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Inspirational Daffy 
Ell
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Every time I cry I feel more drained. How are you doing?
I certainly know that feeling 
x
This time four weeks ago my life was perfect until eleven o clock on Sunday morning when everything was shattered. Dad loved Sundays so I’m glad he got to have his bacon, take bud for a walk. Have a drive in his motor to collect his papers. Glad also that I was home early to have a bit of banter with him before things changed forever x
And that is what you need to focus on sam. Your dads last morning was normal and enjoyable and your dad only briefly knew that something was wrong.
Not that I find things a comfort but I’m good at telling others!
Cheryl x
It’s lovely that is was a normal day for him. x
That’s so true girls. I know he knew what was going on for a short time but not the rest of it. He loved his Sundays x
Sam it’s so hard when you think back “this time last week”. Etc. I used to do that every Monday at 9pm the day and time mum passed. I’m dreading the summer. She died on a really hot summers day. She started to feel poorly with her back in April. But of course we thought just a bad back. I’m already starting with the “this time last year”.
The pain is too much today I just want to hide under the duvet. But will take the kids out. It will make feel bette I know.
It’s a long hard road for sure. Yes I think get out and do something if you can if only for a short time x
So hard not to think this time last year I could pick up the phone and talk to dad, when I knew he was close I started to record every time we spoke so I have lots of voice recordings of him, he didn’t know so it’s just him being him x
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R that’s lovely to have, how nice. Me and mom have got one video from off holiday sometime back and a short video playing his guitar and a voice clip on mom’s phone saying hello buddy to the dog x
I have a few little video clips of Mum, one with her singing happy Birthday to me. No audio or video of my Dad who passed way 20 years ago.
Yes, it is all very hard. Somehow, we must all keep ourselves healthy and well. x
That’s lovely. I’m glad you have that. Super difficult. I don’t even know who I am anymore. Everything I once loved is ruined I feel I hope not forever. I’m actually feeling worse lately than in the beginning x
You will sam.
Shock is wearing off and reality setting in x
Sam
Like yourself, this time four weeks ago, life was also perfect. I had everything I ever wanted. It was just a usual day and then my life turned upside down. All the regrets I now have for not taking more photos of mum, not telling her I loved her, not giving her a hug, all of the things I took for granted whilst she was alive and now can never change.
Sam
Does having a dog seem to help cope with the grief at all. I have always been wanting a dog and my mum was onboard for getting one. (She even talked my dad around) A few weeks ago for the first time she came over unsure and said that she was happy with life as it was, was it a good idea to get a dog. I think looking back this may have been because she was finding it more difficult to cope with her breathing. I am missing my mum so much and I am wondering if getting a dog would help at all, I am also thinking that it was something both my mum and myself was talking about and without mum would it be the same, well it would not be the same but I am sure you know what I am trying to say.
Hi Barrie so sorry for your loss. I think having a dog would be a great help to you. I think now if it wasnt for the dog would we be even getting up and going out. If it was something you and your mom spoke about then you should definitely go for it. She will know and be so pleased that you did it. Also it will give you something to think about apart from the grief. It will get you out and about and also saying hello to different people. I can’t honestly think of a reason not to do it. You could even pick one that you think your mom would have liked which I think will bring you close to her x
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Hi how is everyone doing today. Been a hard day today still sorting things out. Missing my dad so much and just can’t believe his not here with us where he belongs x
Hi sam,
I had an old friend visit me today which was lovely. She lives in Spain but is visiting the uk at the moment.
She lost her mum aged 69, 11 years ago and her dad died 12 months ago, so it was lovely to catch with someone who has been through it.
How are you doing?
I know the next couple of days are going to be tough x
R that was nice then. It’s definitely good to catch up especially with people who actually understand. Yeah feeling it more and more now x