Thank you so much for posting that, those words are very uplifting, cover everything and say it all. I am constantly screaming on the inside and often scream with a pillow on my face as loud as I can, just to let it out, and have so many should/ would/ could’s. Amazing insight .xxx jss xxx
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Hi everyone thank you for all your lovely messages such kind words. I know i say it .but i would be lost without you all. Your all amazing im so sorry we going through this nightmare…that was so nice to read thank you victoria big hugs zoe xx
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I thank you for this beautiful poem. I promised my it would be a no tear day. These beautiful words. I feel I’ve written. Thank you so much 
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Hi everyone .remember me telling you i went dorset with my friend and when we got there. On the side not in bookcase was david Attenborough book sams fav . We just smiled but i thought it strange then yesterday my friendgot an email from the owner its so strange!
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Thank you Victoria and all my friends on here, it always makes me feel better when I read your messages. We’re going to get the results of my son Simon’s post-mortem next Monday .we’re going to have a zoom meeting with the doctor as he is in Paris. Hopefully he will give us some answers as how does a fit guy suddenly acquire an extremely aggressive brain tumour. We and all of his friends are still in a state of shock. May all of you have a peaceful weekend, all my love , Pete
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Dear friends. Well, as we all know something can suddenly tip us over the edge and we just want to run away and cry till there are no tears left. I don’t know how I managed but today I met a very dear friend for lunch. She was saying to me that a friend of hers from Glasgow had just lost her husband recently and now her 18 year old daughter, cause of death still under investigation. So then she just said to me ‘were you all with Lisa when she passed?’ I just went all sweaty and felt sick. I couldn’t swallow and I could feel the tears about to burst out. I was back in that room at that horrendous moment and I was just unable to speak or do anything.
I know she didn’t mean to upset me but we all know that if they haven’t experienced what we have, they really don’t realise that being taken back to the worst day of our lives, is not really what we need.
So here I am, offloading to you all and now I feel much better.
Thankyou all for being here.
Lots of love to you all.
Katexxx
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Wow Zoe that is amazing, 
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Cant get my head round it and dont know what to make of it xx
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Dear kate sorry youve had a rough day …this grief just hits when we least expect it to ibreally hope youve calmed big hugs love zoe
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I am OK but lost it when I got back to my car. I also didn’t want my friend to realise how much she had upset me.
However, I have had indigestion all afternoon. The stomach churning!
Much love, Kate xx
Oh dear Kate , I feel so sorry for you , it doesn’t take much to take us back to the worst exsperiance of our lives . I am sure your friend didn’t mean to upset you as she is just starting to go through it . But it doesn’t help you I know ? and I know you will be there for her . This week has been a funny week , have been up and down with my feelings . But on a ebook the other day , someone had posted the old maternity house where I had Dawn in 1968 , so everyone was posting what year they had their babies there . And of course I did , but said we lost are beautiful daughter-in-law 2016 . And straight away A lady called Stephenie said you were in the delivery room Sam time as my mum . And I knew who she was talking about , we were having. race who could give birth first . And of course Dawn entered this world first . But the funny thing is the nurses said that Dawn was the most beautiful of babies . And she I said I was unholy and like a Budd . Which I think she was so wrong . But she sent me of a lovely photo of her and her family and she is beautiful . But she Isaid I went to the same school as Dawn and she didn’t have a bad bone in her body and she had the most lovely eyes . Oh God what did our lovely children do to deserve to go so young .?Sending love to all and hope you all have a peaceful weekend . Maddie xxx
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Sorry Kate I got it wrong . . that it was a friend of you friend . Not having a good day as it’s 5 years 3 months since we lost Dawn . Cxx
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Hi Kate,
These times come when you are least expecting them, you can be in the best of spirits and then all it takes is just a word or a place and within seconds you ae back to the beginning once again…this is our life now…we just have to learn to except them…
Hope tomorrow is a better day for you…With love Marina xxx
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It’s OK Maddie, I did get a bit carried away trying to explain.
Thus friend was the first I phoned after Lisa passed. She just screamed and called for her husband Jim. I could hearvhim howling and crying too. We go a long way back. Hence the fact I was nearly choking on my food trying not to let it all out as she would have been so upset. She didn’t mean to cause me pain so I held on till I got in my car.
Hard time fir you Maddie. Anniversaries are the worst.
Much love, Kate xx
Hi All
15 months since my beautiful girl left us. I still can’t believe it, I still cry at some stage every day. The last few days have been awful, don’t know why they just have. I feel like I’m not coping at all, I miss her so much 
Deborah
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Helllo Deborah, sorry you are feeling so down. What have we done to lose our beautiful girls . I know it doesn’t get any easier. When people say time heals I could I punch them.I wish there I was something I could say or do to ease your suffering . But I am sending lots of love your way . Maddie xxxxxx
Thanks Maddie
It just doesn’t get any easier, I just feel lost and so upset. Maybe I will have a better day tomorrow.
Deborah xx
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Hi Deborah so sorry . Its such a horrible wicked feeling. Sam been gone 10 and half months .hes 26 tomorrow . But in my head im stuck at 24 .coz he had a month being 25 and was gone . Ive got lots of balloons and got cakes for the grandchildren . Ive done it as if hes here then im thinking you silly cow hes not coming im broken zoe xx
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Zoe, go ahead and celebrate Sam’s birthday with your family. It will be difficult, there’s no hiding from the sadness and the huge hole in your lives. Your Grandchildren will join you in remembering their wonderful uncle. Balloons and cake will be absolutely perfect.
Sending love
Chris xx
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Thank you chris xxxx