I am still in shock after losing my husband suddenly last summer
He was so full of life and full of plans
I don’t think I will ever get my head around it fully that you can be talking to someone one minute about their plans for the day and the next minute trying to turn them over to give them CPR because they have stopped breathing in front of you
I wish you all the luck in the world as you embark on this grief journey. It is the toughest thing I have ever experienced . People on here understand and are a great help when times are really hard
Love Romy xxxxx
Thinking of you daily too, Sheila. Love, strength and prayers for all of you xxx
Sheila…
…I am one of the new to this bereavement forum due to my longtime together partner passing away suddenly just 5 weeks ago at home in his armchair in between taking and collecting our dog from the pet groomers…Reading your post has saddened me as this is happening to someone so young, someone who has their whole life ahead of them…and more sad that both daughter and father are facing a similar ordeal… I send thoughts and prayers to both for a good recovery…as for grieving our loved one, I dont think anyone can put a timescale on it…however long our loved one has been gone, they will forever be inside our heart…
Jackie…
So sorry Sheila
Romy xxxxx
Hi I lost my husband eight months ago very suddenly at age of 43 I am still lost beyond anything he was my absolute world and I’ve been through anger depression and now acceptance. The one thing that keeps me going is his spirit the love we had was something I’ve never experienced and I’m sure god gave me that to realise what I had. Can you imagine not ever experience that type love I’m blessed x
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My thoughts and prayers are for this family and yourself. Doctors are always full of doom and gloom I don’t know why they have to be like this. It doesn’t bare thinking about what your daughter in laws mother is feeling. Please tell her that we are thinking of her and praying for her family.
God bless Pat xxx
on 10th feb 2019 my world caved in on me as my partner Jayne took her last breath as i held her handand told her i loved her.we had been together for 28 years,and lived together for the last 20 years.ive had bereavement counselling and have got 2 sessions left.im sure im going need more as im far from coping at the loss.all i want is to be with Jayne.my heart goes out to all of those who have lost a partner,its hard to understand how hard it is unless youve actually been through this devastating loss.ive had friends talk to me like its easy just move on.sorry but i cannot look to the future as all my happiness was with Jayne.
I am so sorry Ian about what you are going through after losing your lovely Jayne
Grief is the most painful experience and nobody understands until they experience it for themselves
It is not long since you lost Jayne
I lost my husband suddenly last summer
I don’t cry as much now as I did even a couple of weeks ago . I’ve had to accept that he’s not coming back
I do whatever comforts me and keeps me going . I work , look after my family and the animals we have and try to keep myself occupied as doing nothing makes me feel even worse but it is a hard slog and I miss my husband so much . We were together for 42 years and married 33 . We met as teenagers so have grown up together . He was fun , dynamic and always there for me
There is nothing I can say to make you feel better . It’s something you have to go through but please use the people on this forum to help you . I have especially when I have been so grief stricken that I haven’t known what to do with myself
It’s hard to think of the future . I just do one day at a time . That is enough for me at this stage . To think years ahead does not help
You will survive but your life will be different but hold on to the love that you shared and let that be your strength.
Sending hugs and understanding
Romy xxx
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Dear Jen
Thinking of you tonight and specially tomorrow. Xx
It is Tuesday 21st 6 months since my world changed for ever. I am reliving every month those 9 days from when he left and i hope it will get easier over time. But for us, it may be too soon. God will help you through the day.
Take care De xxx
Dear Rosa
Thank you. I have kept busy today - this morning was definitely the worst time. It is after the funeral I am dreading too - when everyone else gets back to normal - as I have no normal anymore. My husband too would not want me to be like this - but I feel so bad for him too - he loved life so much and feel he would want to be part of every conversation we are having.
I am grateful to you for your help and I hope you are coping day by day. It does not help thinking too much - I guess routine helps. This forum is so helpful - as you realise that everyone here is going through this awful process and you are not the only one. xx
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thank you Romy.
sadly my situation is complicated as me and Jayne wasnt married,Jayne was a very hard working lady,i had health issues and from 2006 i did everything at home and did all food shopping cooking etc,i was in essence the house wife[not that i think its womens work]ive found out since Jaynes passing that her mum and family thought very little of me and have given me nothing but hurtful remarks.im already reeling from the loss of Jayne.at present im in the house we shared for 20 years.but i dont know how much longer ive got.plus when jayne passed i was in the hospice holding her hand ,but her mum was on the other side of Jayne,when jayne passed i was more concerned with being with jayne when i died,so ann[jaynes mum did funeral] i found out 3 days before funeral which was on 11th march,that the father doing the service hadnt even been told that jayne had got a partner.luckily id made an appointment see him and he was a very nice man,it ended with me being mentioned and getting do a eulogy which he read at the service.plus my name was added at the bottom of the service booklet. so i wouldnt of been mentioned at all if id not found this out.ive had ann ring me asking why i didnt go with jayne to christies when she was having radio therapy after having a cancerous lunp removed. ,jayne didnt want me go she was driven there by her dad,jayne was off work for 5 months and i looked after her ,she didnt have to do anything i was happy to do what ever i could to make life as easy as possible.jayne was given the all clear 10th may 18 months after finishing the radio therapy.but this wasnt the case as on 23rd jan was admitted hospital was told we could sort it after a scan was taken,but 14 days later the same scan was looked at again to show her liver was infested,and nothing could be done,sorry for going on but im so angry at the mistakes made by a few doctors etc and the pain Jayne was put through.my heads not in a good place im constantly losing the thread of my conversation.all i know right now is i want to be with Jayne.lots of other issues like being lied to as regards being with jayne when i die and were jayne is going be put to rest.again sorry for my screwed up post.i hope you get all the help you need and your friends etc give you good support.again thank you,regards ian
Thank you De, as you will see, I am still awake. Suppose I’m a little wary of going to sleep, silly I know but just don’t feel the slightest bit tired. I do feel a sense of peace and calm though but how long g this will last, I don’t know
Blessings ☆
Jen☆
Thank you De, as you will see, I am still awake. Suppose I’m a little wary of going to sleep, silly I know but just don’t feel the slightest bit tired. I do feel a sense of peace and calm though but how long g this will last, I don’t know
Blessings ☆
Jen☆
Thank you De, as you will see, I am still awake. Suppose I’m a little wary of going to sleep, silly I know but just don’t feel the slightest bit tired. I do feel a sense of peace and calm though but how long g this will last, I don’t know
Blessings ☆
Jen☆
Dear Ian
I hope you managed to get a little sleep. How unkind people can be - I feel so sorry for your situation. My mother lost her partner - they were together for only a couple of years later life but were like teenagers. One of his daughters was horrible to her - accusing her of spending his savings amongst other things. But you know what you did for your Jayne and how much you loved her and how much she loved you. Try to hold on to that. People can be so selfish at times - and you may consider that they know how much you did and are tied up in their own guilty feelings. You don’t need them -they will only bring you down. I can understand your anger at the Doctors and we all feel anger for something at the moment. Sometimes just angry because we cant change this. I cry in the mornings as I miss him so much and I allow myself to think too much. Talking here helps me and I hope it will help you a little too.
Trisha x
Dear Ian- I am so sorry! Not only you lost your companion, your partner you have to deal with these very unpleasant people. There are a few people in this forum that also have the awful, unpleasant and unkind in laws.
This forum is very good. You can say what you want and it is ok and you will be understood
Grief is a long long and exhausting journey
Take care
Sadie x
Ian…
…I can understand as I am an outsider of my partners family although they all travelled for his funeral but, I am preparing myself that now it is over I shan’t be hearing much, if any from his family back home…
I was also left to arrange his funeral all by myself and having MS was not an easy task but, thankfully I had some support from the odd neighbours and more so support from the Disabled Society and the Age UK, also from a couple of loyal friends who helped lay on the after funeral food at the church hall,…they have been a Godsend in both helping me…Do please remember the people-societies that step forwards at your time in need, these people are few and far between…I also had a wonderful and helpful Funeral Director who was with me every step of the way…I will forever be thankful to these people, and I will say my thanks in due course…These are the important to you people…
Thank You Trisha
Jayne was the most loving caring person ,always putting others before herself,sadly thats not been passed down from her family.After one week was called by Ann to say if Jayne had done a will she would of left the house and pension to her and her husband,as it happens ive had to fill forms in sent by the pension company and its been over 10 weeks and its still with the trustees,im just hoping i get enough to sort out a grave for me and persuade jaynes parents let me have her ashes,[i wouldnt of had Jayne cremated but i didnt do the funeral] i want be able get a burial plot for myself but put Jayne in there first and me after once i die.nothing else really matters to me no amount of money can ease the pain im going through at the loss of my dream girl Jayne.i just hope and pray when i die i end up being with Jayne.
Thank You Sadie
seems money and property brings out the worst in some families,i expected get a little support to maybe ease my loss,not nastiness which made things harder to handle,cant say it made the loss any worse as i had already hit rock bottom,just as oppose a support network from jaynes family i got unwanted aggro.
Thank You jackie
i just wish id thought straight in the hospice as doing the funeral would of at least taken away my worries of not being with Jayne when i die.hope you and every body on here get support to help ease your pain a little.