I think I must get a dog!! My hip must get better before I consider walks.
I also don’t call people to be with me because I know I am very needy at the moment . But every so often I call a neighbor for a glass of wine or/for a walk. Also I do try to be a good friend. Have 2 friends which have been so loving and supportive going through difficult times so I do check on them to see how they are doing
One day we will find our heart less wooded and with more love in it.
Because all it matters is love
‘Concept of enjoyment up for scrutiny’ - that’s a good line and very apt YL. You do come up with some good phrases. I must confess to writing a few down. x
Hi Sadie So sorry about your hip. I must admit that I would be climbing the wall if I couldn’t get out so often, this is what has saved me. I am fortunate that I am doing the same things that Brian and I did. e.g. Keen walkers, and the allotments. I do go to the gym which Brian gave a go but was never really keen and I think always pleased when I went and he could get some peace and quiet. I have been doing some painting around the house and although I don’t feel the need for clubs and can’t cope with mass people around me I am considering volunteering at a National Heritage House just up the road from me. I would like to work in the gardens if at all possible. Still considering this though. I think we all have to move at our own pace and find what we can cope with. I have always been a person that has many ‘friends’ but not people that I spend all my time with. More good colleagues really. My husband was the same, so we have never relied on having people around or visiting people. Although we knew loads of people.non of which have bothered to get in touch since he died. I suppose they are waiting for me to make a move into some sort of normal life again. His family have totally forgotten me so this makes me feel no trust in people that we should be able to rely on. I can’t meet people for coffee as I don’t drink it and can’t stand the smell of it, Nor tea in fact only water which doesn’t make it easy if invited for coffee. Anyway off to the gym now after an early morning walk with dogs down to the seafront. I sleep at night because I am tired out. Take care Pat xxx
Hello Yorkshire lad
Hope you got off to a good start on your journey today powered by Yorkshire tea made by Yorkshire water .
I’m sure Malvern water is supposed to have healing and medicinal properties though isn’t ?
As regards enjoying your trip let’s swop entertainment for enjoyment
I am sure you will find stuff to interest and entertain you on your travels otherwise you wouldn’t be going on an adventure
The weather looks like it is going to be lovely this week so that is fortuitous
You can be like a travel writer this week and give us all a daily bulletin of how you are progressing on your journey …both in real terms and emotionally
We will look forward to that
Well I will anyway
So no further mention of the word enjoy
Good travels
Romy xxxxx
Yes YL I too will enjoy hearing about your travels and how you are getting on both with the emotional side and the travelling. I’m sure we will all be ‘tuning’ in for the next episode. Good luck and safe driving. Pat xxx
Yorkshire Lad, you have such a lovely way with words! You are a pioneer in more ways than one and I think you give us all hope. Have a safe journey and please share your experiences with us…I hope that you are echoing Frost’s words…that by taking a road less travelled it will make a real difference to your journey! Take carex
amelie’sgran I love your way with words too. So many times your words have inspired me and made me smile. Today is no exception :)…’road less travelled’. I like that thought a lot. Thank you x
Pattidot, I also don’t drink tea or coffe but I still meet people. I am lucky that I have 3 very good friends and their support has been wonderful, without them and my kids I am not sure what I would do
My hip flared up again and I am in agony! So fed up of feeling pain
Welcome to the non drinking of Tea and coffee club. Not many of us. I don’t drink alcohol either. Been asked many times if it’s a religious thing with me, but it isn’t. I never could stand the smell of coffee and can’t even go into a cafe if the smell of coffee is strong as I begin to feel sick. Tea I went off when young and never liked the taste of alcohol so I drank water from a young age and that was how it has stayed.
I meet up with people generally but not really bothered at the moment. We have get together’s with the allotment members, nice people but I can’t mingle with comfort yet. I find myself creeping to a quiet spot and then leaving quietly, just not ready. Yet this wasn’t always the case. Used to be involved with everything, organising, Fund raising and on the committee twice. One day I live in hope of finding myself again. I am there somewhere just a bit lost at the moment.
I feel for your painful hip. I have had back pain caused by a riding accident as well as my love of gymnastic’s and athletics. Never do we think that we will suffer so in later life. Two years ago I was in terrible pain and found it hard to walk which is purgatory for me with my love of walking and gardening. I struggled and became so fed up. My chiropractor, who is usually wonderful could do nothing. Was this it !!! Fortunately I persevered with exercise and it improved. Still get pain if I push my luck too much, that is why I don’t walk the distances I used to. Chiropractor recommended quality over quantity and he was right. Have you tried a chiropractor at all they really can work wonders. A few years ago I literally couldn’t move I was screaming with pain. Chiropractor had to come to me and he had me up and about straight away a miracle…
My dogs have been my saviour, their love has kept me going. I can trust them and know they will never let me down, unlike humans.
Take care
Hi Pat,
I can’t exist without coffee. I’ve brought my coffee machine and milk frother with me. I’m currently looking to see how to inject it to save time.
About fifteen months ago my knee was so bad I could only walk a hundred yards max. I think it deteriorated from just about OK to totally cream crackered as I cut back on exercising to look after Carolyn. I’ve worked really hard to get back to walking, and bit by bit it’s improved until I’m up to 12 miles. It’s that old adage… Use it or lose it in my case. I’m going for a walk soon in unfamiliar territory so I’ll find a route on the map. I actually played football at my grandson’s birthday party on Saturday. Still the best player on the pitch until my son fouled me. One of the things about regaining knee function is that it’s provided a focus, something to aim for and switch my thinking sometimes. Years ago I severely damaged my ankle ligaments and took to my bed. I was a smoker and not one of my family would go to the shop to get me cigarettes. Even bribes didn’t work. I’d tried to give up several times and this time I had to give up. Sometimes we can find side benefits that give a sense of balance. I try to find gratitude wherever possible and I’m so grateful I’ve got part of my life back.
Hi. I’ve just had such a lovely surprise. At Brighton’s last home game yesterday my Johns photo was put up on the big screen as a tribute. I didn’t know it was happening. I’ve phoned the club today and they are going to send me a copy of the video. What a lovely tribute xx
Hi there that was an incredibly kind gesture how lovely if bittersweet I hope you find somesome comfort in it and the evening is kinder to you and everyone else too take care Adele x
Thank you Adele. It will be bittersweet. I’m incredibly happy that, if not in body but in spirit he was there supporting his beloved club at their last game of the season. Xx
Pattidot, I have been going to an osteopath and also having sports massage. Also had a stronger pain killer the doctor prescribed ! I am just so fed up!
Ended up cancelling everything for today and tomorrow
Sadie x
Sadie I am so sorry, how frustrating for you. I think I would be climbing the wall. I hate this getting old (or should I say older to be kind) all sorts of aches and pains. I feel for you and hope that it won’t be too long before you feel better.
Pat xxxx