Well done to you and your family. It must have been a mix of pleasure and sadness for you. A beautiful baby. Xxxx
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Beautiful!xx
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Such a beautiful little girl Deborah. Iâm so glad everything went well for you.
Actually my niece has recently had a baby girl and sheâs called her AubreyâŚbut with a âyâ.
Love and hugs Sue xxxx
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Aubree is beautiful, Deborah. So glad the day went well and that your darling Katherine was included. Much love to you all xxx
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Hi All, we all feel so much benefit from sharing and chatting here. Bad days good days, lows and highs, describing thoughts only those here can comprehend, no judgement only support and understanding. Weâre all uniquely different but weâre all the same in a unique way.
I thought Iâd share this
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Dear Deborah,
Your granddaughter is beautiful, so pleased your day went well , sending you much love 
Michelle xxxx
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Dear All,
I just read this poem which is beautifully written and oh so true. It is by Donna Ashworth.
YOUâRE THE GHOST
Thereâs a part of the grieving process,
where your soul kind of leaves your body too.
As though itâs off searching for the one you lost,
somewhere in the ether.
You walk around,
doing all the right things,
putting one foot in front of the other,
living,
but itâs really as though youâre the ghost.
Perhaps you are.
Perhaps your soul searches,
until you find the one you miss,
and they tell you to go back and live.
So, when that numbness passes brave one,
maybe itâs time to do what you are told,
go back and live,
twice as hard.
You donât belong there in the ether,
nor do you need to search for the one you lost,
they find you.
And when they do, youâll feel it.
Donna Ashworth
From âI Wish I knewâ
#griefpoetry #griefquotes #griefsupport #griefpoem #donnaashworth
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What a beautiful poem, thank you so much for sharing it. Sending hugs.
Sue xxx
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Beautiful Victoria, just read it on Facebook . Words are so tight , thatâs how we all walk around at first , like we are on a different Planet , Not understanding what has happened to us . Untill our loved ones start to send us little messages to let us know they are still walking by outside. Love Maddie xxxx
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Sorry should have said , . By our side . Xx
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Hi,
Itâs my sons funeral tomorrow and I don"t think I can cope. I have just come back from the funeral parlour to see his coffin and it was so awful, Iâve been in floods ever since. How on earth fo you get through the funeral of your precious child?
Xxx
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Hello Susan, my daughters funeral was in February. I coped because somehow you find the strength. Itâs ok to cry all the way through, everyone will understand. Someone had put up a big display of photos of my daughter and I didnât want to look, thatâs ok too. You donât have to pretend to be ok, how could you be ok? You will get through it tho and I hope you are surrounded by love and support. I send you my heartfelt understanding, mother to mother. Xxx
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Sue its our worst nightmare but somehow we get through.
I remember just staring at the coffin thinking my beautiful girl was asleep in there. Every time we had to stand my legs would give way and I had to hold on to my husband. I remember hearing little Brooke saying âGranny is sad Daddyâ. The wee soul. Our daughter Jemma, Jamie and Alan were so brave but I wasnât. I just wept and wept. Itâs OK to do that. This is your child. You donât need to hold it together for anyone else.
I will be thinking of you and hope you can get through the day.
Much love to you.
Kate xxx
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Dear Susan, I know it feels completely unbelievable but somehow you will find the strength to get through tomorrow. The other people will be there because they love you.
This is the last thing we can do for our precious children and we are all thinking of you, sending you waves of love which will help you along.
I will be thinking of you all tomorrow and sending my love
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Oh Susan , well what can I say , my heart aches for you . The worse possible time ever . I know this sound hard hard but you will get the streanth yo get through the day , as you will not want to let yourself down , but if you do what the hell , oiits your child for Gods sake . Everyone will understand . I know with Dawn we were not aloud to few her , as she died of malunition and liver disease. . . But leaving her her in the dreaded undertakers over Xmas breaks my heart , . So the day of the funeral , I felt I was a ghost of myself , totally in shock , and I didnât cry , But since that day in2016!havent stopped crying since . . Will be thinking of you Dear Sue . . . Love Maddie . Xxxx
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Thank you all so, so much for the kind messages, I take great comfort from them. You are all so kind and it helps so much to know you all understand having been in this dreadful place yourselves. Take care xxx
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Will be thinking of you tomorrow . Sending love Maddiie xxxx
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Dearest SusanâŚNo parent ever expects to have to go to their own childâs funeral itâs all wrong we the parents are meant to go first life is not meant to be like that we are not prepared mentally for that to happen and when it cruelly does itâs like a numbness that takes over your mind and body and itâs that numbness which will give you the strength to get through tomorrow âŚlike everyone else I will be thinking of youâŚWith love Marina xxx
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Dear dear susan my heart goes out to you .he was your son .you do whatever you feel .be thinking of you and your family sending you strengh and hugs .we all here for you much love zoe xxxx
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Dear Susan,
Along with all the friends on this site I would like to send you love and strength to get through tomorrow, somehow you will get through, we will all be thinking of you and here to help you in anyway we can in the coming days 
God Bless
Love Michelle xxxx
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