I’ll hold you to that Sandra
Love Jacqi xx
Sandra, I died when Jack died. Now I am this woman that is a stranger to me and I am
Living a life that it is also new to me
And I understand you completely
S xx
Dear Sadie
I would love my heart to feel fluffy , warm and pink … my passion for life at the moment is zilch
My husband has died , my friend is dying . Makes you wonder what it’s all about but I will keep trucking on trying to feel as positive as I can
Sending positive vibes to you too
Love Romy xxx
Dear Romy
Another day!! Today we will have a good day
Sadie xx
Dear Sadie
We will try
Fingers crossed
Love Romy xxxxx
My lifes essence went with Phil.
I wont start liviing again until I get that back and that wont be until I meet him again.
Like you say Sheila this is an existance.
For all.those years we lived a wonderful life now we have to carry on living a half life,
Love Sandra xx
Me too Sheila , thats how I eat all my meals now.
We used to sit at the table and enjoy our food.
Just another thing thats gone into the past.
On our way home, got a feeling its going to be an upsetting homecoming for me.
Another first. Returning from holiday without him
Love Sandra xx
Dear Sheila I totally agree with you.
Theres noone else for me. No other person I could be intimate with or even want to
hold hands with.
This may sound arrogant but theres no other person could hold a candle to him.
In so many ways he was considerate and loving and we could read each others thoughts sometimes. That takes years of closeness.
Thats never going to happen again.
My hand fitted perfectly into his like it was made to measure.
As time is passing I am yearning for him more.
I can only bear to think of the future in short bursts .
As far as looking far ahead I just csnt.
Love Sandra xx
Hello Sandra and Sheila I agree so much with you, as if I couldn"t love Ron any more after nearly 51 years I find that I do. It is so comforting that we feel the same. even after our lovely husbands have passed. Love and hugs to you all. xxxx
Hello Everyone,
Just been sitting here reading your posts. So true, Met my hubby when I was just 16 and married him at 18 and stayed with him until he died after 47 years of marriage, My friend met a man a few years after her husband died and she is now separated as he was just controlling her, to the point of even telling her what to wear. I don’t know how many years I have left. to be honest the least the better, my life came to end on the death of my soulmate. I could never think of trying to replace him, he was my everything People say we have to make a different life for our selves, yes we do but its not what any of us want…
I don’t write vary often but do read all the posts. Love to you all June E
Dear Lonely,
I now worry about things I would never would have worried about before. Probably because like you I had a big old fashioned husband, that believed his job was to look after me. He kept telling the doctors and nurses that not to worry about him, but was really worried about me coping after he had gone.
We do cope because we have too, I so miss the closeness we had.
A friend of mine said, your only 66 get on some dating sites. I think she was trying to help, but I was horrified. I never remarry or even try and replace him. He was my big strong hero. And if there is an afterlife, I hope he is waiting for me.
Take care
Love June E
Hi June E - Jack also was very concerned about leaving me and who would support me.
Ohhh I absolutely hate my life at the moment - it is an uphill struggle and the worse is I know it is not going to get much better
Weekend approaching makes it worse - how I find weekends hard!! How I find lots de strange!!
Tell your helpful friend to stop giving you advice!!
Sadie x
Now girls !! Do you know how long a widow lives after the death of her husband ??? The average is 6 years !! What to do with this information I am not quite sure
Sadie x
We are talking average !!!
Averages mean nothing xx
As you say where did the info come from
In my road there are several widows that have alone for many years
They do say we are the stronger sex.
I remember that when I am struggling to lift something heavy
Try to have a good weekend
I hate them like so many of us
I should have been going to nephews for lunch tomorrow
Got a stinking cold so dare not go near the little ones
June E
Go for lunch and place a scarf around your nose and mouth
hi everyone its a good job we dont all take action on the information that passed to us isnt it or we wouldnt all be here . i believe we were left here for a reason perhaps to prove life does go on and that the strongest survive …everything that we have all gone through no matter how traumatic has got to have made us stronger people and stronger as a group or we wouldnt still be here… how distressed would our husbands/wifes be to watch us roll over and give up x things will never be the same again but we could find some thing to make this world a more bearable place to be we have just got to go and look for it there are alot of people out there that are so poorly and in alot worse positions than we are in right now who know there is no tomorrow … we have all loved and lost someone very dear to us but some people never ever find that love what a horrible life to go through day in day out x so come on lets do this for our husbands /wives that we have lost and let them look down on us and be proud xxx take care everyone … take care everyone loads of love jo x
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Wise words,glad to have you back,loads of love Corinna xxx
Me too Sandra. Although my brother-in-law has a woman friend and they go on holiday together and shared a double bed when they stayed with me. I was shocked the first time I heard about it as I don’t like her much - she is an ex schoolteacher and shouts all the time so after 10 minutes my head is ringing. I can’t help but compare her to my lovely sister who died 11 years ago and who I miss very much. People are strange.
Love Jacqi xx
I never believed I could be so happy and friends tell me they are are jealous of the fantastic relationship Roy and I had.Thirty amazing years and yes you’re right some people never get anywhere close to what we’ve had.I know it makes the pain harder now they’re gone,but…and my sister read this for me at Roy’s funeral ‘Better to have loved and lost,than never to have loved at all’ Try to have a peaceful night everyone,much love Corinna xxx