Thankyou Helen , I do hope you are right , but he’s seems to be a control
Freak . Even jack is trying to buy a house so he can move out . Hope you are keeking well . Can’t believe tomorrow will be 6years 4 months since we lost Dawn and my heart is still breaking, Miss her so so much . I don’t think any of this would of happened if Dawn was here she would of given him a piece of her mind Take care Maddie xx
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I have just Sarah if we can see her on her 50 th which is next Tuesday ,I have asked her so many times , what can we we buy you . But she comes back , mum I have no hair I don’t want to do anything on my birthday . Next day she has her big scan . I for Christ sake I hope she has good news . As I am falling to bloody peace’s . . Maddie xxx
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Hi Maddie - so sorry to hear what you are going through. I’m just wondering if maybe send her flowers for her birthday. You could just put something simple on the card like ‘we love you’. So nothing that could offend anyone but Sarah gets the important message that you love her, before the scan and on her birthday. Just a thought. Sending you all the hugs xxxxx
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Hi Maddie,
What Nell has just suggested is an excellent idea, get them delivered a really beautiful bouquet (use her favourite flowers and favourite colour of ribbon) and like Nell said put on the card We love you very much and are thinking about you every day.
Love Helen
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Hi Maddie
I agree with everyone else but i would check with the hospital or wherever she is that they allow flowers. Many facilities don’t allow flowers. I know how u r feeling i have no contact with my adult children, relationships just got worse after the death of my first son. It is truly heartbreaking to go thru. I have not seen 2 of my grandchildren in over 2 years. Take heart that u still have a little contact, as i have none. Even got threatened with the police for harassment as i would text weekly. They would send severerly abusive responses. It was so toxic for my mental wellbeing i just had to decide to not try to reach out. As it was only upsetting me. Even xmas cards with money in was put back thru my door. My house is going up for sale soon due to divorce and i can’t even decide if i will send my new address when that eventually happens. But can’t bear the thought they won’t know where i am.
Please take hope that u do still have some contact.
Love and hugs
Pauline x
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Tonight I have fallen out big time with Sarah , she still cannot forgive me backchats I in december , which I put something which I don’t recall . I have told her I will cut all famimily ties . Next week is he big scan . But we are not talkinking thanks to her her husband and I think Sarah . I have also told our Grandaughter , and Sarah , we our cutting all tied . My heart is breaking for Sarah , but she has made it quite clear we are in the wrong . I must admit I don’t know how much I can take . One minute I think I am coming out of it , and to night I want to end it . . Life is a bummer . . Maddie xx
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Hi maddie im so sorry you cant seem to sort it . .i think i would still send flowers .hopefully it will sort it self .your all going through so much right now sending you a hug love zoe 
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I must admit , talking with Sarah tonight she had taken sides with her husband . She said I oviodly thinks more about bDawn . I cannot understand her mind , when since we found out , me and John have been depressed , our life has not existed ,I heave been in the worse depressing . I just don’t know what to do , we used to be do close . Xxx
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Darling Maddie, life can be so hard at times and you have had it harder than most lately. Honestly my heart is breaking for you and John. Sadly when we suffer a bereavement other family relationships can fracture.
I am sure that Sarah realises deep down how much you are suffering, how much you love her and how much she loves you and she will come back to you. Sending you massive hugs tonight 
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Dear Maddie,
So sorry this is happening to you, i think Sarah can’t be thinking straight at the moment and stressed over her Scan, we all say things we dont mean, send the flowers and write that you love her so very much, thats all you can do, take care sending hugs and love
Michelle xxxx
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Losing a child is the harshest death of all in my humble opinion.
It is all so new, cry, shout, be angry, laugh, remember most of all take all the time you need to try and come to terms with it.
Your son had wonderful, loving , caring parents , believe me that is special gift to a child regardless of age.
Jan
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Oh Maddie
I am so sorry this is happening to u. It sounds like sarah is taking her anger out on u. As she is grieving the loss of Dawn and also finding out how unfair life is now that she has her own health to worry about. Sometimes if a relationship is so toxic u do need to take a step back. I wouldn’t cut all ties yet. Just minimise ur contact and maybe send messages instead of phone calls. Make it easier for u to cope with. My family also said things from years ago that i had no memory of as stupid as crying in front of my grand daughter’s which was so traumatising to them, that stopped all contact. U just have to do what is best for u.
Love and hugs
Pauline 3
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Lovely Victoria
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Lovely words Victoria and so true
Love
Helen
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Hello,
I lost my son 2 weeks ago, to MS. He had just turned 30 yrs old. He only had MS for 2 years and the last 4 months he spent in hospital, getting worse. The specialist tried Chemotherapy to kill his immune system to stop it attacking his nervous system, but it did not work. I was with him when he died and feel so guilty that I could have done more to make sure that he lived and overcame the MS.
I don’t know what to do.
What is the point of life?
He was my only son and I am single. I am so lost.
I understand where you are at.
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Hi daisy so sorry for your loss you will feel that there is no point in life it’s very early days for you and being single you will feel so alone and it’s perfectly natural for all these feelings and emotions to go through your head I lost Leah just over a year ago and I’m still angry heartbroken hoping that one morning that I don’t wake up but these people on here are so helpful and understanding and you can pour up our heart out anytime day or night we all understand what you are going through. Have you considered bereavement one to one councilling it really does help. I’m on my second session in a couple of weeks. Keep coming on here to talk your about how you are feeling you might not think it’s helping but believe me it really does. Take care shellyanne XX
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Hello Daisy
This is the right place to come, everyone of us here has lost a son or daughter and they know the true horror of what you are living through. It is not easy at all and no one understands the multitude of emotions that will go through you apart from someone who is wking the same path, thinking you could have done more and feeling guilty is a normal reaction, please keep posting everyone on here knows how you are feeling,
With love
Helen
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Loosing a child is heart destroying your world crumbles underneath you for me I just couldn’t take it in living in disbelief completely changed who I once was I can’t remember the old me just a world full of pain now I didn’t want or need help or answers just somebody to sit hold my hand allow me to cry but I’d soon be told come on what would your child think seeing you this way ,I got to a no return point where I dealt with it in my own way regardless what others thought if I felt like crying all day I did and still do many many years on but sadly just more grief on top my husband now taking from me too when is all this pain suffering going to stop grief grief it’s enough to send you crazy
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Dear Daisy, so sorry you have had to join us but glad you did. Only we understand the pain and confusion, the guilt and despair you feel right now.
Our younger daughter passed after 54 days on an ECMO machine. It did give us time and hope as she could chat and seemed almost normal until the ladt few days when she got a blood infection. She had her 31st birthday in hospital, bless her beautiful heart.
She left behind her devoted partner and little girl, then just 3 and a half.
Nearly 4 years on for us and find we can enjoy life again. Not as it was, it never will be, but nevertheless we can laugh again. Our little granddaughter brings us all such joy and our eldest is amazing with her.
Baby steps for you just now. Don’t expect too much of yourself. It hursts like hell but in time you will start to feel a little better. There is no timeline, its different for all of us. Just keep posting hete.
Much love to you dear Daisy.
Kate xxx