That was lovely Paula sorry to hear about the house etc but I’m sure you will sort that, I’ve stayed with my dad last 2 nights slept in my mum’s room that’s were I have felt the closest to her and I’m not too bad, we got through our 1st Christmas now I just have all the other 1sts to tackle mothers day will be a tough one we shared a very special bond mum and me, I have was born on mother’s day in 1972, we spent every mother’s day together plus my girls this year I’ll take flowers to the Crem then take my girls for lunch somewhere nice, dad can come along if he wants too x
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@PaulaE what a lovely read that was, it’s so nice to hear how things have changed in a positive way. You have so much strength and positivity to do the things you have since losing your mum, I will take strength from that too.
I’m with you on the church and community it offers, I find great comfort in going to church and intend to do it more often in the new year.
Sending love and I hope you have a good week x
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@Lisa_L51 Christmas with your dad sounds like a day surrounded by love and peace and that you felt so close to your mum is so comforting, I’ve felt so close to mum too this Christmas, just by lighting the candle and talking to her.
I hope you find the strength to have a good week and thinking of you all at this truly difficult time. 
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Dear Victoria,
Sending you love and kind thoughts this christmas time. You are not alone. It’s a tough season to be grieving.
I lost my dear mum 6 weeks ago and the hole in my heart is so huge. I resonated with your post as I’m in the same position - lack of sleep, lack of interest. Her funeral was 2 weeks ago.
I’m hanging in their for my dad and brothers, but its exhausting having to be strong. I miss her so much.
I don’t have any advice other than taking it day by day.
Take care. Rob x
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Thankyou yes I didn’t want him to be alone Christmas night so I stayed kids didn’t want to so went home with their dad, time to go home tonight I think spend time with my girls watch a movie or something x
Sorry to hear of your loss Rob, it’s been 9 long weeks for me since I lost my mum, she was my best friend my heart has been ripped apart I feel a lot calmer today now that we have got through Christmas I knew it was going to be hard but we got through it, now as you said we take one day at a time now, my aim in next few weeks is to get my self well enough to go back to work I’ve been on sick leave since she passed away in October I just couldn’t deal with it, I could just about get out of bed I was crying constantly I couldn’t eat,never slept couldn’t deal with my kids and I just broke, I’m gradually picking myself up I’m sleeping a bit better I’m eating a little and I my girls are the reason I get up in the morning they are my priority my mum wouldn’t want me to live the rest of my life sad so I’m doing it for her I choose to live for her as that’s what she would want me too do, my girls make me want to carry on,
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That’s a lovely plan to have Lucy. I always find comfort feeling close to mum too. Look after yourself. Whatever feels right is your mum watching over you I’m sure of that. X
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Thank you so much Victoria. I know I can’t have our old life back and such little energy and interest in a new one but maybe, some new kind of life finds as when it’s time. I hope if you go to your church community, you find something special this year which helps you. Take care. 
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Yeah you look after yourself too, I don’t know what I would of done if I had never posted on here in November the love and support we have given each other over these last few weeks has helped me get through my darkest of days and now that I’ve gotten over the side effects of my medication for my anxiety I actually feel calmer and more relaxed I feel I have a purpose now where as 9 weeks ago I just wanted to disappear every day is a constant reminder my mum isn’t here but I’m dealing with it a bit better than before I have to it’s not fair on my girls who need their mum and that’s what I am, I’m their mum and I need to give them the unconditional love my mum gave me xx
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@RobBeat08 I’m so sorry for your loss of your dear mother, there are no words to express the grief you must be feeling. We are all in the same club on this feed and I hope, as I have done, you find some comfort in talking to people on here who can fully empathise with your loss.
Christmas was the most difficult I’ve ever experienced without mum.
The strength you are showing to share your story and support your loved ones is admirable, day by day is exactly the approach I have taken .
Sending love and support is here if you ever want a chat xx
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@Lisa_L51 I couldn’t agree more. Look after yourself and your girls, and this page has been a godsend to me, like you, it’s got me through some really difficult days and nights. Thank you all for the love and support
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Hi all,
Another week has passed, it’s 20 weeks to the night I took mum to A&E and 20 weeks when she passed come Monday. I have no idea how I have managed to get through almost 5 months without her in my life and it feels like it was last week. Does time really go this quick or am I in some sort of fog? I can’t seem to grasp where 5 months has gone.
I hope you’re all doing ok and have had what we call a good week, or part good week, the last 2 days for me have been tough.
Just wanted to send some love out here on this wonderful supportive platform, knowing I’m not alone and we’re all going through it xx
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Last 2 weeks has not been great, everything resurfaced all the emotions everything just when I thought I had a handle on things I’m right back were I started I miss my mum so much my heart actually hurts, I’m so exhausted my body constantly aches my eyes are so sore, I feel this fog in my head that won’t shift when I look back I still can’t believe this has happened is like I’ve stepped out of my life and into another one can’t explain it really x
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Hi @Lisa_L51
I know exactly how you feel, I’m so sorry you are having a tough week and sending love.
Xx
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It is like time doesn’t exist as it did before, it’s as if we’re living another life and I’m in this fog with you, I can’t seem to shift it. Weekends are also a massive challenge so here’s hoping to taking it a day at a time xx:kissing_heart:
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Thank you Victoria it’s like no matter how hard I try to re evaluate what my life is going to look like now the thought of moving forward with my life just brings so much pain, the thought of never seeing her again talking to her, hearing her laugh, seeing her smile, my girls getting hugs my youngest cuddling up to her on her chair none of those things are ever going to happen again and it breaks my heart, very emotional today and it’s only 11.30. The thought of having to go through the rest of my life without my mum, my dear loving mum, I just can’t do it.
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Try not to think about your whole life ahead because i agree, the prospect of my life stretching out with no mum in it seems bleak and pointless. Just focus on getting through today - thats tough enough i know.
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@Ally6 @Lisa_L51
Thank you both, I am too already having an emotional start to the day, I need to force myself up and get a shower.
The days ahead are so hard, I miss mum so much, we used to talk 4 times a day over nothing and her love was just there without effort, I can’t believe how the impact of her not being here is having on so many levels, I even feel like I’m a different person without her and I can’t get myself back. Sounds crazy but it’s true. Sending love and hope we get though the weekend with some positivity xx😘
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I really feel for everyone on here who has lost their mum or dad, there is nothing better than a mother’s love and I so miss it, I hear what your saying and I don’t mean to look that far ahead but sometimes can’t be helped it’s just in my head constantly.
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Hi, my 1st time writing on here, i lost my mom in Nov 23 and im struggling with the loss she was my best friend and i miss her so much 
people ask how im doing but i dont even know where to start
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