Oh wow, that is so touching. I would have been in bits. x
Although it is really upsetting for us all, I do find some comfort reading everyone’s posts as they sound so similar to my experiences.
I was looking at a few photos the other day and then ventured into mums room, opened her wardrobe doors and there were the same cloths which were on the photos. They just brought all of the memories back when she was here with us.
Similar to Daffy and Cheryl, I lived at home with mum so there are lots of reminders, reminders I do not want to go away but reminders which bring back the raw emotions, because of the size of the house we have I cannot see ever going through mums room and throwing things out. It would be like throwing them out and having an empty room I would not use. Maybe it is just the fact that I am not ready.
Thats so nice Mrs Colt - what a treasured find for you and your sister.
Your mom and dad were / are blessed with longevity - even though right now it probably feels like it was not enough time with your mom.
So sorry you are going through this.
My electrician lost his dad, his son, and his first cousin all in the same year. He is in his mid-60’s, his dad was around your mom’s age, his son unfortunately was only in his 30’s. Somehow he perseveres. I take that as a sign that it is possible to press onward.
Wonderful finds like you and your sister came across, brighten us up.
When my grandmother passed away, my dad (who passed last summer and why I am on these boards) and I found a very old news article in her storage chest about his dad being a town hero - it was an enlightening glimpse into his younger self - I never knew my grandfather and so it meant a lot. We are in the USA - he looked like a cowboy in the photo.
Ell
Daffy
I havent stopped crying since mims furniture went this afternoon.but it’s for the best.
Well done x
Barrie, A lot of the Mums ornaments have been around me since childhood, so they feel like they are mine. I definitely shall be keeping quite a lot.
However, at just over 4 months into the loss of Mum, I was able to make some inroads. Throwing away things like knickers, socks deodorants etc. I suppose as time goes on I’ll add to it.
Cheryl, I hope you are doing ok now? x
Hi Cheryl, Daffy, and Shaun,
Those are all huge steps.
Its so hard. We will get through this. Just put one foot in front of the other, and soon you’ll be walking cross the floor.
Ell
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Thanks daffy
It’s like Shaun said earlier, it’s another mini goodbye today but it will be good for me in the long run. I’ve bought a floor lamp and a Moroccan lantern and they are now in place of the bookcase and display cabinet.
More of mum erased unfortunately x
You always sound so with it and in control ell x
How lovely to find such an article on the Grandfather you never knew and to find out he was such a wonderful man. So glad our older generation keep things like that to enlighten us ‘youngsters’ . Your Grandmother obviously never mentioned that to you so I am glad you found it and were able to see what a great character your Grandfather was.
V xx
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I sing a little tune in my head from the santa claus is comin to town movie - it helps lift u up just a bit.
Hi Ell, you are slightly mad, in a nice way of course. My 6 year old daughter still periodically sings Xmas tunes. What’s even worse is that I find myself humming along. I almost freak myself out by doing it and I try not to feel guilty afterwards.
Have a good day all x.
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I have the occasional day where I find myself having a little sing along to a song. Them feel instant guilt. But I guess that’s progress because I couldn’t really bare music on. Then tried to desensitise myself to Xmas so listened to Xmas songs all the time. I’ve got my playlist on now while I clean and I’ve had a little cry to a Tina Turner song. We don’t need another hero. Just got to me, so I’m sitting down in floods. Will get up in a minute and continue cleaning
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I still cant listen to music jooles.
Lbc radio is all I can handle. Music was such a big part of our life.
Its sunny today and it just feels like last spring when mum was still here and pottering round the house. We were talking about what bedding plants we would be getting in a couple of months.
The passing of time is doing absolutely nothing for me x
If it’s the right song it can distract me. I love prince. I can listen to him as mum didn’t like Prince. But I can’t listen to our favourites
I hope one day I can enjoy music again jooles because I do miss it
I’m just too emotional and cant handle it
I don’t enjoy it really. Just distracts my mind. I certainly don’t really sing along or think ooh love this one. Although did find myself having a little sing song the other day. It’s just noise in the background I guess
This grief does strange things. Mum didn’t even like to listen to music yet since she passed away I have never been able to listen to music other that the radio. Not even too sure why.
Little things spark memories though, went to get my hair cut today. Last time I had my hair cut, mum was still with us and she would always say it was nice when I came home, today even though my dad was in, there was no mum waiting for me to tell me it looked nice.
Out in the garden today I looked back at her room window where I remember the last time I looked from that spot mum was standing at the window and gave me a wave, I remember turning back around and thinking yeah this is really nice, we can look forward to many nice days ahead of us. Not knowing how it would turn out of course.
It is the little things, isn’t it Barrie?
Barrie
I’ve had a terrible day today. I havent stopped crying and I havent been like this since xmas. I dont know why. I guess it’s just the latest wave of grief.
The sun coming into the bungalow today has reminded me of this time last year when we were looking forward to the first spring in the house
The dreams are all gone. I also hate the hairdressers now as mum would always tell me it looked nice
It sure is Mary. It is amazing how the little things keep popping up. Like I said in a previous post, I would not want them to be there, but I just hope at some point they will become less raw and I will smile rather than have a tear in my eye and lump in my throat.