@Anna_321 the way that you express yourself so well in your words, its lovely to be on the receiving end 
thank you so much 
the weird thing is, my mum said to Jen (my fiancĆ©) way before she was poorly, you have managed to anchor Vic, and she has, she has anchored me. No one ever did before her and Jen only told me this after mum had died. So I 100% have mums backing, but i seriously need to drag my arse into wedding mode and Iām million miles away from it right now xx
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Absolutely agree with this entirely xxā:kissing_heart:
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@VictoriaB1 absolutely lovely news xxx you are blessed, you deserve this happiness, I am so pleased for you š©· I agree with @Anna_321 and especially as your mum loved your fiancĆ© it is a blessing. I can imagine being split in two though, you are sad but you are loved too x it will definitely be emotional in many ways
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Iām struggling so bad with being happy about getting married, but I know my mum knew that this would happen, and she pretty much told me. This is how close and open our relationship was. Howās that for f***ed up x
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Anyway, enough about my challenges, and thank you both for your lovely words and support
Whatās happening with you both this weekend? Xx
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Thatās really sad 
I can imagine that would have been the most heartbreaking conversation to have with mumā¦ gosh itās making me emotional for youā¦
You could maybe do a little special tribute for your mum in memory on the day, Iāve seen some people have a table with photos of loved ones with candles, or play a special song as a first dance. My friend lost her dad when we were 19, he used to sing and he recorded a few songs, and she chose one for her first dance which was beautiful x
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No plans for the weekend, itās quite chilly so planning to stay indoors and hibernate til Monday, I may go for a walk, depending how I feel as sometimes I just need to get outside for fresh air. How about you ? X
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Awwww x thatās lovely š©·š©·š©· just remember your mum gave her blessing to you both and no one can take that away from you xxx
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Same, im staying home, probably in my pjs all weekend 
weāre forecast snow all weekend so that will suit me
I live in a little town out in the country on very high ground, definitely getting snowed in
Whatās your weather forecast? You getting snow?
Can i ask you both a question? What song did you have for your mums funeral, church service or cremation xx
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@VictoriaB1 @Anna_321 sounds like a perfect weekend to me ! Indoors,
Get the snacks in and lots of hot drinks! Iām in London so wonāt get snow but cold, wind and rain, itās a bit slippery outside and small areas of frozen ice but not a lot.
We had a cremation and the music was: upon entrance - instrumental gentle version on piano of Dancing Queen Abba (mum loved that song & Abba) and we had one religious one when it was the committal and we ended with Here Comes The Sun by the Beatles as mum loved that song and used to sing it x
How about you both ? X
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I love this @Sienna1
Itās so unique as to what we choose/ or what our mums choose for their identity in passing. We had bette midler and the rose for mum, one of her favourite songs
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Oh wow thatās a beautiful song, very meaningful, I would be in floods of tears with that
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So glad thereās snow forecast 
means I donāt have to give a **** about much this weekend
Where abouts in London are you? I work in London just outside Euston xx
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I had to practice listening to it all week before the funeral, if not I would have fallen apart
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When mum lost consciousness in hospital I played Abba and she actually moved her head side to side, although she was not able to speak, open her eyes or move, that was the only time she did, it upsets me remembering that scene in my head but also I know she could hear us 
itās just constant repeat with the flashbacks of it
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Iām in West London, near Heathrow! Handy for flights 
I used to work near Euston a few years ago 
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Very true haha ! Just get cosy and block out the world x
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Oh and I heard back from counselling Iām having an initial assessment in a couple of weeks time ! Iām dreading it actually, I will see how it goes. I just want to learn coping methods for my brain and these flashbacks which trigger me off.
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