So sorry to read you’ve lost your mum and so recently too. You are amongst friends here who understand so well done for doing your post. I’m a lot further along the road than you. 2 years now this Christmas just gone yet I’m still lost and unsure of the world without my mum. I try to take each day as it comes which I was never very good at before hand and when people ask me, both early on and even now, how I am, I usually say….’ I’m rubbish really ‘. I’ll be pleased when people stop asking even though they are probably trying to be kind. The funny thing is, I’d happily chat with someone about my mum as there is only me left now so no other family to chat with about mum, but nobody ever mentions her. Do all you can to take care of yourself and if that means a cuppa and time alone, that’s fine! We are all here for you, lots of lovely people all struggling along day by day. Take care and let us know how you are along the way. Sending love 
Hi i am sorry for your loss of your mum i too lost my mum in September 23 it is so hard to think about life with out her in it i was a full time carer to my mum who had dementia i feel so lost now sending hugs to u hear if you want a chat xx
So sorry for your loss I too lost my mum in October 23 12 weeks today, I miss her so so much my heart hurts she was my best friend to think I now have to live my life without her is a tough one as she was a very big part of my every day life we did everything together she was allways there for me and vice versa her love was unconditional now she’s gone my life feels empty I just don’t care anymore about anything she meant everything to me and my girls who miss her so much their lives have changed dramatically and I’ve become distant, I joined here back in November when in my darkest moment I had no one to talk to not my siblings or even my partner I couldn’t even talk to my dad as he is 91 and he misses her so much, I feel very much alone in my grief at times but a lot of people on here have helped by offering a shoulder even though they are going through similar circumstances you are in the right place xx
I know what u going through its so hard trying to carry on with out yr mum here if u want a chat xx
Hi @Shadow04
I hope you have found some comfort or benefit since posting on here? I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum, nothing prepares us for it and unfortunately we are all trying to come to terms with losing our mum. You really are amongst friends here, such lovely people who can relate and empathise to some degree with what you are going through.
I have found a genuine sense of support and understanding since I wrote my first post on here and it has helped me through so many days and nights.
We’re all here for you, sending love xx
Thank you all for your kind messages back, its a really difficult thing to navigate through especially trying to make sure my Dads ok and im doinh enough to help him as hes on his own now. Just have to take it one day at a time i suppose and hope in time it becomes a little easier somehow. Thank you again for your words of support xx
How are we all getting on this week? Sending love to you all 
It’s been tough for me, trying to arrange gravestones, internments, emptying houses, probates, and work aswell. I went to the doctor yesterday who has signed me off unfit for 4 weeks. Not had 4 weeks off in ten years but feel like I need to have some for me time to reset and get the important things done and leave work where it belongs, bottom of my list.
I’m on 22 weeks since mum passed and I get closure on the estate I can’t move on.
The saying this is the price we pay for love, grief, really does feel like. I have never lost anyone in life until now, and to lose my mum and auntie 3 weeks apart can only be described for me as absolute heartbreak and torture. I hope things start to feel better and accepted soon, I’m at a complete loss as to how to live my life without my mum with me. Any support or guidance welcome 
Sending love to you . Its really hard im still really struggling with losing mom its been 11 weeks since she passed. I just feel so sad for me losing her but also for the life she had left to live its really hard. Hope it eases for us all in time. Glad you went to the Drs and gave yourself some time it really is needed sometimes. I only had a week off after mom passed and that week was spent arranging the funeral and the flowers etc so didnt really get time and theres still days now i feel like i really need it. Take care x
Sending my thoughts to everyone on here it’s 15 weeks on Sunday that I lost my mum and I’m really struggling I miss her so so much I’ve been running on adrenaline for over 12 months making sure she had everything she needed I’m now I feel empty and lost I feel alone I just want my mum, Dr put me on medication for anxiety and depression and I’m 3 weeks in to my bereavement counselling which absolutely drains me after a session feel I’m heading for a breakdown I don’t sleep i hardly eat I have 2 school age children and I visit my 91 year old dad everyday so he’s not by himself I cook meals of a weekend for him, do his shopping, cleaning and take him to any appointments he has I’m so exhausted Dr signed me off work as I’m not coping I was signed off in November but I’ve been off since my mum died end of October they are asking me when I’m going back but I can’t answer I’m supposed to go back on the 9th but only just started my new meds and I have some side effects I’m really not in a great place feel like I’m being pulled in every direction and all I want to do is sleep and wake up and it’s been a dream, but know that’s never going to happen then reality hits and im having to face a life without her and I can’t do it x
Thanks @Shadow04 and @Lisa_L51
Sounds like we’re all at a similar place, I’ve never known life without mum and it’s absolutely brutal.
Time is what we all need and thankfully we’re getting it in some way without the work stress, although it’s sounds like we’re all still running around doing everything.
I’m hoping for a quiet weekend and sending love too you all, to say we have managed this far is an achievement in itself and I’m trying to draw strength from that but I’d give everything I have to have my mum back
I’m sorry you’re not doing well Lisa. I’m in the same boat as you. My mum left in mid October of last year and though the shock and numbness has worn off I still find myself in dark thoughts. It’s as if I’m stuck in a pattern I can’t find myself out of. I can’t to seem to find the courage to let go. I miss and crave her affections and affirmation.
As I was told by my councillor grief is a rollercoaster of emotions I’m going through the calm empty stage at the moment I just don’t feel anything other than being lost and alone I don’t feel apart of this body it’s like I’m looking into someone else’s life not mine I’ve felt weird for over a week now x
@Shadow04 I don’t know your circumstances but if you’re able to take some time from work, strongly recommend, the difference in stress levels and anxiety is noticeable already in just 2 days. I was so busy and running on adrenaline after mum died, I barely had any time off, and then 3 weeks later, my aunt passed, who was always mum no 2, she had no children and I was her everything and we were so close. The double grief is definitely a rollercoaster and I’m hoping to sort some private counselling next week, nhs I’ll wait months. We’re all here in this together and as strange as it sounds, complete strangers, I feel we will get each other through xx
Here if anyone wants to chat privately, no magic wand, but full empathy and understanding xx:heart:
@PaulaE it’s sometimes easier to talk about how we are coping and feeling on this platform where there is a genuine sense of empathy and understanding rather with people in our life’s like friends and aunties, they just don’t get the enormity of what we have lost. As much as they mean well xx here if you ever want a chat
Ive never had counselling before so I didn’t know what I was expecting really I didn’t expect to feel like this i just had to let it all out verbally to someone who didn’t know me I talk they listen they validate what I’m feeling I’m working through my grief and emotions with the help of my counselling but it’s exhausting it takes a lot out of you I had hid so much for so long I’d pushed everything deep down inside and it finally brought everything to the surface, so is it helping, I’d say it’s only just cracking the surface didn’t help I had to wait 10 weeks to see someone but in that time I joined here and that released some of what I was feeling x
I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom October 2023. My world has gone. I feel the same. My mom had a hip replacement came home not to well. She had a fall she did not want to go to hospital. Then died suddenly gone no more. What do you how do recover from someone who has been in your life forever. I have no life i really do not want to continue. I know in my heart she will never come back. But why should i live and feel this pain which i cannot describe. It will ease i have tried so hard i really do not know what i can do.
Sorry for your loss, I also lost my mum October 23 it still feels like yesterday that she left, my whole world collapsed she wasn’t just my mum but my best friend someone who was always there for me no matter what, I’ve woken up this morning and I feel empty inside what would of been a lovely day spending it together as mother and daughter but also as a mother myself has gone forever, how do you carry on, i also felt what was the point I’ve had really dark days, I had to force myself to carry on as I have people depending on me so I joined this forum and it’s really helped me a lot I’m so grateful for everyone on here, I’m also having bereavement counselling once a week one to one, that’s helped massively I talk my councillor listens it’s 1 hour for me to let everything out, I still have really bad days, but I’m working through them and the medication I’m on is helping although it’s exhausting mentally and physically, we know exactly how your feeling and we are all here for you we are on this journey together take care.
Hi thanks for your message it is so hard like you my mum was my world but now she gone it so empty with out her being here to talk to her and hug here i miss her so much here if u want a chat xx
Today has been the hardest her not being here, spending the day with her spoiling her it’s been horrible, I went the cemetery and me and kids took her flowers x