I have never not seen her on Motherās Day with flowers, I used to take her to the garden centre and we would have a lovely day. Iāve bought mum flowers on motherās day since I was about 8 years old, best part of 40 + years, and now I find myself stood at her rose tree, missing her beyond words.
Sending love and strength to you all today, our first Motherās Day without.
An experience unfortunately all of us are living. 
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Keep your chin up we are all here to talk too we will get through this day and the following together x
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I know what you mean its the first mothers day for me too u just feel so lost and empty in side sending hugs and love to u xxx
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Hello everyone.
I hope that you have all managed to get through this special day. Itās been the third Motherās Day for me without my mum. I find it so hard just as you all do. I wish for us all, I could wave a wand and bring our mums back to us all. 
You are all in my prayers. God bless everyone. 
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@Lisa_L51 how are you getting on with life? Thank you for your message and insight about your counselling experience. I think I might try and find something suitable for me. Iām ten months past losing mum and if Iām being honest, I feel like Iām just drinking and doing things to mask all the reality. I hope that youāre doing ok 
xx
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I feel like I need to reach out to you all on here, Iām 10 months into losing mum and so many things are triggering me this past few months.
How are you all getting on? Anyone got any miracle cure or good advice to ease my overwhelming loss and grief
Vic x
Hi Victoria.
Sorry for all your grief. One good thing my lovely is that we are all understanding where each other is at. Though none of us would wish this on anyone, we can at least share and offer some support. Iām now 3 and a half years into loosing my mum. It was just the two of us and our little dogs whom are still with me thank goodness. Iām 60 now so not a spring chicken and I was lucky to have my mum with me for 58 years. We lived together and had never been apart so I found it really hard and still do. Funny thing though, through this wonderful site, I had some counselling early on. It did help as it gave me someone to talk to when there wasnāt anyone else. I had a lovely counsellor. I missed her a lot when the sessions came to an end. But, I also, through chatting here, met another lady. Iām a nurse by profession and so was she. Oddly enough, she too was an only child and despite living at different ends of the country, we got chatting and even now, still email each other every week. We support each other through our darkest days and try to laugh together on the days where grief doesnāt feel quite so heavy. In fact, Iāve had an email from her today and one of the things she said was, ā I wouldnāt have wanted not to feel this grief. My mum was so worth this pain of griefā. As I read it, I can honestly say, I felt blessed to have met this lady here on this site. I completely with her comment and am just about to email her back with my weekly update too. So, I know, Victoria, itās a horrid place and ideally, we would all our mums back with us in a flash. But, given we canāt magic them back here, thankfully, this pain shows just how much we had for them and they for us, always. I hope you have some better daysā¦ā¦but understand, never the same. Itās just a different life. God bless xx
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Thank you so much @PaulaE for taking the time to respond and offer support. It is so welcome to hear about others in similar situations who can relate and understand the grief and loss. I fully agree with the rather grieve like this than not and had my mum in my life for 50 years so very blessed to have had everything and more. Letās hope for a positive day today x
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No miracle cure here, though I wish I had one. But I wanted to comment and say I understand. I lost my dad before Christmas and things have been really tough these last few weeks for me too. Triggers all around and just a feeling of complete hopelessness. He was my best friend and we lived together and Iām the not handling the adjustment too well. Iāve had counselling and am thinking about trying it again. Sending hugs. 
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Thanks @Ulma
Appreciate the support and you taking the time to message. Itās extremely difficult adjusting to life without 
I think I may try counselling again as I feel Iām struggling again to motivate myself to do things.
Sending love and hope you have a nice enough weekend xx
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If Iām being honest, Iām actually in a good place the counselling helped me through the worst of it, everything unraveled in my head and Iāve learnt to deal with everything as it comes instead of letting it weigh me down Iāve actually been too busy to think itās only early house of a morning when I wake up and I think itās a new dad today and wonder what it has in store for me, Iām on a high right now but understand that I could come down with a bump but I can deal with those days and I have had a few I canāt believe itās been 8 months without my mum and although I feel everyone has moved on they probably havnt they are just dealing with it in there own way, I had to make a choice I could either let the grief eat away at me everyday or I could start living again and I had to chose the latter as thatās what my mum would of wanted, she would be proud of how far I have come and Iām sure sheās by my side every minute of every day guiding me xx
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Thatās so good to hear @Lisa_L51, it gives hope and positive energy that we can get through the loss and grief.
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Morning glad you are finding ways to get by i am still finding it hard i lost my mum in September 2023 i was her full-time carer as she had dementia i feel lost now
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Aww that must of been tough I lost my mum in the Oct 2023, after being told the cancer she had for 26 years hadnāt reacurred to then be told a couple of months later it had spread and she had 6-12 months, she only lasted ,12 weeks and most of that was in and out of hospital. Some days I still canāt believe sheās gone as well never expected the inevitable to happen after she battled year in year out allways on the go to end up not able to walk and in a hospital bed at home with carers and my dad whoās 92 looking after her when I wasnāt there she only ended up in hospital because she kept getting out of bed by herself and falling, in that 12 weeks she had been admitted to hospital 3 times the 3rd time she never came home I knew she wouldnāt she was too unwell and was in constant pain, we visited everyday and Iād stay till late, I needed to be with her as I didnāt really know how long she had and it was less than she was told, I miss her so much and although I have really strong days I also have days when I crumble Iām actually sobbing whilst Iām writing this I havnt cried in a while but itās ok itās aloud. I just put one foot Infront of the other now and take each day as it comes itās been hard navigating our lives around our loss things will never be the same ever again xx
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Sorry to hear this it is so hard you have good days and bad days its would have been her birthday this Saturday i goin to find it hard sorry i am getting upset writing this 
@Lisa_L51 we both lost our mums around the same time, and reading your story, i fully empathise with the grief you must be experiencing. The illness, the fight, I actually realised today that my mum had been so poorly the 8/12 weeks leading up to her death, it was all too much for her to fight off, she didnāt have the strength, and who does at 79. I wish you all the very best in finding the strength to continue how you are doing, I have to say, a good cry on here and reading all the messages and knowing that im not alone in this loss, everyone knows what weāre all going through and can relate with such heavy hearts, thank you all and i hope we all give some kind of comfort love and strength to each other xā¤ļø
Thank you it is hard and yep it was so close between yr mum and my mum death 
i am here if you want to chat
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Hi all, not posted for a while. Lost my mom in Nov 23 to Cancer lifes not been the same since. Life feels empty, i feel like im trying to live the same life when everything is different she was my best friend and i feel so lost without her. I watch other people living life and i feel emptiness like nothing makes me happy. Not sure if my life was empty but my mom made up for it or if its just something im feeling through the grief process just feel lost. I think about joininh groups, or classes or maybe a college course or anything really to try and fill my cup so to speak and potentially make mew friends but i struggle so much with motivation and confidence to be able to put myself outside my comfort zone. Sending love to everyone going through this right now its tough
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Sending love and prayers @Shadow04
I can truly relate to how difficult and painful it is to lose your mum, I lost mine on September and these past few weeks i feel like Iāve gone backwards in grief and reliving it all again. I never really knew that my mum was actually the wind beneath my wings and the impact of her not being here to just ring and talk to about every day stuff or nothing at all is impossible to fill that void. Here if you ever want a chat, this group has given me so much strength and support and I hope we can do the same for you xx
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