Dear All,
Such beautiful words Victoria 
thank you for sharing,
Kate ,beautiful photos of precious little Brooke, so glad you had a lovely day
Maddie am so sorry you are struggling remember we are here for you always
Lovely to hear from you Anne, when one of us doesn’t post for a while we all worry
Zoe such lovely photos of your beloved son, I wish we could reach up and pull them back down too
Sending you all my love and holding you in my prayers 
Michelle xxxx
Dear Bluebird,
So deeply sorry for the loss of your precious son 
my heart goes out to you and what you are having to endure, please know we have all walked in your shoes so we truly know how you are feeling, so you can open up as much as you want and say anything and we will all try to help you, My son Matt died in an accident May 2019 he was in another country and had to be repatriated, the pain is always there but you learn to live alongside it but in the early days you don’t believe you ever will, you literally don’t want to live without them somehow you manage to carry on for the love of your other children, the words that Victoria shared are very special and hope you found them helpful take care and sorry you have joined us but please know we are all here for you x
Much love Michelle xxx
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Dear Bluebird, I am so so sorry for the loss of your precious Son, .and that you have had to join our family , but we are all hear for you as we will all understand what you are going , . Victoria what a beautifull poem , that just the words we all want hear that our loved ones are walking beside us . Take care everyone hope you all have a peaceful week . Maddie xxx
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Hello bluebird
Glad you came to this topic .we all in the same heartbreak .just all at different stages .im so sorry for your loss .nothing makes sense .just come on here .everyone lovely .it stops me going crazy . I feel no one wants to talk about sam passing .but everyone on here understands the pain. Thinking of you so sorry for your loss x xzoe xxx
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No Zoe,
You dont ramble we all have those jumbled thoughts, I have kept a letter to Sam I started writing just a few months after he had passed and when you read it back, well it’s a jumble of thoughts but it helped. Told him how I cry when no one is about because its easier told him all about the bust up Geraint and me had (his elder brother) Ger just could not cope with losing Sam and so blamed me although that is easing now. Im crying now walking down memory lane. Your Sam will be all aroiund you, I always feel my Sam when I get like this.
All they want is to help us.
Love Helen
Oh Helen this is new life now . Have to try to live with this pain . Your still hurting our boys so precious .i hope they having fun .where they are and the angels know how special they are much love zoe
After Dawn passed away 2016 I had a text from her Bt account . It was a shock didn’t know what to do , the f family said don’t open Mum , but on her her first anniversary had the same text , as was so tempted , but I didn’t , in way way I wish I had opened it ,Was it it real or not ?so so wish I could get anything from Dawn ,I am sure on her anniversary .whenher photo dipped from my dresser she was there , with love Madis xxx
Still haven’t heard from Sarah , I just feel we are a hindrance to her . I think we have to accept we have to deal with life by ourselves . X . Oh my god I thought we bough our girls up , we did everything for them , . Sarah used to be such a caring girl . I don’t know what’s gone so wrong xxx
This is my son Simon he was 36 when he died of a brain tumour 3 months ago , he was my life and now it’s so unbearable
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Dearest Maddie, so awful for you with the Sarah situation. I think that grief rocks a family’s centre of balance and it is very common for relationships to struggle after losing someone. I think because we all grieve in different ways and that is at the heart of what happens between us. Everyone acts differently and need different things. Some people cling to each other and others need space. I wonder if Matt is taking advantage of this and making Sarah cling to him? Have you thought about family counselling for you and Sarah? After we lost Gemma, we did a bereavement course through Child Bereavement UK, with Charlie, me, Balint and Sally (Charlie’s daddy and step mum). Even though we all get on so well, it was helpful. As you know, Tiffany and I have had problems but thankfully okay now. I am sure that maybe Sue Ryder may do something similar then you and Sarah could rebuild your relationship. I am sure she still loves you, you have brought her up beautifully and it will be okay in the end xxx
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Thankyou Victoria , but do yo know I don’t care anymore , if Sarah feels like that , well I V can’t change it The worsts thing is I miss Jessy our Grandaughter . We behave done so much for her and her family in the pass . And now I think just let get on on with it . . I have had to cope with my grieving by myself over the last 5 years , so that’s it John my husband as accepeped it from day one . Not one of the family or friends ever brings up Dawns name. So feel life is so hard , trying to keep her name a shining light . Maddie xxx
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What an handsome boy…one to be very proud of… xx
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Beautiful young man. Like Lisa she passed 15 days after her 31 Sr birthday. Its so sad.
Love to you.
Kate xx
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Dear Maddie…It’s so sad to hear that you are so upset you can feel the sadness in your words, I can’t help I know, but I can tell you I’m thinking of you and hoping that soon you and Sarah will be together again as it should be…Take care .Marina xxx
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Hello Bluebird,
Simon looks a lovely caring soul, like my Sam a brain tumour, it is so hard seeing them slip away knowing there is nothing you can do. This life is different now, and I talk out loud to Sam even now, and I bet he thinks I’m completely bonkers but it helps me. I remeber only a few weeks after he died I was in the kitchen trying to make a cup of tea or something and kept crying, and I heard so loudly for f**** sake mum just get on, I’ll see you in 20 years, it was so clear and loud I turned because it was exactly how Sam would say it, he has sworn before but not at me and always apologised but no apology that time. He was always one for a ‘get on with it’ attitude this is the hand that I’ve been dealt.
Troubl.e is I’m not sure I do get on with it or cope a,though I try
love
Helen
Hi Zoe,
Yes this is our life and it’s s*** as I said to Bluebird I ralk out loud to Sam, he probably thinks I’m bonkers but I don’t care, I do what I can to get through even after 5 years. I have learned to cope but even now the tears will fall they will always fall because he was special just like every other son or daughter on here. This is a club no one ever entertained joining but join it we have and all we can do is help each other listen to each other.
Love Helen
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Dear Bluebird,
Such a handsome lovely looking young man, heartbreaking looking at him as he looks like he doesn’t have a care in the world, think of him like this carefree and always by your side, look for signs you will see them if you look, we have so many from Matt we know he is with us always.
Take care love Michelle xxxx
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Hello Samsmum, my proper name is Peter, my thoughts are with you and your family.you mention your son died a number of years ago but your pain seems just as raw now as when your son passed away. It must be so hard for you to try and live your life with a cheerful attitude. I find when I’m out talking to my friends (which is rare) he is always in the back of my mind . Also I notice people who over the years have really abused their body but they are still walking around, and my son who was careful what he ate kept himself fit then gets a bloody brain tumour, I know I should never think like that, but it’s so cruel. Today my wife brought out all the sympathy cards which we’ve kept to read a few and we just cried and cried. We feel like we’re punishing ourselves. I’m sending all my love to you and prey you find some comfort in your life
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Dear Peter, thank you for posting the lovely photo of your Sam. He is very handsome and looks lovely. I lost my daughter, Gemma, almost 4 years ago and it does not get better but it somehow changes. I do feel more peaceful now and calmer. I still get very tearful at times but I recover faster.
I talk to Gemma and I find that helps. They are still our children and that will never change xxx