Hi Sadie,
So glad you’re seeing a counsellor. I found it a great help and would put difficult things to one side to tell her. It got me through those awful times you hit a brick wall, when little things really upset you and you can’t get round them. I’ve finished my allotted time with the counsellor, I went every 2 weeks for a year. I do miss it but try to talk myself through the bad times. She gave me some good strategies and I use them.
The best advice , when I was fretting about practical problems, was 1. Get on and sort it or 2. Don’t bother or 3. Get someone else to sort it!
Good luck and it’s a safe place to cry,
X Chris
hi Jacqi im getting confused with everyones names lol x any way yes time flies so quickly its frightening x he was there are your anniversary and he will be right next to you on your birthday xx he always will be xxx take care love jo xxx
I’ve got a couple of old fashioned linen hankies with Iain’s initials on them that I think were from his granny. They are tucked under my pillow and are so much nicer and more comforting than tissues when I wake up with tears on my face.I take a hot water to bed and tuck it under the other pillow so if I can’t sleep I can put my hand across onto the warmth and pretend Iain is there with me.Am I nuts? xx
hot water bottle that should be
Hi girls, I had my first session yesterday- I also cried a fair amount. At night in bed I was crying as such but tears just kept coming out of my eyes. We have to wait and see
One thing interesting is that she asked me how I felt with the trauma of having Jack changing from someone strong and full of energy to become suddenly paralysed- that was an eye opener because we were so busy and trying so hard to cope that we didn’t have time to think about the shock.
Hope you girls had a good day - I taugh , had nails done an met friends for lunch !
Safie xx
Of course you are nuts Maryjane!!! Haha
We are all nuts
Sadie
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It’s being nuts that meet-ups sane ,
X Chris
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Bloody predictive text! Should have been ‘being nuts keeps us sane’
X Chris
No youre not nuts Maryjane. I have a ritual
I get into bed on Phils side, kiss his picture and touch his ashes urn. Then I say goodnight and tell him Im moving over to my side cos Ive warmed up his side.
If these things mean we re nuts Im even nuttier.
Anything that brings us comfort from the constant pain,
Been even more tearful lately so I have to find distraction,
Love Sandra xx
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lol! xx
I like your rituals but then when he was there with you before he became ill I’ll bet you had your bedtime rituals so why not now?
hi Jacqi how are feeling this evening xxx just thought id check on you xxx love jo xx
Thanks for asking Jo. Just a bit steamed up over Brexit is distracting me for now but when I get into bed is when I get tearful and again when I wake up in the morning. Hope you and everybody else is coping OK and will have a good sleep, night night Jacqi xx
hi Jacqi ive come to bed but will probably end up getting up again in a bit heads all over the place need a hug off my Darrell to let me know everything is going to be alright struggling a bit tonight seems worse at night and in the morning when everything is quiet i would do anything to hold him one last time and i wouldn’t let him go he would have to take me with him… hope you have a good rest night night xx love jo
hi Jacqi how are you this morning xx love jo x
Dear pammi I understand what you are going thru I lost my Dave of 52yrs on 30.9.18 and still find it really hard getting thru each day, as like you we did everything together Even tho I have lots of family and friends I still feel alone as there is no one there to kiss me goodnight. Or like today go to the dentist with me, which I find really hard to cope with even started crying in the waiting room, luckily the reception and dentist Dave very well so they could understand. I find writing on the site really helps as there is so many going thru the feeling of loss like us. Try and just manager one day at a a time as my older brother says really there is not a choice as we must go on trying to have some sort of a normal life. Lots of hugs Queenie
Hi Girls!!
No messages today !!
Hope everybody is ok!
Sadie xx
hi sadie it has been very quiet x thought there was a probkem with the site xx hope you are ok xx love jo xx
Hi all, I went to my best friend’s Dads funeral at the same place I held George’s today and I think I was worse than I was at George’s. I felt awful going out to greet the relatives who I have known for well over 30 years because they were all consoling me instead of the other way round. I think the fact I went on my own did not help, sometimes we try to be too brave and independent for our own good! Tomorrow my niece is getting married and again I am going to find it so hard. Roll on Sunday. I hope you are all okay xx
Debra maybe have a plan how to cope - maybe take something that belong to George - he will be proud of you been there and also I am sure he wouldn’t like you crying and upset all the time
It must be hard but you can do you
Sadie xx