hi i had to fight for everything for Darrell everything from a wheelchair that had to special adaptef for him to medication and appointments it was a farce all the way through i never heard off Darrells gp when he passed away even though he was pretty crap anyway im atill yrying to find the right words to put in a letter to him as Darrell was on a specific medication that had to be checked up on tegularly and they never did and this could of contributed to his death and i want answers from May until December he never had a blood test to check the levels of this medication when he did it was below the level it should of been and they booked a visit for 2 weeks later which was too late so before i seek legal advice i want to send letter x love jo xx
I don’t know if you’ve heard of this Lonely but I think the Red Cross will help people if they need someone to accompany them to hospital visits like you have. It might be worth giving them a ring and finding out and would be a bit of comfort at a stressful time. If it were me, I wouldn’t have anyone to accompany me either but would prefer the sedative injection if I could find someone to come with me.
Thanks Jo, I like the sock idea. He always bought plain black socks so the sock fairy could not lose any, although she still managed it. I always carry one of his white handkerchiefs in my bag. He always had a proper handkerchief with him and at his funeral I gave one to each of his children, it meant so much to them. I talk to George all the time, he would probably say more so than when he was alive lol. I have got past caring what people think of me, nothing could be worse than losing my husband and if they don’t like what I do or how I act that is their problem and not mine. I am such a baby with needles, I can do blood tests with no problem, but just a normal injection and I dread it. I know I am going to have needles tomorrow. I had a baby I can do this lol. Take care and lots of love Debbie xx
if you need me tomorrow when you are at the hospital ill answer you straight back… dont worry he will be with you and he will yell you off if you start worrying about a needle lol xxx take care what time is your appointment xx love jo xxx
You are supposed to be able to get help with many of those things but the lack of information about what you can and cannot claim is dreadful. I hope Barney was a bit of comfort for you at such an awful time.
Debra just think of me - I have to give myself 4 injections a day as well as at least 6 fingerpricks to test blood sugar. Sometimes I feel like a pin cushion and my fingers get so sore and bruised. So, yes, you can do it, good luck xx
Hi Deb hope you go on ok xxx thinking of you xx love jo xxxx
hi Deb hope you are ok xxx thinking of you xx love jo xxx
Hope all went well for you Sheila. I appear to have lost all recent messages from this forum so don’t know how everyone is today. xx
hi maryjane its jo i think there has been an issue with the forum as i have only been able to receive private messages since tuesday evening until yours came through just xxx take care jo xx so dont know how anyone is xx
thanks jo, I was blaming talktalk as theyv’e been messing about with their email and it’s such a hassle now 
I wanted to see a friendly face, as it were, 'cos of feeling a bit down today xx
hi maryjane i was like that yesterday went to doctors and went to pieces x has anything imparticular triggered this or is it just one of those days where whats the point is the answer to everything … i blamed sky at first but when i looked at peoples profiles realised it looked as though no one had posted anything which was unusual i sent a message to Eleanor the community manager but she hasnt replied as yet… i am friendly lol so if you need someone to chat to feel free dont know about the friendlt face but its whats inside that counts lol xxxx anyway im waffling on xxx im here if you need me anytime xxxx take care love jo xxx
maryjane i always have one of my Darrells socks with me like when i went yo the doctors and i get some comfort holding it all the time like a comfort blanket i expect have you got anything of your Peters that can give you some reassurance xxx love jo xx
Hi girls, I was wandering what had happenebd because I had no messages yesterday.
Had my 1st bereavement counselling yesterday - I cried and cried - We have to wait and see how it will be. How useful? I don’t know but I think it will be good to be there and tak and cry and talk some more - quite self indulgent really
Hope everybody is ok
Sadie xx
Aw thanks Jo. It was just a general feeling of what’s the point of getting up and also missing Iain because he, obviously, wasn’t there on our 51st anniversary last Friday and he won’t b there next Wednesday on my birthday. He’s been there since I was 17 and now I’ll be 72 and without him. Where did it all go?love jacqi xx (maryjane was what my Dad used to call me)
Hi Sadie. I had my first session of counselling on Monday and what a mess I’ve been all week. I cried so much that I was physically sick afterwards and felt totally drained. It was good to be able to say all the things I’ve kept bolted up since November. I hadn’t realised just how angry I am with everyone. Hope our next sessions are a little less draining xxxx
Sadie, I’ve found the counselling is a huge comfort because the guy is so nice, patient and understanding. I can cry if I need to in a way that I try not to in front of people closer to me. I’ve seen him now 15 times since the beginning of September and he has got me through some periods when I was pretty desperate. I hope yours helps you too.
It’s not exactly something you look froward to but the feeling of release is both draining and a relief. It does take a while to build up a relationship but I find it’s better because I can say things that might upset my son or daughter. My sessions with my counsellor often have times of black humour and laughter as well as huge sadness and despair. Look after yourself xx
hi Sadie im flad that you took that step for your first councilling session really brave of you well done xxx love jo xxx
hi Sadie im glad that you took that step for your first councilling session really brave of you well done xxx love jo xxx