Thank you Marina … it is so hard for us all xxx
Thinking of you.
Kate xxx
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Thank you Kate 
xxx
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Hello Victoria,
I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Gemma will be so proud of how you have learned to somehow cope if that’s the right words. Tomorrow will be hard, but I find the lead up to the day seems harder somehow, probably because your anticipating your loss. When the day comes we are given strength to deal with the day.
Love Helen
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Hi victoria
I know ive not been on here long .but you all been so kind .be thinking of you tomorrow sending prayers and love zoe
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Dear Deborah,
The bears are so beautiful like Victoria said put them away until you are ready, I know you will love them when the time is right.
Love Michelle xxx
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Dear Victoria,
I will be thinking of you today 
these anniversaries are so hard and bring all those questions and memories back but I hope you have a little sunshine to brighten your day and know your darling girl is always with you safely tucked in your heart pocket 
sending you all my love Michelle xxx
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Just wanted to send all my love to all on this site, I havnt felt upto to posting for a while as I’ve just felt empty and not in the best place but have been reading and keeping up with you all and love all the photos and the special words everyone shares about your lovely children
Love Michelle xxxx
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Beautiful! Sending love to you. Tears come even when we are trying to be strong.
Much love.
Kate xx
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Dear Victoria
Thinking of you today.
Much love Deborah xx
Victoria, sending hugs today. Another difficult day to get through. You will remember Gemma with love, pride and beautiful memories. Nothing can take these away.
Love Chris x
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Hi @Donna.m.T I think you may find this chat helpful to you, hi everyone I hope you don’t mind xxx
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My little boy was 2 when he died from meningitis
I try so hard to keep control of my grief but here I am almost 28 years later and I am still struggling with it
The guilt is overwhelming
And I know it’s irrational
I am not to blame but I just can’t help myself
Just 8 months later my husband also died
I was widowed at 24 years old and had to keep it together for my other 2 children
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He is beautiful Donna 
xxx
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Hi Donna
Your life has been so hard lost your beautiful boy and your husband . Doesn’t matter how long your grief you need to talk beautiful pic . We all have what ifs and thoughts and such sadness . We are all here in the same place different stages of our horrific journeys .my sam was just 25 past last april 27th . He had sarcoma a rare cancer . Please chat it does make you feel not so alone all the people on this site are lovely . Take care zoe xx
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Omg you are a brave brave soul. Its good you have joined us here. We all feel your pain. Yes, guilt also. The ‘why didn’t i’
’ I should have known, done something sooner, if only I had…’
Believe me , everyone one of the friends here feel like that.
Keep with us. We all help each other to keep going day to day.
Much love, Kate xxx
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Hello Donna,
Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture of your little boy, like Zoe said we are all on this horrendous journey together, some at different stages, my Sam died when he was 34 of a brain tumour which was diagnosed in Sweden where he was living with his wife Mathilda (she is Swedish) came home to tell me had another seizure and couldn’t go back. It’s been 5 years for me yet like you say it doesn’t matter how many years there are it still hurts. You had a double blow because of your husband as well, please keep posting the people on here are lovely and they support one another, Welcome to our club…for want of a better expression
All my love Helen
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Thank you for your kind words
I very much appreciate them
I am very sorry about your beautiful son, so tragic
sending you lots of love and prayers xxx
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Thank you Kate I appreciate your kindness very much
I am sorry glad I found this place
Everyone really does understand and reading everyone’s stories makes you realise that no matter how hard it is, there is a way forward
And you just have to allow yourself bad days xxxx
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Hi Donna…Looking at the photo of your beautiful little boy I cannot begin to imagine the pain and the heartache you went through and then to lose your husband the grief you felt must have been utterly unbearable…
I lost my only sister in January 2017 we were so close to each other I still love her dearly, but far worse was to come when in December the same year we lost our youngest son Christian it was so sudden he was on his own in his flat when my husband found him the shock and the loss is something that will be with me forever, we can never recover from losing a child regardless of age. But two things which have helped me immensely is my family and then all the people on this site we are all in it together we have all loved and lost a child we all know the pain which is and always will be with us but, being able to talk freely about how we feel and knowing there is someone always there that completely understands is the biggest help of all.
keep posting Donna…Take care…Marina xxx
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