Hi Deborah…What a lovely family you have and it’s obvious they care so much about you, of course you miss your lovely daughter and you always will, life will never be the same again. But with the love of your family you will find the strength to be able to cope with life…you are already taking those little steps forward…Take care…Marina xxx
Thank you so much Maddie
To be honest every day feels like a never ending nightmare so his birthday doesn’t feel worse.
So many of his friends will be there plus an ex girlfriend, he stayed friends with her as he did with most of them.
I will make a toast to him, my boy, his dad and stepmum will be there but it was me who was with him every single day.
Just hope I make it through the day
Love Anne x
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Aww Deborah
We are living in an unending nightmare
All we can do is celebrate their lives but its so hard and I’m not sure how I will be. One of his ex girlfriends is coming and I was very close to her so that will help to have her there.
Thinking of you Deborah, we are going through unimaginable pain together as are all the wonderful people on this site
It doesn’t get easier darling
One day at a time
Anne xxxxx
All these anniversaries are so difficult and we dread them coming …but somehow we are given the strength to get through them even though there is always many tears…You will make it through the day because you will have the love of your son to guide you.
Thinking of you…Marina xxx
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Thank you Marina
I hope so
Anne x
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Dear Anne,
You will be in my thoughts tomorrow 
sending you my love.
Michelle xxxx
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Dear Anne,
Thinking especially if you and Scott today. I wish peaceful, calming thoughts for you. Sometimes these so special days are better than we anticipate and this evening I will light a candle and toast you and your beloved boy. Much love xxx
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Sending love to you today Anne. Last year when it was Lisa’s birthday, Jemma and I sat outside the Deli here in the village with individual wee bottles of Prosecco and held on to each other as tears flowed. My husband went a long walk with the dogs as he needed to be on his own.
It is hard but it’s the celebration of their birth. So special to every mum.
With love, Kate xxxx
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Dear Anne
Thinking of you today. I will be lighting a candle for your precious boy later. Much love Deborah xx
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Hello Kate,
I agree with Marina no need to apologise, we all have crap days crap weeks and on here everyone understands:
As far as I can see grief will never truly end. It may become softer over time, more gentle, and some days will feel sharp. But grief will last as long as love does - forever. It’s simply the way the absence of our children manifests in our heart. A deep longing accompanied by the deepest love. Some days the heavy fog will return, and the next day will recede once again. Its all an ebb and flow a constance dance of sorrow and joy, pain and sweet love.
With love
Helen
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So true Helen. Brooke was a joy this weekend. I bought her new Fairy bedding and curtains. She was delighted. However, it was a b n b room so now I will have to paint in a palest pink for Brooke. We are now only taking medical students rather than full b n b so Brooke has her own room here for as long as she wants it.
Love to you and all. Kate xxx
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Dear all
That’s so lovely Kate - how magical for Brooke
Anne, I’ve been thinking of you today, I hope it wasn’t too difficult and you felt Scott’s love for you.
I’ve really missed Henry today. Some days are still so hard.
Thinking of everyone on here - we shouldn’t be 
Hugs and love
Purple xx
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Thank you everyone for your lovely messages. I went to the braes where we scattered his ashes.
I had lovely support from all of Scotts friends. We all had a wee drop of procecco and I made a toast, I wrote him a card and left it there and I scattered some wild flower seeds.
I did feel emotional but I got through it with my son Euan, Scotts friends and even his ex girlfriend who he had stayed friends with.
I’m so proud of my boy and the life he had.
Thank you all for your support
Anne xxxxx
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Kate,
Your wee Brooke is beautiful, what an absolutely gorgeous girl, she must lift your spirits.
Anne xxxx
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Dear Anne…I am so pleased your day went well… we dread these days coming and it’s amazing how we manage to get through them but with the help of family and friends we always do…You gave Scott a lovely and remarkable birthday so be proud of yourself I know your boy would be.
Take care…Marina xxx
Thank you for your kind words Marina
Anne xxxxx
Hello Anne,
Im so glad you and Euan got through and all his friends, it’s not easy.
with love
Helen
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Thanks Helen
Anne xxx
Hi all
I’m really not doing well. Drinking lots and crying all the time. I miss my girl. Don’t know what to do.
Deborah xxx
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Darling girl it’s so hard. Many times my husband and Jemma have found me crumpled in a heap on the floor as the overwhelming grief took the legs from under me. I don’t know the answers. It hurts so much, not only in the early months but for a long time afterwards.
We here all know how bloody awful it feels. Dome days we ca hardly move as the pain is so great.
Believe me, we all know what you are feeling. We feel as you are feeling. Somehow we get through it and learn to live but it’s tough, tougher than anything any of us have faced.
Hang in there, you will get better in time.
Much love,Kate xxx
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