Well done Wynne, you are so right in what you say about the power of love transcending the world, you have not only run the marathon, which is a wonderful achievement but you have also reached out to all of us, and to our loved ones. Perhaps your achievement can help touch us all along the road to healing .
Thank you Wynne, love Anneka x
Dear Wynne and all,
I am in awe of you ā¦ how amazing to complete the marathon and to hold all of our children in your heart is such a lovely thought. I too am sure you had spiritual support helping you along.
You are right ā¦ the power of love does transcend this world and one day we will all be reunited with our beloved children.
Much love to you xxx
Well done Wynneā¦ I had no doubt that you would do it for you had Danielās love beside you every step of the wayā¦they say that a Mothers love knows no bounds and I think you proved that last week when you stepped over the finishing lineā¦
Sending love and hugs and a big cup of tea ā¦you deserve itā¦Marina xxx
Hello Wynne,
Well done for completing the marathon, what a huge achievement, yes I am sure Daniel was running alongside you and giving you strength. I am so glad that you can try and begin the healing process. We will never ever stop loving and missing them but they are locked in our hearts forever until we all meet them again. A mothers love knows no bounds and that I think is very true. Grief is the price we pay for loving them so much. They would want us to try and get on and that is what each of us in our own way is trying to do.
Once again Wynne, very well doneā¦Daniel will be very proud of you.
With love Helen
Dear Helen, Maddie, Marina and all dear friends,
Thank once again for all the amazing support through your wonderful words. It now seems quite surreal that someone like myself actually completed the marathon. I want to share with you all an experience I had whilest running. I had got to about the 19 mile peg and just felt I couldnāt go one more step. I then seem to have gone into some sort of mist and the when I came out of it I realised I had only just under two miles to go. I canāt explain where the in between miles went but I like to feel it was all our beautiful sons and daughters lifting me up and carrying me. I did feel their presence strongly. Since then it has been so very hard once more to accept the reality of this different life. I yearn so much for Daniel as I am sure you do for your children. Summer is here and he loved so much to enjoy the warmth and long days. Thinking of you and sending love. Wynne
Hi Wynne , Helen, Marina , Victoria , and all.
Wynne you sound very down , when you should be very proud of yourself , we were all behind you, and it was lovely to know to know you felt the presence of our lovely children. So now its back to reality, just trying to find a way to keep them close so people do not forget them , We have just got back from a coach trip on the Amalfi coast , which was beautiful , but I think I mention Dawn to everyone on the coach weather they wanted to hear it or not. Yes we have to except this different life ,what choice do we have ? I yearn for Dawn so much I just want to scream, she would always be on the phone when we got home from holiday wanting to know every detail, thatās the only thing about coming home , its so empty because they are not here. Thinking of you all, and wondering how you are all coping ? Maddie xxx
Hello Maddie & Wynne,
Like you Wynne and Maddie I yearn for Sam just to see him smile and hear his voice anywhere but in my head, yet I know until I pass over that cannot happen. So I trudge on because if I didnāt Sam would be so angry at me and I could not bear that. I had just a few days before got my euroās from Sainsburyās and she put it in a plastic wallet as I have just returned from Lisbon where I went with three other couples all friends of long standingā¦35 years for 2 couples and 15 for the other. I opened the wallet when I got to my hotel room and out fell a feather, so I know Sam was there.They talk openly of Sam when he used to play football etc, they are not afraid to talk about him which is so lovely for me. I had a really good time I laughed and eat some lovely food. And in a quiet moment I said Sam you would love to see this and be hereā¦and straight away in my head came back mum iām here, just enjoy yourself and in the split second I could feel his presence. So what do I do Sam was the life and soul of a partyā¦the things he got up to that his friends tell me of, so I know he would expect me to keep going laugh and enjoy myself so that I will have loads to talk about with him when I see him again in the future. Wynne and Maddie if you listen in a quiet moment they are here. I am absolutely certain that it was Daniel there running beside you and helping you through, talk out loud to him he will hear you. Maddie, there is nothing wrong in mentioning about Dawn to anyone who will listen, it shows just how proud you are of her and she will know that.
With love Helen
Dear Maddie, Marina, Wynne, Helen and all,
My heart breaks for you Maddie. Just so cruel that we have to live without our beloved children.
I was reading this week about a man who lost his wife and 3 children in a terrorist attack and he said ācouldnt he have just left me one of them?ā The poor man.
We are going to Hungary tomorrow to a wedding but I am forcing myself to go as I find such occasions so hard now. Why couldnāt it be Gemma embarking on a new life and being happy? I am trying, had my hair done and a pedicure and I guess thatās all we can do now ā¦ try to fit into this life that you donāt feel part of any more. Hopefully the more we try the easier it will be for us.
Sending you all lots of love and big hugs xxx
Hi to you all, Maddie, good for you to mention Dawn to the holidaymakers and Iām glad it brought some comfort. I know how difficult it would be for me, I would become tearful, itās still so hard and feels raw. But I imagine that once youāve started it must have become easier each time, saying it to so many.
My daughterās husband has now moved in with his partner. (he has known her for a couple of years) but itās all been up and down for us. We knew it would happen one day but it has resurrected the enormity of our loss. I began thinking irrational thoughts so I sought the help of a bereavement helpline. I spoke to a very understanding lady who talked a lot of things through. I do wonder how I go on sometimes, itās all so exhausting. This new life is so hard. Iām so grateful to know that on this site we all share the same pain and that our thoughts are natural.
I hope everyone can find some calm over this long weekend.
Love C
Dear Helen, Maddie, Victoria,Christine and all dear friends. Today is a very hard day - my birthday and I just feel like crawling under the duvet and staying there all day. I know though I have to find the strength to get through the day and put on the pretence of smiling when inside my heart is in pieces. I feel I can share these thought with you all as I know you understand. I admire you all so much and I read your ways of copying over and over again. You are so right when you say Sam would be angry for not enjoying life but it is so very hard. I will visit this morning the place where we have scattered some of Danielās ashes on the top of the hill but even though it is now over two years the grief remains intense. Cards have come to the house but not the one I yearn for. Sending love. Wynne
Oh Wynne,
I feel for you and know exactly how you feel. When I saw Marcus, he said read the words of the last birthday card he gave you. So I did, every card before that one said āthanks for everything you do love Samā, it would say that whether it was a Mothers Day card, birthday or any other card. But my 60th birthday card read, āWith all my love always Samā and from those words I take great comfort and always put it out on my birthday.
With love Helen
Thinking of you today Wynne be as kind to yourself as you always are to others on here 
Sal xx
Hi Wynne I would say happy birthday, but I know that is not the write words, it never will be a happy birthday with out our lovely sons and daughters, but I know you will get through it the best you can , and hope you will surrounds with friends and family that know exactly what you are going through. Best of love Maddie xx
Dear Wynne,
I hope you managed to get through your birthday okay in the end. So sad that days that should be special are now so hard for us.
Just try to remember as somebody once said to me that our loved ones are not far away.
Much love to you all xxx
Hi everyone , we had a very sad day yesterday , it was my husbands 81st birthday , and we had a phone call to say his younger brother was slipping away fast in hospital , he has been sufferinf with blood cancer, for 8weeks so we dropped every thing to drive 100miles to see him one last time with the other brothers and sisters , we were stuck in traffic as the m40 was closed , and the traffic was horrendous , so when we got there we were informed by his daughter who as come over from America to take over , as her mother had a bad fall , and was in another hospital to visit both . She was called.in at 8 oclock as her father was fading, but we got there just too late to see him by an hour, first of all I had made up my mind I would not see him, as the memories of viewing Dawn 2 years earlier would be too much, but the hospital were great and they kEpt him warm as they exspecting us , and I just followed the other for in ,and he looked so peaceful, and all I could say was I so hope Dawn greeted you, it was not as bad as I expected , but last night I was awke all night going through, all we went through with Dawn ,and could not shut it out . Much love Maddie xx
Dear Victoria, Helen, Maddie and all dear mums and dads,
I hope you are all managing to find some way through this journey that has been thrust upon us. I am getting very panicky again as on Thursday it would have been Daniels 30th birthday. We had always said many years ago that we would return as a family to his birth place in Zimbabwe to celebrate. It all feels so cruel that we have to suffer like this and that our dear sons and daughters have been robbed of so many precious years. It is hard when his friends have these milestones and are getting married that we are left in a kind of limbo. Ou children will never grow old or change,
The photos of him around the house reflect his twinkling eyes, light brown flowing locks and his unlined skin. I wonder how you are all doing? Some days I am finding it hard just to get up and dress to face the world. These special days I know will keep coming round but it never seems to get easier. Friends ask what will you do on Thursday which is his birthday and I just mumble in reply ā I donāt knowā. All I want to do is curl up and shut the world out but I know that is not possible. I know we all are in pain these days. Sending love and hugs to you all. X
Ah Wynne,
If only we were coping but like you I get my really bad moments like just now when like a fool I looked at Facebook and Sam and Mathildaās (his partner) photos, what a fool. Now all the memories are flooding back and yes youāre right it is cruel we have to suffer. I will try to pull myself together and start cooking some food, It will be hard for you Wynne, especially as it is a milestone birthday for Daniel. It would be good if you are able to go to Zimbabwe and I know that Daniel will be right alongside you although I understand if you canāt. I talk out loud to Sam, and I know exactly what he will say about me crying nowā¦but I canāt help it like you sometimes, other times I try to be strong.
With love
Helen
Hi Wynneā¦I know what you mean when you say it never gets easier,you would think with time it would, but if anything it gets worseā¦I think the longing to see them just gets strongerā¦I look around our home and so many imagines of Christian comes to mind, I still canāt believe I will never see him here againā¦ that the door wonāt open and Christian will walk in with a big smile on his face saying ( Itās only me) or when I sit at the dining table where there is a empty chair opposite me where he used to sitā¦ or of him sat sprawling on the settee and I would get cross for I was always tripping over his legsā¦so many thoughts which will always be in my mindā¦and always asking myself ā¦why did it have to happen.
I am sending you a big hug with a big kiss for tomorrow ,I will think of youā¦
Take careā¦With love Marina xxx
Hello, Wynne, Chat to Daniel is my opinion, he will never leave you. When you think about it, we canāt see lots of things, eg wind, breezes ect., we cannot see love, but to me it is the strongest power of all. Your son will be proud of you. Mary
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Hello Helen, and all dear friends, just wondered how you are all doing ,havenāt been on here lately,as been on holiday and having to look after our daughter Sarah as she had to have an operation on her foot,so been doing her housework. We have had two funerals recently so pleased none in the same place we said goodbye to Dawn,But I feel so ashamed of myself as I did the one thing ,people say you should not do I spoke to the widow and daughter about Dawn and the things I had been through, now I know how people must have felt after our loss, I really did not know what to say. Hugs Maddie x