Dear Kate…It’s heart breaking to lose a dog they are part of your family, but especially to lose a dog which belonged to your daughter Lisa is heart breaking…When Christian died he left us his two beautiful Staffies, Fred and Ginger and it was these two dogs that helped me through the first few years of Christian’s death,we walked miles and miles never seeing anyone just immersed in our grief…and then last year they both became ill and within three months they both had died, and like you with Lisa’s dog ,I felt I was losing Christian all over again…Life can be very very cruel.
Thinking of you…xxx
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Dear Lisa and Marina, I am so sorry you have lost your children’s dogs. We have Gemma’s dog, Elvis and I dread anything happening to him. Gemma adored him and took him everywhere and we love him so much.
Coren and Evelyn looked after him for us at the weekend and took him to the pub quiz!
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Kate, I’m so sorry to hear this.
Thinking of you x
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Hi JSS
He was such a brilliant character, went off travelling around the World. My husband and I both tried to talk him out of it, we said how are you going to pay for it. He said I’ve borrowed £5,000 off my bank so I said how are you going to pay that back…his answer was how are they going to catch me. But he worked his way round the World and sent home the payment each month till it was paid back. When he was working on a fruit farm in Australia he met Mathilda his wife and they went home to Sweden (she is Swedish) and whilst there he was diagnosed with the tumour came home to tell me and couldn’t go back so they lived here we got them a flat. My eldest Geraint runs his son Stan’s football team and his friend came to a match as his little boy plays, his friend has 2 children a boy 7 (same age as Stan) and a little girl same age as the twins he’s 39. He collapsed at the game and has bee diagnosed with a stage 4 brain tumour he has been told about 6 months. How much more can we take…he is such a nice man with a lovely family
With love
Helen
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Dear Kate
I’m so so sorry to hear about Jeeves, what a gorgeous dog.
I still miss my wee Archie so much, like yours he was running around like a puppy just the day before and now I have Ruby who adored Scott so much that we can’t say his name in front of her or she would cry and look out of window.
I have her sitting next to me now, I’ve been crying because it’s November and it’s nearly the years anniversary of losing Scott and it’s hitting me hard.
Sending hugs
Anne x
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Dear Victoria
I have been exactly the same, I work in lush, people are all in for christmas presents. Last year I stayed lying on sofa all day crying as I’d just lost him and this year there will be no tree, no meal etc. I hate it now and I’ve been crying all night and like you I just want to curl up in a ball and never get up. It’s so unbearable now Scott won’t be coming over to see me.
Sending hugs, you are not alone.
Anne
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Dear Jss
I’m so sorry to hear its your first christmas without your son.
I lost my boy last November, can’t believe this is my second one without him.
I refuse to celebrate it, I avoided it as much as possible and tried to just distract myself. I hope you have friends and family who will support you through it
Anne x
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Hi Anne
Kathryns anniversary is one year this month too. Like you I have been doing nothing but cry. I can’t seem to hold it together and just about made it to the car on Sunday without breaking down when I saw her favourite type of Christmas decorations in TK maxx. it doesn’t seem to get any easier does it. I’m struggling with work and every day life, I keep getting invited out but I don’t go. Its all so hard. Deborah xx
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Oh Anne, the anniversaries are so hard. They hit us as it marks the heart aching time since we’ve seen our children. Sometimes it seems so recent and raw but others like a lifetime. Losing Jeeves as well was awful as he was Lisa’s 21st Birthday present. Fond memories of going to choose him.
Its just so dreadful that we have to face life without them in our lives.
Thinking of you.
All my love. Kate xx
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Thinking of all of you ladys so much sadness . This world so wrong im dreading xmas and my 60 birthday in november. Sams been gone 6 months . Sometimes it feels like forever.i need to talk to him .yo touch him . I need him back in the front room making me laugh at night .my poor boy had just had his 25 th birthday is there a god …i hope sam is safe thats all i want to know… the sadness is endless… my daughter jess 29 just had a benign yumor removed from her mouth and has skin grafted on to gum its called alemoblastoma she has to be checked every six months .shes grieving sam isnt that enough she has three beautiful kids dont understand where uncle sams gone the oldest 8 . Its to cruel my grandaughter said nanny punch the sky and pull sam back down . We need to trll him something .i want to forget xmas but for them i cant. Sam was so brave . He bought them all a big present on teds birthday 7april last time sam could get to his sisters .my heart breaks for me my family and all on this forum …im sorry we are here. Im sorry for going on . Thinking of you all sending love and hugs love zoe x
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Hi zoe9 . That’s just how I feel, If we only knew they were safe and happy. We spend our whole lives worrying about them and trying to help them and keep them safe and happy as best we can . Suddenly they are gone and we can’t help any more. I feel that sense of helplessness so bad, I find myself saying sorry to him all the time, but I feel he has my love and I have his always.
It must be such a worry about your daughter to now , that sounds awful, you really must be gasping for breath with it all.
Xmas, we have to deal with as best we can, put on a bit of a brave face for others. The Christmas songs are really getting to me , my son was very musical so all the memories they trigger are too much, They are in the commercials on tv and radio, in the shops, everywhere now , I feel my heart sink every time I hear them, really want to scream out load.
Come on here when it’s your birthday , don’t suffer it by yourself we won’t say happy birthday but we can give you a virtual hug and send love. Jss xx
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Hi Zoe Jss is right please do post on here on your birthday. We are all here for you.
Deborah:orange_heart:
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I have come across an amazing blog for bereaved parents called ‘abedformyheart’ which is beautifully written … I hope you find it helpful. Much love to you all xxx
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This is so true! We here have a special bond. Brought together through the loss of our children. Kindred spirits who share our deepest pain and love each other through friendship and support.
Sending hugs and love to you all.
Thankyou Victoria for sharing that.
Kate xx
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Victoria, this completely describes the devastation we feel and how we have struggled and still do to exist.
Thank you for sharing
Chris x
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Dear All,
Sorry I have not been able to post for a while as we have had Mathew’s inquest which was in Oxford and took 6 days, it was an awful time and we have waited 2 and half years for it, we are all glad its over and want to move forward with our grief now and try and focus on more positive ways to honour our sons memory 
you may have read something about Matt in the news but he was a soldier who got attacked by an Elephant whilst on anti poaching operation in Malawi, he would have survived if they would have got him out sooner, they have made 30 recommendations so that something like this never happens again, nothing will ever bring Matt back but hopefully this will help to keep others safe. much love to all love Michelle xxx
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Michelle, this is so tragic. You and you’re family must be completely drained after such a harrowing time. I do hope you can now begin to regain some strength to get through the coming weeks, little by little.
Thinking of you
Chris
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Omg! What a dreadful time you have had. I did see this in one of the news feeds. I am so sorry you have had to wait so long to get to this point.
Sending love.
Kate xxx
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Michelle my heart goes out to you and your family .small steps .much love zoe xx
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Dear Michelle…What an horrendous thing to have happened and then to have had to wait so long for the outcome…what an ordeal for you and your family…hopefully now you may find some peace and solace in your lives.
Thinking of you and your family.
Marina xxx
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