Dear Ajth
I will be thinking of you tomorrow and will light a candle for your precious son. Crying is ok, it’s our way of coping. With great love comes great grief. Bless you and your son.
Much love Deborah 
Will be thinking of you tomorrow. My daughter lived in the Isle of Man with Covid none of her aunts / uncles or cousins couldn’t go . Love to you x
Dear Ajth…My Love and my thoughts will be with you tomorrow, a day none of us thought we would ever see that of our child’s funeral, but from somewhere you will find the strength to cope…
Thinking of you Marina xxx
Hello Ajtr , will be thinking of you tomorrow, on which will be a very said day Take care Maddie xxx
Dear Jss
I’m so sorry you’re feeling low after your dream. I used to count the days that I hadn’t seen Henry… it was like a compulsion and so painful.
I then worked out that every day that passes is a day less I have to live….and therefore takes me closer to being reunited with him. That helps me.
Whilst I felt I couldn’t go on without him, I have another son, grandchildren and family and friends. They need me here.
This time of year magnifies our losses…it’s so hard for everyone with the rest of the world carrying on as normal and all we want is our life as it was 
I’m sending a hug and love to you.
Purple x
Hi purple thanks for your words, i completely get what you say and I have actually said that to my sister about every day I live means one day less that I have to live and she just tut tuts me. I have an older son who lives away but I don’t think he really needs me so much and I don’t feel i will ever be any use to anyone ever again anyway as I am beyond broken and can’t even think properly anymore. There is nothing I can do except wait , one day it will be my time to, I tell myself but I don’t think anyone else can really understand this unless they have experienced such devastation.
Love jss xx
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Dear JSS
I know it’s hard to believe but you will find it becomes manageable…for more of the time than not. But it’s such a slow process and birthdays, anniversaries and Christmas are always going to be a challenge.
It’s so early for you…the pain has not had a chance to soften. I felt broken…I was broken…but I’ve limped along with love and support- especially from friends on here.
Grief can consume you to the point you can’t remember what it was like to feel joy…or positivity.
Hang on in there though - be kind to yourself - you will survive and carry your child with you always.
Much love
Purple
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Dear Ajth
I’m so sorry you have your child’s funeral tomorrow.
I’m sending love and hugs to you and your family.
So many of us have trodden that path…
we’re here for you.
So many angels we wish were here.
Purple x
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Maggie i totally get where your coming from we all do .life has give us this to deal with i dont know why hang on in there its so hard zoe xx
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Will be thinking of you tomorrow your strengh will come to get through the day .will light a candle thinking of you love zoe xx
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So many angels xxxx
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Hi Purple thanks, I hear what you say but I feel in a way like I have deserted him as I am still here and I don’t know where he is and I can’t help him any more. Does that make sense ? I feel I should be with him , I have been there for him for the whole of his life , now nothing. Like I am letting him down 
xxx
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Dear Ajth
A funeral for a child is so unbelievably painful, I feel for you and will light a candle gorgeous your son. I’m so sorry
Anne x
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Hi Deborah
These nights in their memory is all we have.
I’ve been struggling, had to leave work on Friday as I couldn’t stop crying. I’ve been meeting friends a lot but I’m so drained, still in disbelief and finding work too much.
How were you through the anniversary? It’s so awful isn’t it? Why did it have to be our precious children?
Thinking of you, a awful, horrific year for us both
Sending love
Anne xx
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Hi Jss
It’s a struggle and I end up over tired and emotional.
Had to leave work early as I burst into tears, I’m on the edge and not getting enough sleep is tipping me over.
I try to stop thinking of my boy as that is just too painful.
Sending hugs
Anne xxx
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Kate
What a precious wee angel
You must just love her to bits
Anne xxx
Hi Anne so sorry you are having such a bad time to at the moment. oh those tears that we have no control over that just POUR down our face . How can we cry so so many tears. It seems a mothers tears are never ending. Yes sometimes that’s the only way I can get through, is to try to put him to one side and get on with what ever I need to, but then always end up feeling so guilty as if I have forgotten him, but I could never forget him just try to put him to the side of my mind for a while.
I have flowers by his photo always and light a candle everyday and talk to him, but there is never any relief. This journey is just too hard, there are no answers. Just kind friends on here that help us get through. Take care love jss xxx
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Hi jess i feel the same cant stop the tears . Is this it why has this happened . Its so wrong .my poor daughter misses sam so much .its changed all our lifes . It has to get easier .this pain in our hearts thinking of you all xxx
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Dear JSS
I understand how you feel you’ve somehow failed…that’s a common feeling as a parent. We’re here to protect our children and they should survive us. When that doesn’t happen…they go before us…it’s beyond anything we’ve experienced.
We haven’t rehearsed it…it’s like a bomb has gone off and our life is floating in bits around us. Nothing makes sense…it’s like a nightmare we can’t escape from.
Talking to others and sharing our emotions is a help…but it can’t take the pain away.
However we can live the best life possible as our children would want us to do…as we would want them to do if things were different.
We had our children and they were the best gift ever.
I used to worry about Henry coping without me but I send him love every day. That will never stop. However he’s there and I’m here so all I can do is be here for the people this side.
Sending you hugs and love
Purple x
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