Dear Jess, you are right in thinking about getting through the next hour, the next day … this terrible journey is baby steps all the way. I felt as though I was going mad too and still do sometimes. Perhaps I was … the saying ‘mad with grief’ is so accurate.
The only hope I can give you is that it has somehow got better with time, which I thought would be impossible. I will forever live with an undercurrent of sadness now but it is not nearly so overwhelming and I do have joyful moments now. We are through the worst. I hope you have a peaceful day. Much love 
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Thanks Victoria for your words, yes I do feel at the moment that it will be impossible for this to get better , doesn’t seem to be moving even an inch in that direction so far. I try to keep hoping.
How lovely you met the woman with the mirror and hope that you become good friends . She must have been so pleased to talk to someone who “gets it” , can really relate to it all, and I expect you told her about this site as well. Maybe she will take a look and find comfort here to, as we all do. Xx
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Hi all. Thank you for your kind comments. Had a long conversation with my wife today and the question came up. When is the rite time to throw or give away stuff that belonged to your child. ??? Obviously I’m not talking about photos or keepsakes. I’m talking more clothes or possession,. Or if they didn’t live at home then basically all of their stuff. I realize this will be different for everyone. I personally haven’t kept anything. Apart from a few photos. He didn’t live at home when he died. Im ok with that. I have my memories and I wrote his biography from the day he was born till the day he died. I just wondered do some people keep everything
Jim.
Well Jim
At the moment i have sams room just has he left it clothes .trainers .everything as though he is here .it brings me comfort and i cant imagine it being any different who knows down the line i will feel different . I have his cuddly dog which i kiss goodnight i even put his aftershave on it .so its his smell . May be im nuts …
Think im having a crisis at 60 …i went and had a small heart tattoo with sams name .never had a tattoo in my life .its wierd one day and its give me comfort sam would be laughing he had no tattoos. The man said your get a sign later . I then reliazed i got the tattoo on the date 27 th sam passed 27 crazy stuff we think about xx
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Hi Zoe,. You are far from nuts. I believe people have to do what suits them best… whatever you can find comfort in. Me and Sam used to love the program,still game. We loved all the jokes. After he died my wife had caricatures of all the people in the program made and we had them framed and put on the wall. Everytime I walk past them I smile.
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Hi jss
I hope life gets more bearable its like you say nothing seems real your waiting . I still want to shout . My sons dead at people . As we know grief stops nothing life goes on .and so do we . We just have this underlying ache all the time . Stay safe my lovely friend 
Hi victoria you was truly ment to meet that lady .life does strange things .i hope you become friends . Take care my friend love zoe
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Hello Jim and good day to all. Acceptance is definitely the hardest part. Some days you feel like you have accepted it, and then other days you’re like I can’t believe he is gone. You’re mind might know that he is gone but your heart hasn’t caught up with that yet. I take it day by day I don’t like to make plans too far out because I don’t know how I’m going to feel that day. One moment I can feel down and out and then an hour or two later I can feel like I want to go out and do stuff. It’s such a mixed bag of emotions. Has anyone heard from Ann (Act1) I have been thinking about her the last couple of days.
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Thats lovely jim x
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Hi Jim. Are you in Scotland? We live in the Highlands. We love Still Game too. Always makes us laugh.xx
Kate x
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Dear friends. We are just home after a fantastic weekend with Jemma who lives and works in East Lothian. Such a lovely coast . We have had a fabulous time and with this amazing weather it was magical.
We found we were all able to talk about Lisa. She was such a character and the things she did made us laugh and the thing is, we were able to laugh. I guess that means we are healing now and able to remember how funny she was .
It felt really good.
Love to you all.
Kate xx
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Dear Zoe,
I had a tattoo of a dragonfly and a msg “Mathew Gift from God, sleep well my Angel” it’s on the inside of my lower arm so I can see it all the time I used to hate tattoos funny how our feelings change, my hubbie has had a lovely one and also he and Matt would always be saying one liners from their favourite films so he has had some of them, it makes us smile when we read them. I have left Matt’s room just as he left it we also spray his aftershave on things, funny how we all do the same things 
Sending love to all 
Michelle xxxx
Hi Kate. No I’m in Manchester. But loved still game since way back when it first came out. We have all the DVDs . I got Sam in to it and then he introduced all his mates to it. Love it up in Scotland. Spent a lot of time wandering around all over Scotland when we had a motorhome. It’s my favorite place . You have some breathtaking scenery up there. My wife and I go up as often as we can. 
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Hi Racy , do you live in the states , as your wording has an American feel , ? Maddie xx
We need to meet up Jim. Would love that. We live north west of Invernesd in a stunning village.x
Hi Kate. Never say never. If ever I’m in your neck of the woods. Would deffo call for a cuppa tea
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How mad thats where i got mine .i keep laughing at my self .me with a tattoo . Yes we really think the same .sendibg you a 🫂 much love
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You do that Pete.x
Sorry, Jim. Haha I was just on WhatsApp talking to our friend Pete. Apologies!
Would love to meet up.
We used to live in Hale but have been in the Highlands for 31 years. I am an Ayshire lass though.xx
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Sounds like a beautiful place kate .never been scotland xxx
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How strange I was upstairs reading all your posts went downstairs and my husband was watching Still Game which we had not watched for ages xxx
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